Daughter getting married, husband invited 2 families to stay in our house

[CakeFiend8]

Am I being unreasonable to think that my husband inviting two families to stay in our house the week of our daughter's wedding is a bit much? To put it mildly.

The two families consist of his niece + husband + 2 children, and his sister-in-law and their two children. And no, we don't have any spare bedrooms, so my husband said we will give one family our bedroom while we sleep wherever there's a couch, and the other family will take the front room with a sofabed. Any other time, fine - but it's the week of our daughter's wedding which will surely be chaotic just waiting for the bathroom in the morning with 11 people in the house! I want to bury myself in a hole somewhere and cry...

It's adding to my daughter's anxiety, who is already stressed out with wedding plans, and me, as mother of the bride, I'm having kittens!

Please let me know if I'm over-reacting...

Can you and your daughter not book a hotel and leave your DH to the relatives

He's probably just terrified of the blowback from his relatives if he doesn't provide free lodging. So let him, and he can pay for your Airb&b or hotel.

What was your DH thinking??? Don't feel sneaky going behind his back, he didn't check with you first. He has the choice of putting his family members in a hotel, or paying for you to stay in a hotel with DD.

Google translate gives "Mi dispiace, non puoi venire a restare" as Italian for "Sorry, you can't come to stay"

Are the family members coming for the wedding? If not, I have no idea why he would even contemplate this. If they are coming for the wedding, he should have discussed this with you. How does he expect you to cope if you are sleeping on the sofa? I can hardly imagine what your DD is going through...

Google Translate… here we go.

Madre della spousa - ‘Mother of the Bride’, so far so good.

Lei che deve essere obbedita - ‘She who must be obeyed’.

Mio marito ha commesso un grave errore - my Husband has made a big mistake.

Non puoi stare qui, devi trovare un hotel.

Mio marito è una testa di cazzo, dormirà nel canile.

Perché siete tutti italiani adorabili, sono sicuro che capirete.

This is crazy! Book them in to an AirBnB and everyone will be happier.

Anyone can help out with Italian ?

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Get yourself and daughter booked in a hotel near the venue and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy. Hubby can attend to his family!

I've been thinking this the min I started reading this post yesterday.

I don't imagine for one minute that this is the first example of truly disgusting behaviour from your "D"H ??

No way! You need to have your own space at such an important time. Not to mention having easy access to the bathroom to get ready. Stupidity on your husband's part thinking this is acceptable.

THIS!

Hard agree with @DifficultBloodyWoman . Book a hotel on DH's credit card.

Sorry, pressed 'post' too soon. THIS!

Nooo definitely don't send UniversalAunt's! Funny but very rude.

I hate to say men are stupid, but...
What was he thinking????

I'm sure the families would be horrified to think that you are being pushed out of your own beds at such a busy time. They would probably feel really uncomfortable when they arrive & find out what your husband has done.
I hope your dh sees sense, otherwise enjoy your fancy hotel/Airbnb with your daughter. Good luck

I’m really curious if the relatives know the cramped conditions they are going to find. Are they aware people will be sleeping on the floor and that the bathroom rota even on non-wedding days will be a nightmare?

I find it hard to get worked up over stuff like this, especially weddings, what's happening for a whole week before the wedding that means people can't stay? Is there a week of pre wedding celebrations?

To me the pressing problem is lack of space and that's why hotel or similar would be better. If he won't ask them to stay elsewhere, I'd take myself and go elsewhere for the week.

Where will you be sleeping if they stay at yours?

.Having my inlaws staying in our home both pre and after our wedding completely ruined our wedding, they expected to sleep in our bed and left sheets for us to wash when we returned, meant we sat on floor in my rented house and cried after our wedding rather than go home to what would've been our first night in marital home. Because my husband felt he should host them. I offered to book and pay for a hotel in the area with other family members staying there. But that was making them unwelcome!!!

Book into a hotel for you and daughter he’s being unreasonable

Has your daughter not told him, there is no room and she is really stressed to have people staying for her special day.

I was going to say the same as @TheFormidableMrsC If he won't budge and is being stubborn leave him to host them whilst you check in at a hotel. I mean, what the hell was he thinking!! He needs to undo this mess

Suggest he rents an Airbnb for them. Foolish man. Did he forget how small your place is?

Not over reacting even a tiny bit. You and your daughter want to feel special and relaxed on such a wonderful precious occasion.

I find it hard to get worked up over stuff like this, especially weddings, what's happening for a whole week before the wedding that means people can't stay? Is there a week of pre wedding celebrations?

More like a week of pre wedding prep. Perhaps you're not married or had a very small wedding but in my experience there's a lot to do in the week before plus it can be quite stressy. I really wouldn't have wanted a houseful and to have to sleep on the floor.

Book an AirBnB for the Italian guests.

Do not bump your Dd out of her home for her wedding.

Do not now make DH’s fuck up a problem and embarrassment for the Italian family.