To be upset with DP because he didn't order me a pizza?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I weren't planning to see each other this weekend as we just spent a week together and he left to go home earlier this week, so we were going to see each other next weekend.

However, DP arranged a night out with his friends to watch the boxing match (his friends live close to where I live so they often go out in a town that's a lot closer to my house than his own) and subsequently realised that the trains were striking. He said he could get out to the town he was meeting his mates in by bus, but asked me if he could crash at mine tonight after the night out, as my house is in walking distance from the town whereas to get back to his own house without a train would take ages.

I agreed to him staying here. We talked on the phone before he went out and he said he was planning on getting a takeaway pizza on way home. I said I really fancied a pizza and he said he would get me one too. I told him what I wanted and asked him to get potato wedges, garlic dip etc...I was really looking forward to it. I thought it would be really nice when he arrived for us to have pizza together and chill out. I didn't eat much all evening, in expectation of the pizza.

Anyway, at about 11:30 I felt quite tired so laid down, and actually ended up falling asleep. I was woken up at 3am when DP arrived back from night out. He came in and didn't have any pizza with him so I said 'where's the pizza?' He said 'oh, well I've ordered myself one, its on its way.' I said 'what about mine?' He said 'well I called you to see if you were awake and you didn't answer so I assumed you were asleep and didn't get you one.'

I'm actually really pissed off. It was a firm agreement that he was bringing back pizza for both of us, he knew I was excited about it, I had given him my order of what I wanted...even though I was asleep and didn't answer, AIBU to expect him get me a pizza anyway, thinking I probably would wake up, be hungry and want the pizza I was promised, like I have done!? Or am I being pathetic to be so pissed off with him?

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!

Were you expecting him back that late?

Why didn’t he just order more pizza once he was back? Did you say not to bother because you were pissed off or something?

I can understand his logic. I think you’re just really disappointed about the pizza and it’s making you feel angry at him lol. (I can imagine being similarly gutted 😁 )

If my DP woke me at 3am to eat pizza, I’d shit stamp on his pizza when it arrived. Unless you’ve had an absolute skin full, why would you eat at that time? Ridiculous!

OP hadn't hardly eaten because she knew she was getting pizza later.

@IAteTheLastOne

If my DP woke me at 3am to eat pizza, I’d shit stamp on his pizza

Would ye aye

Fucking hell grow up, he explained he phoned you; you didn’t answer so he thought you’d gone to bed so no need to buy you a pizza; what stopped you phoning & ordering a sodding pizza; he’s been out on the piss all night be grateful he made it home.
such a pointless post ffs

Weird, who wants pizza at 3am!

Maybe you don't have enough self respect.

If he makes promises and doesn't follow through it's better to find someone else rather than waste time on a guy that doesn't care about her. He's using her for a place to stay.

If he did that to me he'd be shown the door and he'd never make that "mistake" again. Good riddance.

Your relationship sounds pretty weird to me. And you sound annoying. Presumably if he's on a boys' night out, he's not going to be back early? So why count on it as supper, and not eat anything else? And I really can't imagine working myself up into a frenzy about a pizza, or lack thereof at 3 am. He was only crashing at yours, after returning at 3 am, and obviously hadn't planned the romantic night in over pizza that you had. Get a grip.

I don't actually understand all of the YABU frothing here. If someone were saving me the hassle of trying to get home during a strike action, I'd just buy them whatever they wanted, and probably a pudding on top. No, I wouldn't wake them up at 3am to eat it, but if they asked for it specially and even said they were looking forward to it, of course I would do it. Pizza reheats well, and it'd be the least I could do to show gratitude.

(And in case I get accused of having an eating disorder, I actually hate eating late at night much less 3am, I don't sleep well if I do. I'm focusing on the agreed purchase rather than the times involved here)

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Is the self respect post still about the pizza?

It's a bit of a weird one. I can see why he thought you wouldn't want a pizza at that time if you were asleep and I can see why you would have wanted him to follow through with what you planned. Surely the key here is communication. Everyone has mobiles. When you felt tired a quick text to ask him if he's coming soon and if he says no, say can you get my pizza and I'll eat it tomorrow. Easy 🤷🏻‍♀️ (Apologies if I've missed something in the thread, like you tried to call and he didn't answer, as I did skim read)

Hmm it is just pizza. I wouldn't want to be eating pizza at 3am in morning I'd rather be in bed asleep. I agree it was a little careless of him but maybe you could have shared his instead of a pizza each, better than nothing. Easy to get annoyed though.

Yes, I don't get why you would accept this kind of behaviour, he could have phoned her a pizza earlier then staggered in drunk later on.

I worked as a delivery driver, after people say they want something we don't call back and ask if they still want it. It just gets sent to them.

If you tolerate being treated like that they obviously aren't taking you seriously as a person and will treat you that way more frequently. Get rid of them unless you want to be a doormat.

He should have still bought it for a next day meal, in case you were asleep. He was rude and inconsiderate!

Utterly bizarre reaction.

Who would want congealed pizza for breakfast that had arrived at 3am the night before

Just very odd that you didn’t eat properly the night before. The fight started at 10.30. You were never going to sit and eat supper together.

LTB.

He rang to check. It seems a reasonable assumption to me that you wouldn't want to be woken up to eat a pizza at nearly 4am?

To be honest you lost me at being excited over having a pizza with your partner. I couldn't be getting excited about that. Would you really have wanted one at 3am and were you really hungry?? I just couldn't get pissed off about this.

DP should LTB

Thank you Peashoots. I’ve been reading all the replies on the thread waiting to see if anyone suggested something like this.
I get the sense that this is less to do with the pizza (or lack of it) and more to do with the fact that the OP was making sure that her DP returned with a pizza to spend time with her. She even mentioned in a previous post that she thought he might be back at around midnight? He would’ve had to cut short his night out.
It reads like the OP wasn’t pleased about her home being used as a place to crash (which is fair enough) and the pizza was a bit of a power play.
Apologies OP if I am way off the mark.

I’m sorry but who eats anything at 11.30? Or 3am? The energy you save by sleeping is being used to digest your food. I’d be exhausted the next morning. Sorry virtue Signalling I know but it doesn’t make any sense to be at all 😝🙄😝

You want pizza at 3am and the place is still open. Then order a pizza. What is the issue here?

Not read all the replies.
Yes, you shouldn't have fallen asleep knowing pizza was on its way.
BUT you had placed your order, he knew you really fancied it as you'd said so, so he should have ordered you one!
What did he need to ring you again for to clarify?; You already said you wanted one!
Even if you had sparked out for the night, that's your breakfast sorted for the morning 😁
I'd have been pissed off too so have voted YABU
I'd have been tempted to make him go eat it outside 😁

Have voted YANBU that should read!!