My neighbour is asking me to “cough up!” So earlier this month I took the DC to the beach for the day. When I arrived home there was a letter from the next door neighbour (elderly lady, lives alone) saying that all the banging from my house had caused a picture to fall off the wall, and she expected a contribution to the cost of having it reframed. I promptly popped over to get more detail. She said that it had happened at around 9:30pm the evening before and claims that there was horrendous banging coming from my house, I explained that my 20yr old DS sleeps in the room adjoining her house and that he wasn’t home until gone 11:30pm and went straight to bed, therefore he couldn’t have been banging anything. The wall between the two houses is also solid brick so I can’t see how she would hear any noise that couldn’t be heard from inside my own house, let alone cause such a vibration that it caused a picture to fly off the wall. After I explained, I thought that was the matter dealt with. Anyway yesterday she knocked round telling me that my DS has a big bill coming his way, I asked what for? and she said about the picture. (No longer asking for a contribution, wants DS to foot the whole bill) I explained again that no one was in the room so we cannot be responsible for her picture falling, her response was “So you’re not going to cough up?” I stayed polite and sympathised that her picture was broken but firmly let her know we would not be paying anything. She’s now saying she’ll get her family involved, which is fine, I will explain the same to them (If no one was there how could they be banging!) We are new to a small village and I fear this could escalate quickly into us being the scum of the village. AIBU to think it’s unfair for us to take the blame?
AIBU?
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLLookItsMeAgain · 29/08/2022 07:58
@Endlesslypatient82 - I would disagree. I live in a semi-detached house and my next door neighbours cannot hear what goes on in my property and I cannot hear what goes on in theirs.
Strangely enough, my neighbours that I'm not attached to, are louder and I can hear them more.
Even so, if a picture in my house fell off the wall in my house, I wouldn't be approaching my neighbour (on either side) to cover the cost of reframing said picture. I would accept that I hadn't hung the picture properly or given it enough support to hang properly.
Willitwork999 · 29/08/2022 08:49
The bang she heard would be the sound of the picture landing after it fell from the wall due to the string or nail holding it failed.
Endlesslypatient82 · 29/08/2022 07:06
Op
please accept that 7 people living in a semi/terraced including toddlers, teens, young adult WILL be heard very regularly by your solo living neighbour. Doesn’t mean your children are disrespectful etc but unless you gag the toddlers and stop the teen from ever listening to music for example - she will hear you. And it is not unreasonable that she does occasionally.
However I reckon she did not tell you that she has “never” heard you. I’m sorry - i do think you are fibbing about that.
I am not criticising you!! I am just saying that ithis totally daft to say that 7 people from 3-adult wouldn’t be heard by your attached single neighbour!
Sunshinegirl82 · 25/08/2022 00:16
Maybe worth writing a polite letter back, confirming your original discussion (including the timings she mentioned! Together with your explanation that DS was at work etc) and following up on the recent conversation confirming you don't believe you are liable for anything/owe her anything. Never hurts to have a paper trail! Keep a copy for yourself.
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4or5 · 24/08/2022 23:57
I don’t know her well enough to know if dementia is starting… or whether her family have/will accept that as a possibility. Other neighbours have said she gets muddled sometimes so certainly a possibility in my view, plus she is now trying to change the time of the ‘picture falling incident’ obviously because DS can’t take the blame for original time frame!
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