Am I being unreasonable to think that my husband inviting two families to stay in our house the week of our daughter's wedding is a bit much? To put it mildly.
The two families consist of his niece + husband + 2 children, and his sister-in-law and their two children. And no, we don't have any spare bedrooms, so my husband said we will give one family our bedroom while we sleep wherever there's a couch, and the other family will take the front room with a sofabed. Any other time, fine - but it's the week of our daughter's wedding which will surely be chaotic just waiting for the bathroom in the morning with 11 people in the house! I want to bury myself in a hole somewhere and cry...
It's adding to my daughter's anxiety, who is already stressed out with wedding plans, and me, as mother of the bride, I'm having kittens!
Please let me know if I'm over-reacting...
AIBU?
Daughter getting married, husband invited 2 families to stay in our house
CakeFiend8 · 24/08/2022 14:16
Am I being unreasonable?
3082 votes. Final results.
POLLLovetoplan · 25/08/2022 20:31
This is crazy! Book them in to an AirBnB and everyone will be happier.
Isinglass20 · 26/08/2022 09:19
Southern Italian I guess. Husband totally dominated by his Mamma who will throw an volcano of a fit to find she can’t stay with her son, and can’t take over wedding arrangements. It’s a matriarchal society. Even if you move out to a hotel she’ll make it awkward. I divorced my Italian husband. I couldn’t take it any more.
pinkpantherpink · 26/08/2022 00:41
Suggest he rents an Airbnb for them. Foolish man. Did he forget how small your place is?
CakeFiend8 · 26/08/2022 15:47
Hi @theviewfrommywindow - he backed down a little and is looking for one of the families to stay somewhere else. Which means we still have one family of three (a sister-in-law and her two little children) staying in the house… Not ideal, but at least I won’t have to give up my bedroom, as that family can stay in the second lounge. I’ve told my husband that he will have to look after them/clean up etc, as I’ll be too busy with preparation.
We might still book a nice hotel for me and my daughter the night before the wedding, so we can have a relaxed dinner and sleep. The next day, I can either ask the hotel for a late check-out so we can do all the hair and makeup, or book a second night for her and her new hubby.
Thanks to everyone’s responses here on Mumsnet! ♥️ I was so upset about the whole thing, but reading other people’s thoughts helped me see clearly, and also to formulate a clear plan of action!
DifficultBloodyWoman · 24/08/2022 14:37
Book yourself a hotel now.
Stilloverwhelmed · 26/10/2022 15:01
Definitely this. DH can sleep on the sofa and look after his family at your house. You and DD look after yourselves in the comfort of a hotel.
DifficultBloodyWoman · 24/08/2022 14:37
Book yourself a hotel now.
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