To be upset with DP because he didn't order me a pizza?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I weren't planning to see each other this weekend as we just spent a week together and he left to go home earlier this week, so we were going to see each other next weekend.

However, DP arranged a night out with his friends to watch the boxing match (his friends live close to where I live so they often go out in a town that's a lot closer to my house than his own) and subsequently realised that the trains were striking. He said he could get out to the town he was meeting his mates in by bus, but asked me if he could crash at mine tonight after the night out, as my house is in walking distance from the town whereas to get back to his own house without a train would take ages.

I agreed to him staying here. We talked on the phone before he went out and he said he was planning on getting a takeaway pizza on way home. I said I really fancied a pizza and he said he would get me one too. I told him what I wanted and asked him to get potato wedges, garlic dip etc...I was really looking forward to it. I thought it would be really nice when he arrived for us to have pizza together and chill out. I didn't eat much all evening, in expectation of the pizza.

Anyway, at about 11:30 I felt quite tired so laid down, and actually ended up falling asleep. I was woken up at 3am when DP arrived back from night out. He came in and didn't have any pizza with him so I said 'where's the pizza?' He said 'oh, well I've ordered myself one, its on its way.' I said 'what about mine?' He said 'well I called you to see if you were awake and you didn't answer so I assumed you were asleep and didn't get you one.'

I'm actually really pissed off. It was a firm agreement that he was bringing back pizza for both of us, he knew I was excited about it, I had given him my order of what I wanted...even though I was asleep and didn't answer, AIBU to expect him get me a pizza anyway, thinking I probably would wake up, be hungry and want the pizza I was promised, like I have done!? Or am I being pathetic to be so pissed off with him?

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!

I got my partner to read this out in front of my family. My brother and I wouldn't have let him in the door and would have told him to get a taxi up the road because he wouldn't be staying if he was that ignorant. My partner, brother's partner and my mum all said he was the a*hole too. My partner said she would throw washing up liquid on his pizza.

Dump him.

Lovely family you have. 🤭

You would throw someone out at 3am because they didn't bring you pizza in the wee hours of the morning? (Even though you were asleep and didn't answer the phone when called to confirm your request?)

WTAF?

YABU and weird. I’d never wait until 3am to eat my evening meal because my partner was on a night out. Part of me wonders whether this was a weird power play because he had a night out and you weren’t involved. And now it’s caused an argument.
just have your dinner at a normal time, go to bed and let him have a night out.

looking at your other posts, you over react at little things.

this isn’t about pizza.

Why did you need your partner to read it?

Upset about cake too www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4496553-To-be-annoyed-about-cake

ClearestBlue that thread has no relevance at all to this pizza situation and it’s really poor form to trawl someone’s old posts just to find stuff to mock them with.

I could too but it’s not how I usually eat. It’s just weird to assume she’d be harfing down everything in one go…. in my opinion

Nobody said that. My point is that most can enjoy a 3 am pizza without harfing it all down. AND? It’s cool if she would.

it’s just the assumption that wanting a pizza and sides means she will gorge. That just the want of it means all these things because it doesn’t. I can look forward to pizza at 3 am and still Hoover everything. Hope that helps.

Why are you trawling her threads?! Weird.

I agree that’s weird!!!

If there is a straight weirdo I might take the time but not for this. She was promised pizza and it did not arrive. I’d be disappointed as well regardless of the hour or how drama rift my life was.

DH and I would have communicated about this during the eve and he would have known if I was going to sleep and still wanted pizza. Text messages do exist.

Nope, not weird. I simply remembered the drama from before.

Always a victim.

Does he resent buying you things? Do you cook / feed him more than he does for you, OP?

He phoned to check if she was awake and still wanted it! How is that resentful?

Yes we are and we'd never be so inconsiderate as to ask someone for a favour tell them we were getting them something and then not bother.

No, don't be silly, I wouldn't throw them out. I wouldn't have let them in to begin with.

If he can't be bothered living up to his agreements then he can walk home.

She actually had a mumsnet account and reads it regularly, this is my first time on the site. That's why.

I would have done the same as your DP to be honest. Who buys takeaway pizza specifically to eat cold the next day? Sure, you I'd eat leftover takeaway pizza the next day but I wouldn't expect someone to buy me a takeaway for that purpose.

A whole pizza and wedges for dinner is a lot of food - I couldn't manage it. I'd manage even less at lunchtime.

This has to be the weirdest reaction I have possibly read on here and that says something 😂😂😂😂

I must have been very lucky, because it was only about 6 weeks ago I posted a thread where I ordered a 24" pizza... for just me. So big it didn't fit through the front door.

Granted, I did not state my intention to eat the lot in one go (and I didn't). But I'm pretty sure I didn't get a single poster calling me greedy or whatever.

I think it depends which direction the wind is blowing or something equally random that causes threads to go one way or the other...

Seriously first world problems here.

grow up.

I would be really annoyed butvhe did try to ring you......