‘But there’s no toilet roll’

[Whatcanbe3characters]

Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

Yes of course I have heard of lists.

Sometimes I loose the list. Sometimes I forget the list.
Sometimes I miss an item on the list whilst shopping.

I choose not to direct bandwidth at being perfectly organised or stocked up with essentials.

I can see that to other people this stuff is important, and I respect that whilst at the same time accepting I am different and hoping that my priorities don't move in that direction and my self esteem doesn't become linked to my list making or shopping skills.

@freckles20 This

I was thinking about you today op, I hope you are doing ok.

@Travis1 100%
So weird.

@onlythreenow have you ever gone out grocery shopping with a 'difficult' child in tow? I suspect if you had done it even once you wouldn't be making such smug comments, and you would also have made do with substitutes for many an item on a shopping list.

@mathanxiety Plenty of us have gone shopping with more than one kid in tow.
How do you think single parents cope?
It's not difficult to see that you're down to the last couple of rolls, so you buy some more ready.
I would be less than impressed if I was at work all day and the other person who is at home all day, child or not, let stuff like that run out.
These days you don't even have to physically move your arse off the sofa to grocery shop.

Sorry I agree with your husband you should have gone to the shop or rang him and asked him to get some on his way home.
But toilet roll really isn't something you should run out of we always have a nine pack in the toilet and a nine pack in the cupboard, once we start on the second pack another one is brought. Or buy a nine pack every week and you won't run out.
Once your daughter goes to school she may calm down and enjoy the routine. X

It would be easier if he just rang or text you before he left work and asked do you need anything from the shop and he gets it and all sorted. Why do men think that if a woman is at home with a child that they do nothing all day or else make them feel guilty. Things will get easier with little one and once start school will be great.

Oh ignore the super wives on here who always have an extra 9 pack of loo roll hidden in a cupboard somewhere. They sound like the toilet roll police. Not a crime to run out of something and he could have noticed the loo roll was running out as she stated he uses most of it. As I stated earlier why could he not ring/text before leaves work and ask is there anything needed indoors. My sister's husband does this daily and it is kind and considerate.

YABU and should be more 'on it'. You don't work and have only one child!
I'm a single mum of three and work full-time. My loo roll never runs out because I make sure it's added to my shopping when I'm halfway through my last pack. It's never one of those last minute purchases.

Meh…no big deal that you ran out OP. In fact, as he was definitely out at work, I’d have expected him to have got it if he was going by a shop anyway, and no doubt would also have seen it was running low.

I hope you're ok OP, really struggling to believe all these people who have never run out of anything or forgotten to do something.
If only we were all so perfect.

Did I miss the OP saying she was really annoyed with herself for not getting toilet roll 🤔 talk about a pile on. I'm unfollowing this thread, I thought you could come on here for a moan. THE POST WASN'T ABOUT THE TOILET ROLL

@Cyw2018 @Whatcanbe3characters I’ve been up ridiculously early and so have read all of this thread and the other thread you linked to by Op.
My feeling is that @Cyw2018 is being helpful to you, mentioning her own mum to make you think about the pattern you’ve got yourself into. She’s also frustrated because she feels you aren’t accepting of the fact that a common theme seems to be planning in a bit more of a military fashion.
@Whatcanbe3characters i feel for you. You remind me of a parent of a child I’ve taught, clearly a devoted Mum and a thoughtful person. I always get the sense from her she feels she has to defend her role and when I’ve mentioned things to go with her child she has tended to react quite quickly to say ‘I do this!’ as I find you have.

Im probably like you OP, I work part time but put a lot into my own children. I know I put so much time and effort into them that I do feel offended whenever it’s suggested I’m disorganised. I know I’m organised but as @Cyw2018 is trying to point out there are ways to make your life easier. Hope you’re ok OP. You’re doing a great job but it’s a bit of a thankless one at times!