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SeriouslyLosingTheWill · 2022-08-19T21:33:48+00:00

The first thread is full so I'll start a new one, in case there is a dramatic update in the morning. I actually feel emotionally drained right now. I keep almost crying. Pathetic. Probably the wine thats doing that. I'll be going to bed shortly and i'll update tomorrow if theres anything to add. I reckon they will be up early and go quietly though. They don't drive a ford ranger (I remember that thread! haven't looked at a ford ranger driver the same since!) Its a bmw something or other. Dp cleared up the kitchen and 1 dc (dd19) came down and helped, so thats all good. She then came out, gave me a little hug and said DP had explained about the food. She then lit up and offered me a cigarette (WTF! I don't smoke and although had an inkling wasn't sure she did) and said no ones perfect, everyone has failings. Honestly i'm in a parallel universe tonight. Dp has put most of the beers away in the garage, just left in the fridge what was there. I do wonder if they will take them home. Heres the first one if anyone wants to catch up as not sure I can give a proper summery right now https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4614982-cf-have-come-to-stay-how-to-handle-it?page=23&reply=119364945

LookItsMeAgain · 23/08/2022 10:25

@SeriouslyLosingTheWill - Have you (and I include your DH in this) heard from the Ex yet about how her relatives enjoyed their stay?
Have you heard from the CFers themselves saying thanks for letting us stay with you??

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SeriouslyLosingTheWill · 23/08/2022 13:16

Not really an update but not heard a peep from the CFs since they left. And not spoken to DPs exw as yet. I will definitely update if we hear anything through her

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Aussiedream · 23/08/2022 14:11

I’m guessing they’re not the sort to send a handwritten thank you card like the lovely non-CF guests I have to stay!

Queenohmean · 27/08/2022 21:28

At this point, I would tally a list of all charges incurred and scotch tape it to their bedroom door. If they DARE argue, stonewall them. They've treated you and yours like staff at a four-star hotel where they are the pampered guests. I see them possibly storming out of the house (leaving their gear behind). As a final gesture of good will, pack up their belongings and stack them neatly out front. Perhaps lay a single flower with a thank you note on top. Lock the front door.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 27/08/2022 21:59

Queenohmean · 27/08/2022 21:28

At this point, I would tally a list of all charges incurred and scotch tape it to their bedroom door. If they DARE argue, stonewall them. They've treated you and yours like staff at a four-star hotel where they are the pampered guests. I see them possibly storming out of the house (leaving their gear behind). As a final gesture of good will, pack up their belongings and stack them neatly out front. Perhaps lay a single flower with a thank you note on top. Lock the front door.

I think the horse has bolted and the stable door is locked

They've gone - last weekend

HotMess21 · 28/08/2022 00:53

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HotMess21 · 28/08/2022 00:54

Queenohmean · 27/08/2022 21:28

At this point, I would tally a list of all charges incurred and scotch tape it to their bedroom door. If they DARE argue, stonewall them. They've treated you and yours like staff at a four-star hotel where they are the pampered guests. I see them possibly storming out of the house (leaving their gear behind). As a final gesture of good will, pack up their belongings and stack them neatly out front. Perhaps lay a single flower with a thank you note on top. Lock the front door.

🤦🏾‍♀️

BEAM123 · 28/08/2022 09:05

Queenohmean · 27/08/2022 21:28

At this point, I would tally a list of all charges incurred and scotch tape it to their bedroom door. If they DARE argue, stonewall them. They've treated you and yours like staff at a four-star hotel where they are the pampered guests. I see them possibly storming out of the house (leaving their gear behind). As a final gesture of good will, pack up their belongings and stack them neatly out front. Perhaps lay a single flower with a thank you note on top. Lock the front door.

Now this would be an intriguing follow up. OP could break into their house where they are now (unless they're now staying with someone else), a roll of Scotch tape in her teeth, to put this list on their bedroom door. When they storm out of their house she packs their stuff, moves it out and locks the doors, driving home with their keys on her pocket, sunroof down and cackling wildly.

VWCJW · 28/08/2022 09:27

I am glad they have left. This thread will perhaps make me a bit more thoughtful when I stay at someone’s house. I often stay with my brother and don’t really take wine with me but we always shop there and replace fruit etc. I make lots of drinks and offer to help. We offer to pay for take away (they refuse) and offer to give money at the end. Again, they refuse. We usually buy flowers at the end and sometimes send a present on Amazon, usually something to do with a conversation we’ve had. E.g if we have talked about a book, I might send the book. But perhaps we should bring things at the beginning. The problem is, As it’s a long way, we usually do it at the end as flowers get ruined on route, and we might forget. So maybe the guests were going to buy thank you alcohol etc at the end.

VWCJW · 28/08/2022 09:28

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HazelnutD · 28/08/2022 15:17

Well done OP. We're all very proud of you. I'm like you, don't like to upset people and I don't think I could have done what you have, quite rightly I might add, but if the situation ever arises, I will definitely remember this thread and what has been said and think of you.

BEAM123 · 28/08/2022 19:03

Queenohmean · 27/08/2022 21:28

At this point, I would tally a list of all charges incurred and scotch tape it to their bedroom door. If they DARE argue, stonewall them. They've treated you and yours like staff at a four-star hotel where they are the pampered guests. I see them possibly storming out of the house (leaving their gear behind). As a final gesture of good will, pack up their belongings and stack them neatly out front. Perhaps lay a single flower with a thank you note on top. Lock the front door.

Now this would be an intriguing follow up. OP could break into their house where they are now (unless they're now staying with someone else), a roll of Scotch tape in her teeth, to put this list on their bedroom door. When they storm out of their house she packs their stuff, moves it out and locks the doors, driving home with their keys on her pocket, sunroof down and cackling wildly.

BEAM123 · 28/08/2022 21:56

Sorry for duplicate posts, had an app glitch!