To be upset with DP because he didn't order me a pizza?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I weren't planning to see each other this weekend as we just spent a week together and he left to go home earlier this week, so we were going to see each other next weekend.

However, DP arranged a night out with his friends to watch the boxing match (his friends live close to where I live so they often go out in a town that's a lot closer to my house than his own) and subsequently realised that the trains were striking. He said he could get out to the town he was meeting his mates in by bus, but asked me if he could crash at mine tonight after the night out, as my house is in walking distance from the town whereas to get back to his own house without a train would take ages.

I agreed to him staying here. We talked on the phone before he went out and he said he was planning on getting a takeaway pizza on way home. I said I really fancied a pizza and he said he would get me one too. I told him what I wanted and asked him to get potato wedges, garlic dip etc...I was really looking forward to it. I thought it would be really nice when he arrived for us to have pizza together and chill out. I didn't eat much all evening, in expectation of the pizza.

Anyway, at about 11:30 I felt quite tired so laid down, and actually ended up falling asleep. I was woken up at 3am when DP arrived back from night out. He came in and didn't have any pizza with him so I said 'where's the pizza?' He said 'oh, well I've ordered myself one, its on its way.' I said 'what about mine?' He said 'well I called you to see if you were awake and you didn't answer so I assumed you were asleep and didn't get you one.'

I'm actually really pissed off. It was a firm agreement that he was bringing back pizza for both of us, he knew I was excited about it, I had given him my order of what I wanted...even though I was asleep and didn't answer, AIBU to expect him get me a pizza anyway, thinking I probably would wake up, be hungry and want the pizza I was promised, like I have done!? Or am I being pathetic to be so pissed off with him?

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!

I'm trying to see why OP is upset, whether this is a pattern of behaviour or a one-off.

If I asked DH for a pizza, he would just buy it, however late it was. He wouldn't call and ask again. I'm not saying this should be the norm.

I'm also with him on this one. He did call to check if you still wanted pizza but you were alseep. It is considerate that he didn't want to keep you awake. However, I would not have allowed a bunch of men (his friends) to walk in and stay in the middle of the night. Unless I knew them very well. Your home is your palace and should not be treated as a hotel.

@KellyJ28 when did that happen? Can't see it mentioned!

DH would have ordered my usual pizza so I could have it later that day. It’s an unwritten rule we always have pizza together.

What is up with all the people responding to this? They are as bad and as selfish as he is! For goodness sake, get rid of this selfish thoughtless idiot! You can do better, I am sure.

💯 unreasonable…but also exactly how I would have reacted lol

I would be seriously annoyed at that but it would have probably gotten to 8pm and I would then have put a Deliveroo order in.

I get you are annoyed but he was also probably a bit ticking after beers and boxing so give him a bit of slack.

Haha me too! Totally unreasonable 🤣

He probably thought as it was so late that you wouldn’t want to eat anything. I certainly wouldn’t want to eat anything at 3 am!

Chill out! Who eats pizza at 3:30am

Id be annoyed if somebody bought me a pizza in the dead of night when I couldn't enjoy it

I wouldn't be very happy about my OH bringing home a pizza at 3am.
Who wants to wake in the middle of the night and eat pizza? It's bonkers.
He knew you were asleep and made a sensible decision.

I think some posters are reasoning that they wouldn't want pizza at 3 am so he wasn't BU.
My thinking is, no, I wouldn't either BUT they'd had a discussion, OP had told her DP exactly what she wanted (so he didn't need to check again) and he let her down.

I'd have been fuming too. Plus, her DP doesn't seem to know her very well as she was obviously wanting a cosy couple of hours with him, regardless of at what time that happened, and he didn't consider her at all. Had he got her food and she didn't want it, not the end of the world, it can be eaten another time. NOT got her food when she did want it is inconsiderate and risks upsetting her. I know which option I'd have chosen here.

Plus yes a lot of people wouldn't want to wake up and eat pizza-that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. And if I hadn't eaten much for much of the day and was feeling famished, I'd not care that it was 3am! I think he was very inconsiderate OP.

God, the number of times I tore into my husband for calling me at 3am to see if I wanted pizza...

... And the one time he brought pizza back into bed and I lay there with my eye mask on and he fed me slices.

I wonder what it will be next? 😂

OP I was one of the people who posted about your eating disorder of which I was wrong to do so as you are obviously not the poster who I though you were.

The only reason I did mention what I thought was your ED was because some of the replies were quite harsh and obviously an ED would have made much more sense and posters would have been more sympathetic.

I used to suffer from an ED and I would not have used it as a way to be horrible.

I apologise for getting you confused with someone else and saying you have an ED when you don’t.

Did he even apologise op? If that were me (it wouldn't be!) I'd have been mortified and apologised immediately and then got straight on to ordering you a pizza(or donating you mine if I could)!

I would be peed off but wouldn't want to be woken up at 3am to eat pizza. Think I would just have a slice of toast or crumpets.

Times are tough he wouldn't have wanted to get you food that might go to waste..He could have asked for his meat toppings seperate so you could share and got a side order of chips.

You should of ordered your own pizza from just eat, deliveroo etc... earlier and got what you wanted yourself. Why are you giving him jobs to do when he's on a night out with his friends, I would let him enjoy his night out and his pizza.
I wouldn't be wanting to eat pizza at 3am in the morning.

How romantic😂😂😂

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If he really loves you he would have ordered you one too in case you want when you wake up…

So, he thought you were asleep? Didn't he think you'd be hungry when you woke up?
Pizzas can be reheated. Relationships, I'm not so such.

Not so SURE.

He rang to check if you still wanted pizza as it was so late & most people I think wouldn’t wNt to eat pizza at 3am? I don’t think he was that unreasonable really!