Don’t want to move in with MIL!

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hi all I need so ideas on what to do -

situation is we’ve sold our home and are exchanging in 10 days. We will have 3 weeks exactly from date of exchange to moving into our new home.

I stupidly left it to husband to deal with and he kept assuring me it’s all being dealt with but now I find out he hasn’t found anything! His plan is to move with his mum as he doesn’t want to “waste” the money. I do not get along with her and 3 weeks feels like hell.

what are my options? He is saying 3 weeks but could well be longer as date has only been discussed and nothing signed. DH keeps reminding me that it’s his money and as I’m a SAHM at present it’s his decision.

I looked at air bnb but it’s ridiculous prices. Estate agents require minimum 6 months.

please give me some ideas!

My parents went through this same thing. They went to 'visit' the inlaws Dad's home country for a month and stayed for nearly a year, until Mum, who is English and couldn't speak the language, was thrown out into the street with us kids, while Dad was visiting relatives with my grandad for a couple of weeks. During that time my brother (who was a baby) got infant diarrhoea and nearly died, because MIL refused to let him see a Dr or get him medicine. Mum convinced Dad's sister to get medicine for him, then had a fight with MIL. Dad came back from his visit to find his family had disappeared. That woke him up to cut the apron strings.
However, there were problems, always, from Dad's entitled toxic cultural attitudes (he never picked up after himself, or tidied, or cleaned, was manipulative and deceptive, couldn't manage money and was chronically unfaithful) and Mum would have been better off just leaving him.

Oh op I feel your pain! We did this for 5 weeks in 2005 when we exchanged on our gkat before exchanging on our current house. It wasn't fun! I have no real advice to offer just maybe take advantage of some free babysitting if you can? I went out a lot with my DD who was 1.5 at the time. DH was in Bristol for work one week too🙄 so that was even more fun. I found it very hard but it did pass quickly etc. My DD enjoyed being there at least & they looked after her on moving in day (DH was at work so I did it solo 🤷‍♀️🙄). Good luck - you'll get through this x

*flat, sorry!

Why can't you delay completion on yours and really push your onward purchase?
Three weeks is nothing for your buyer to wait and absolutely not unreasonable for them to you to want to tie in sale and purchase.
If they can go back a fortnight and you can manage to push your completion forward a week, then that's nothing for them to wait.

Erm.. I think your MIL is the least of your problems.

Your husband thinking it's his money, because you are looking after his child and therefore not working, is the issue here. And that in his head, your status means you have no right to any decision-making...
I'd be livid.

I don't think I'd be making any move with this man. I'd be sussing out just how much of a b*stard he is, and seriously looking at whether I need to get out of the relationship.

Erm...when you sell the house, whose account does any equity get deposited into? Is he going to think that's all his money too? If you leave, will he keep it?
Joint house, joint money, joint decisions. You are married and have kids.

Go and have nice holiday abroad with kids for 3 weeks.

If you move in with your MIL now, you'll never move out again. I bet there is no new house being bought.

Yes, a holiday back in your country and never agree to return.

Are you in your home country op. If not maybe find a way to flee home.
Or escape home.

General opinion is a no, I'd agree especially as it seems MIL is controlling. Good luck