To be upset with DP because he didn't order me a pizza?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I weren't planning to see each other this weekend as we just spent a week together and he left to go home earlier this week, so we were going to see each other next weekend.

However, DP arranged a night out with his friends to watch the boxing match (his friends live close to where I live so they often go out in a town that's a lot closer to my house than his own) and subsequently realised that the trains were striking. He said he could get out to the town he was meeting his mates in by bus, but asked me if he could crash at mine tonight after the night out, as my house is in walking distance from the town whereas to get back to his own house without a train would take ages.

I agreed to him staying here. We talked on the phone before he went out and he said he was planning on getting a takeaway pizza on way home. I said I really fancied a pizza and he said he would get me one too. I told him what I wanted and asked him to get potato wedges, garlic dip etc...I was really looking forward to it. I thought it would be really nice when he arrived for us to have pizza together and chill out. I didn't eat much all evening, in expectation of the pizza.

Anyway, at about 11:30 I felt quite tired so laid down, and actually ended up falling asleep. I was woken up at 3am when DP arrived back from night out. He came in and didn't have any pizza with him so I said 'where's the pizza?' He said 'oh, well I've ordered myself one, its on its way.' I said 'what about mine?' He said 'well I called you to see if you were awake and you didn't answer so I assumed you were asleep and didn't get you one.'

I'm actually really pissed off. It was a firm agreement that he was bringing back pizza for both of us, he knew I was excited about it, I had given him my order of what I wanted...even though I was asleep and didn't answer, AIBU to expect him get me a pizza anyway, thinking I probably would wake up, be hungry and want the pizza I was promised, like I have done!? Or am I being pathetic to be so pissed off with him?

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!

I would be really annoyed too. In fact I would be a little annoyed if DH didn't ask me and came back with just food from him. A firm request for food though is different.

I can see why he checked though as it was late but pizza can be reheated so if you were asleep then you could have had it the next day.

I can't say I'd particularly want to be woken up at 3am for a Domino's and I think he made a reasonable assumption that you wouldn't want that either.

But you'd agreed to pizza so...stop sulking and go and eat some of his?

I wouldn't have waited until 11.30pm for pizza and I certainly wouldn't be expecting to eat pizza at 3am.

However, f he didn't offer to share nicely, he's not a good bloke. Also, why couldn't he call back and get more? Share the first one, then see how you feel when the second arrives?

Also, why couldn't he call back and get more?

Yes, this too. He could have fixed it quite easily.

I am kind of with him on this one. With it being so late he may have thought you had eaten and when he couldn't get hold of you, assumed you were correctly asleep, and didn't order in case you didn't want it.

He could have at least ordered another for you or shared his as a nice gesture.

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!
This is insane – why aren’t you downstairs sharing the pizza? He promised you pizza, he’s ordered pizza, it’s there…

Personally I wouldn’t want to starve myself all evening then eat pizza at 3am but if you were happy to do that, yes it’s annoying he didn’t follow through.

I can't share his because I'm a vegetarian and he has got himself a pepperoni

I think your being unreasonable. I would plan to bring pizza back for my partner but if he fell asleep I wouldn't bother. Why on earth would I wake him up for pizza at 3am, I don't think it's a crazy thing for your partner to do on this occasion

Why didn't you just order your own pizza when he said he hadn't ordered you one?

Unless you are very unusual in your habits and he knows this, I think you're being quite unreasonable. Who on earth wants to be woken to eat a pizza at 3am? He did think of you as he called you, but when he couldn't get through he then sensibly thought, no she'll be asleep, she won't still want a pizza.

I would have done the same as your DP tbh...

Who wants to be woken up at 3am to eat pizza, and a would have assumed you'd have eaten by 3am so might not be hungry?

Maybe I would have got a margarita though in case you wanted a slice.

I think YABU to be annoyed at him

I wouldn't want to be woken at 3am, but I would appreciate having pizza available the next day, but then H knows I like leftover pizza for breakfast.

i find it weirder that you were waiting up until that time to eat tbh!!

If I’d have been you and fancied a pizza after the chat with DP I’d have ordered one myself while he was out and enjoyed it in peace rather than waking up for 3am pizza 🤷🏻‍♀️

You're a fruit loop.
He was on a night out and crashing at yours.
I can't imagine going out and DH putting in food orders for me at 3am!
He rang and checked. You were asleep.
I'd not be ordering a banquet for someone at 3am.

Basically this. I’d think my husband had lost his marbles if he decided to come and wake me with a bloody pizza at 3am 😂

Just kick him out and make get back to his:

At 3am I'd assume you were asleep for the night and didn't want to be woken up to eat a pizza in the middle of the night.

I'm with you!!! I'd be fuming 😂

I was ready to vote YABU based on the title, but I understand why you're annoyed. It doesn't sound like there was a discussion about WHEN he'd be on his way home, so I think he should have assumed you'd want the pizza whenever he got there with it, or eventually. I would have wanted him to get the pizza, but not intentionally wake me up to eat it if I was asleep.

However, since he ordered the pizza rather than "getting it on the way home" as planned, I don't understand why he couldn't call back and add yours to his order, or place another order if they'd already left. (Of course you could have done that too, but he'd said he would get it - it seems rude not to at least offer to try to update his order).

I’d probably have done the same as him but then would have immediately ordered you one once back and realising you wanted one

But you were asleep!

Just share his and stop moaning

Who wants a pizza at 3 am?!
YABU. You sound annoying.

I mean, I don't think I'd like to be woken at 3am and have to shove a pizza down my throat. I am not surprised he didn't get you one.

I'd have done the same. Who tf wants pizza at 3am?

Where do you live that places are still open for pizza to be ordered and delivered after 3am?