To be upset with DP because he didn't order me a pizza?

[PinkStarAtNight]

DP and I weren't planning to see each other this weekend as we just spent a week together and he left to go home earlier this week, so we were going to see each other next weekend.

However, DP arranged a night out with his friends to watch the boxing match (his friends live close to where I live so they often go out in a town that's a lot closer to my house than his own) and subsequently realised that the trains were striking. He said he could get out to the town he was meeting his mates in by bus, but asked me if he could crash at mine tonight after the night out, as my house is in walking distance from the town whereas to get back to his own house without a train would take ages.

I agreed to him staying here. We talked on the phone before he went out and he said he was planning on getting a takeaway pizza on way home. I said I really fancied a pizza and he said he would get me one too. I told him what I wanted and asked him to get potato wedges, garlic dip etc...I was really looking forward to it. I thought it would be really nice when he arrived for us to have pizza together and chill out. I didn't eat much all evening, in expectation of the pizza.

Anyway, at about 11:30 I felt quite tired so laid down, and actually ended up falling asleep. I was woken up at 3am when DP arrived back from night out. He came in and didn't have any pizza with him so I said 'where's the pizza?' He said 'oh, well I've ordered myself one, its on its way.' I said 'what about mine?' He said 'well I called you to see if you were awake and you didn't answer so I assumed you were asleep and didn't get you one.'

I'm actually really pissed off. It was a firm agreement that he was bringing back pizza for both of us, he knew I was excited about it, I had given him my order of what I wanted...even though I was asleep and didn't answer, AIBU to expect him get me a pizza anyway, thinking I probably would wake up, be hungry and want the pizza I was promised, like I have done!? Or am I being pathetic to be so pissed off with him?

He's now downstairs enjoying his pizza that arrived two mins ago while I lay on my bed hungry and annoyed!

You were excited over a pizza? I think that's a bit much tbf- if he was in later than expected it sounds normal to me that he would ring you to check if you still wanted it and assume that no you were asleep when you didn't answer.

Sorry I think you’re being unreasonable. If it was 11:30pm and you were still up then fair enough but you were asleep. He still thought about you as he phoned you. My dh would have done the same if I didn’t answer as then the pizza would go to waste .

Even if she was asleep, he knew she would wake up when he came in though. So why not just get the pizza she asked for and she can decide whether she wants to eat it or not?

Missing point here but...

657 calories for garlic dip? Is the food police poster sure this is correct? (Seems very high for a tub of dip from any of the pizza chains she could have been getting her info from) Or was it a typo?

Pizza at 3am?

Is this normal
For you?

This is correct for the Dominos big dip. The 25g one is less.

The OP's partner took her pizza order then turned up without it. She can be disappointed no matter what time of night. He assumed rightly she was asleep and made the decision not to buy the pizza. Not an unreasonable assumption. No one is the wrong here.

I’d be fuming about the time not the pizza. I’d expect to know what time to expect both my pizza and him! Who wants pizza at 3am…. I would think he was BVU to wake me up!

YABU

Are you 5yo op? He called and you didn't answer, so he would do as any reasonable person with a brain would do and not waste money on a pizza to eat at 3am. It's embarrassing reading how childish you are behaving over a pizza.

Hope this is what you did OP.

Ok so now it makes sense why she is behaving this way. She needs serious help with her issues, as she has lost sight of sense.

I had no idea. I only buy the dip when I'm pissed. Its amazing though.

I also think it's odd that you think he should have known you'd wake up and be hungry for a big meal at 3am?

It wouldn't be wasted. Just eaten the next day worst case scenario. If it was something that would be thrown away if not eaten there and then, then fair enough, but it was pizza fgs. Just bring what you agreed to bring!

If my husband woke me at 3 am for a pizza he would be wearing it as a large necklace.

Why didn’t you just order yourself one in the evening and then go to bed at a normal time?

I think it’s odd you wanted to be woken up at 3am just to eat a pizza.

I'd not thank anyone who woke me at 3am with pizza and it's probably near my favourite food in the world.

I don't think he's being unreasonable - I don't anyone who would think it was a good idea to wake someone up at that time to eat - and mores the point why would you want to eat pizza at 3am. I understand why at 11.30 when you wanted your chilled evening etc when he got back but you were hardly doing that at 3am. Seems a bit silly to get het up over, just get one today.

I’m trying to find a nice way to phrase this, but do you have issues around food and over eating?* I can’t think of anyone who would want to be woken up at 3am to an entire pizza plus greasy fatty sides, scoff them and go back to sleep.*

Fuck me, does scouring mumsnet and trying to shame women give your life some kind of purpose? I can only assume so if you need to reach that much and cause controversy over a pizza thread. I can't begin to imagine what goes through someone's head to a) reach that kind of conclusion from a thread like this and b) actually write it down as a response.

If I had had a night in, I wouldn’t skip dinner for a pizza at 11:30pm. I certainly wouldn’t get up at 3am to eat a pizza.

No if I wanted pizza I would order one myself for much earlier in the evening. He called late and deduced you were asleep, he sensibly didn’t buy a pizza because nobody other than a crazy person gets up at 3am to eat pizza. I think for whatever reason, you are looking to be annoyed with him.

That’s crazy. OP could just order a nice hot fresh one for today’s evening meal!

I'd be more annoyed if he woke me at 3am with a pizza than not bringing me one.

I can understand why he didn't order you one at that time in the morning but I don't understand why he didn't just ring back and order you one, when it became apparent you were still up for eating

Six of one half a dozen of the other I think.

You weren't unreasonable to expect a pizza, he wasn't unreasonable to conclude you wouldn't want one at 3am when you were asleep.

Chalk it up to an unlucky mistake and move on.