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CF Have come to stay - The morning after

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SeriouslyLosingTheWill · 19/08/2022 22:33

The first thread is full so I'll start a new one, in case there is a dramatic update in the morning.

I actually feel emotionally drained right now. I keep almost crying. Pathetic. Probably the wine thats doing that.

I'll be going to bed shortly and i'll update tomorrow if theres anything to add. I reckon they will be up early and go quietly though.

They don't drive a ford ranger (I remember that thread! haven't looked at a ford ranger driver the same since!) Its a bmw something or other.

Dp cleared up the kitchen and 1 dc (dd19) came down and helped, so thats all good. She then came out, gave me a little hug and said DP had explained about the food. She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did) and said no ones perfect, everyone has failings. Honestly i'm in a parallel universe tonight.

Dp has put most of the beers away in the garage, just left in the fridge what was there. I do wonder if they will take them home.

Heres the first one if anyone wants to catch up as not sure I can give a proper summery right now www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4614982-cf-have-come-to-stay-how-to-handle-it?page=23&reply=119364945

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SunshineAndFizz · 19/08/2022 23:09

Bravo. You and DP have both done so well.

WulyJmpr · 19/08/2022 23:09

Anyone else really want to be a fly on the wall in CFs bedroom at the mo to hear them trying to justify their behaviour to each other?

I can't fathom it myself...but you can bet Mrs CF especially believes she has been very, very wronged.

SapphosRock · 19/08/2022 23:10

Sleep well OP, let's hope they've gone in the morning.

Fadeout83 · 19/08/2022 23:10

This is fascinating. How do people like this exist??

FlissyPaps · 19/08/2022 23:11

The crying will be a mixture of emotions. Annoyance, shock, disappointed, anger, exhaustion and lots of a adrenaline.

Your DP and DC honestly sound great! & I don’t think you could have handled it any better. Being made to feel so uncomfortable and taken for granted in your home in awful.

A lot of us read the last thread and were highly entertained and hooked but we must remember this is real life and real people. I truly hope tomorrow goes well and you are okay. ❤

Honeyroar · 19/08/2022 23:11

Just read both threads. Omg! Lock up your silver! I wouldn’t put it past them to reimburse themselves if you’re not going to pay them!

Icouldabeenalawyer · 19/08/2022 23:11

Some people 😲
Well done op 💐

jbee1979 · 19/08/2022 23:12

WulyJmpr · 19/08/2022 23:09

Anyone else really want to be a fly on the wall in CFs bedroom at the mo to hear them trying to justify their behaviour to each other?

I can't fathom it myself...but you can bet Mrs CF especially believes she has been very, very wronged.

Anyone else want to go and stay at OPs, 4 night all inclusive seaside retreat for £103 all in?! Blush

EntertainingandFactual · 19/08/2022 23:14

Another one here for tomorrow morning’s update…
Sleep well OP!

FTMFML · 19/08/2022 23:14

Goodness what a past few days for you OP- Have a good rest and good luck!

Emoj · 19/08/2022 23:14

Here for the morning update!!

Spudina · 19/08/2022 23:15

Well done OP. Nicely played. Good lock for the morning.

eyekogirl · 19/08/2022 23:15

We'll done OP, you've done what most of us would love to do but would prob back out of when push comes to shove. I bet your heart was beating a million beats a minute once you'd said your bit!

They're the kind of people that take the light bulbs when they move house.

commonfik · 19/08/2022 23:15

Placemarking for the update.

OP I wonder if they’re like this with other relatives?! So rude. You did the right thing.

CharlieBoo · 19/08/2022 23:15

Here for the morning update too! My goodness I read your thread open mouthed! Absolute CF’s! You’ve handled it brilliantly

eyekogirl · 19/08/2022 23:16

Oh and thank you to whoever linked the CF ranger parking thread. I've just spent a worthwhile hour speed reading/skimming all 5 threads. Classic!!

elephantbreathing · 19/08/2022 23:18

This is just unbelievable...CF's of the highest order

Campervangirl · 19/08/2022 23:18

Well done op, you're a star.
Hope you're ok.
I'm shamelessly here for the morning update and obviously to offer my support 😘

IcakethereforeIam · 19/08/2022 23:18

I wish you'd put crumbs in their bed. Well done OP.

DamnYou999 · 19/08/2022 23:19

Totally reasonable OP! Living Legend!

Poppyhopscotch · 19/08/2022 23:20

Total legend OP!!!

UWhatNow · 19/08/2022 23:20

Placemarking for the update. Wonder if they will try and make out that they’ve been victims in all this. That’s what CFs do - take and blame. If I was king of the world I would make it a crime to be grabby and take advantage of the good nature of others.

TwoMonthsOff · 19/08/2022 23:21

@SeriouslyLosingTheWill
its awful that their behaviour has made you feel drained, because you are the good person here, yet they have made you feel upset, I bet they are sleeping soundly right now.
It’s great you stood up for yourself but you shouldn’t have been put in that situation by their shitty behaviour
have a great weekend with your family they sound lovely 💐

ScrambledEggForBrains · 19/08/2022 23:21

We’ll done OP 🍷

BlueReindeer · 19/08/2022 23:22

Id have to tell them to leave in a taxi tonight if they’ve had a drink and stay in a hotel. I honestly wouldn’t trust her not to flood you’d toilet with wet wipes. Hope someone recognises them and their CFery