Daughter getting married, husband invited 2 families to stay in our house

[CakeFiend8]

Am I being unreasonable to think that my husband inviting two families to stay in our house the week of our daughter's wedding is a bit much? To put it mildly.

The two families consist of his niece + husband + 2 children, and his sister-in-law and their two children. And no, we don't have any spare bedrooms, so my husband said we will give one family our bedroom while we sleep wherever there's a couch, and the other family will take the front room with a sofabed. Any other time, fine - but it's the week of our daughter's wedding which will surely be chaotic just waiting for the bathroom in the morning with 11 people in the house! I want to bury myself in a hole somewhere and cry...

It's adding to my daughter's anxiety, who is already stressed out with wedding plans, and me, as mother of the bride, I'm having kittens!

Please let me know if I'm over-reacting...

I'd book myself into a hotel!

It’s a shame they don’t have the common sense to know that it’s too much for you. Either they book into a hotel or you do. He can deal with his family while you stay at a nice hotel nearby

I would book into a hotel. Is the wedding reception in a hotel? Book in to stay the day before, of and after the wedding. At least that way your can have some space. You can play it off as needing to be at the hotel to sort stuff. Give the relatives a spare key and let them stay at yours. They'll probably be more comfortable with fewer people about.

Will he pay for a nice hotel for you and daughter to stay in before the wedding? Then he can deal with the house guests and you and your daughter can have a bit of a relax before the wedding

Great idea!

No way! I'd contact them myself using Google translate and tell them it is not possible to put up any visitors at all as you will be knee deep in wedding chaos. Then let him pick it up from there.
id not want to be in a hotel if so many were staying in my home - all the clearing up, laundry,m mess you will come back to 😱.
He must be clueless and massively insensitive.

Book yourself into the nearest hotel for the wedding.

That’s awful!!! I’d be furious in your shoes. Talk about ruining a special time for you and your DD!!

Surely they can find somewhere else to stay. it’s stressfull enough getting married - allow your daughter some space !

DH should have talked things over before just going ahead !
He can undo it.

I have to say, the afternoon and evening that me and my Mum spent together in a lovely hotel the day before my wedding are one of my most treasured memories. We got away from everything, had a lovely dinner. In the morning an slap up breakfast that we didn't have to cook, before people started to arrive and we got ready in the luxury of our room. Dad arrived with my brother and sister, we all had champers before the ceremony. It was brilliant.

You are definitely not being unreasonable- he has been an absolute plonker - the invitations have to be withdrawn by him ASAP.

use Google translate, and send both families a message that ‘D’H has not thought this through, that it simply will not work and here is a link to several local hotels /AirBnB’s that may help.

Failing that, you and your daughter decamp to a hotel for a week prior to the wedding and have a relaxed, delightful pre-wedding break and relaxed preparation, leaving the family hell firmly in your wake.

Not had time or chance to RTFT:

tell your husband they are NOT staying at the house, and if he refuses to cancel the offer, that you will find a hotel for them which HE will pay for. It’s not your problem to solve. or, you will stay at a hotel that he will also pay for.
absolute idiocy of him.

This!!

I can’t believe how many are saying book a hotel. No way would I want to be anywhere but home with my daughter the night before her wedding.
I am the most easy going person usually but this would be my hill I’d die on.
Your husband is being so selfish it’s unbelievable. How little does he think of his wife and daughter to have you giving up your bed and all the extra work involved with guests the week of her wedding.
Honestly I’d LTB over this.

Book yourself a hotel for the night before the wedding with your daughter (and husband if necessary)😆

He's being unreasonable

But so are they! Why would they invade you like that. I would never impose on anyone in this way

Compose an email
Use google translate

Send them links to nearby hotels. Travelodge etc

Book you and all the family but DH at a nearby Hotel. Take everything you could possibly need for you and the Bride with you to the hotel (as luxurious as possible) and tell him to make plans for the other families. Food and entertainment. Breathe deeply and enjoy your stay.

I think the Daily Mirror would like this one

Google translate isn't 100 percent.... the idea of hotel for you and DD sounds ideal. Men don't always listen, I'd let him host and he'll learn his lesson. Better to enjoy yourself while the man realises his mistake. It's fun to watch them squirm. Honestly you'll have a story to tell your grandchildren 😂😂

Hell would freeze over before I stayed in a hotel . Even without a wedding, inviting so many people to stay is bloody ridiculous.
There must be someone on here that can concoct an email in Italian for you to send.

Is he still alive because mine would be under the patio If necessary hire a translator to tell them it's not happening !

Leave them to stay with your DH to interpret and book you and your DD into a nice local (prefereably Spa) hotel for 2 nights before the wedding and pamper yourselves - you can all meet up for supper but the getting ready for a wedding ritual can be done in peace and comfort. If DH wants to join you he can, but I’d push for girl time mother and daughter only.