so I honestly don’t know if I was a bit too touchy about this and should’ve just smiled and moved on-
Random man leaned into my face and said “he looks like he’s smoking a cigarette, look how he’s holding that crisp”
it completely rubbed me up the wrong way and I said “thanks for that random man in the supermarket, that’s exactly the kind of comment a mum on her own in the supermarket needs to hear.”
he responded “don’t be stupid it was only a joke’
to which I said “you don’t know what might be on someone’s mind when you make comments like that” and he tutted and said
”really it’s a joke, so ridiculous” and walked off.
I felt so uncomfortable, people were staring and I thought maybe that was a step too far and I should’ve just let it go.
I lost two parents to cancer and one of the anniversaries is in two days. Today is the anniversary of me getting the call out of the blue at work that said “it’s cancer and he’s dying so get down here (300 miles away)” when my dad had just felt unwell on holiday and gone to the walk-in. So maybe I’m too touchy.
So, thank AIBU or was this random man really in need of my response?
AIBU?
About the random man who commented on my baby in the supermarket?
Pbbananabagel · 22/08/2022 17:12
Keepingupappearance · 22/08/2022 17:20
God this thread just shows how indoctrinated women are o
to have to put with shit and Be Nice to dock head men.
he would never have said this to a man.
he’s a dickhead.
who gives a fuck if you overreacted
Tandora · 22/08/2022 17:28
I get your point, but also he wasn’t making a sexist comment. He was just a random person, talking to another random person. I don’t think it’s fair to assume that male entitlement had anything to do with it. All sorts of random people talk to me when I am out with my baby- mostly older women.
Keepingupappearance · 22/08/2022 17:20
God this thread just shows how indoctrinated women are o
to have to put with shit and Be Nice to dock head men.
he would never have said this to a man.
he’s a dickhead.
who gives a fuck if you overreacted
NicolaSixSix · 22/08/2022 17:28
Why is a random man, a stranger, making an unsolicited comment about your baby? Why are you supposed to put up with it quietly, like a good little submissive girl? As someone said if you were a 6ft man this rando would not have approached you and chatted BS about your baby’s appearance.
you people crack me up, telling women to go all meek accepting rando’s telling them this or that about their baby. Grow a backbone
jewishmum · 22/08/2022 17:36
He thought your baby looked cute and funny and wanted to share his joy in seeing your baby with you. You were BU.
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