‘But there’s no toilet roll’

[Whatcanbe3characters]

Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

You’ve done nothing wrong at all. Some people just want to sink everyone into the mire with them.

@Whatcanbe3characters

sorry @Earlymenopausesucks have no idea how you got tagged

If he's got such a shitty arse that the roll gets close to empty when he's finished, why didn't he get some on the way home?

He sounds a bit ...shitty tbh.

Jesus Christ this is why I could never be a SAHM to a bloody manchild
I would be fucking raging if my DH behaved like this.
He could just have easily said no worries, I will nip to the shop instead of PA snarky remarks and looks.
Dickhead

next time a sahm posts that there is a lot of disrespect for sahms on MN, and we are all going "no no it cuts both ways and it is just people have different approaches to life" I'll try to remember this gem of a post.

This.

It’s disgusting, isn’t it?

The point is if somebody wants to stay at home and not financially contribute to household expenses this needs to be by agreement of the couple. Your dh sounds resentful and has made a huge fuss about this insignificant thing.. i think,you should think again about remaining a SAHM, or even whether you want to stay with him. For more of the same in future. Doesn't sound a recipe for happiness

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You were at home. you used the last piece, you should have bought more or asked Dh To pick up some on his way home. End of!

I’ve been a stay at home, part time and full time during my years as a mother and for whatever reason I can’t get to the shops, I find my mobile and ask my DH to get whatever is missing as he’s coming home from work. He does the same if he’s at home.

It’s got nothing to do with being a stepford wife - or husband - but everything to do with ensuring that the next person to take a shit has toilet roll on hand.

Yep!

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He'd have got a sharp retort back from me with that condescending, wanker comment.

Guess what- even people who have their sh*t together sometimes don't replenish stocks before they're needed. He's free to pick some up himself.

No time for that crap.

Yes, this. Everyone being so judgemental about the OP, so desperate to prove they would have been a Good and Organised Wife, to feel superior, and completely ignoring the DH attitude issue. Sad sacks.

@SleepingAgent well said.

Sometimes this site is weirdly Stepford.

@Whatcanbe3characters didn't you know being a SAHM here on MN means you mustn't ever bother your DH with anything otherwise you get slaughtered;I'm surprised you haven't been told to get a job.

In my opinion marriage is a partnership and having a job doesn't excuse someone from not doing at a few things to contribute to the running of the house other than provide the money;your DH isn't paying you to be a nanny and housekeeper;if you worked too he'd have to cough up 50% of the childcare costs and do 50% of running the house so he gets off lightly.

It's quite simple;man gets home from work,he notices there's no loo roll;his wife is making dinner and dealing with a lively 4 year old;man quickly pops out in the car to the local shop which for most people is merely minutes away;buys loo roll;comes home and tells wife he's gone and grabbed some as we were out;wife is greatful and husband isn't being a twat about it.

I see the MRA's have arrived. ...

I think the fact that you didn't even text him to ask him to pick up toilet roll on his way home is unreasonable and really annoying, whether you are a SAHM or not. I always ask my DH to tell me if he uses the last of something or uses something and he notices it running low. With toilet roll, because I use it throughout the day, then I am definitely more aware of what we have than DH.

If the roles were reversed and I was working all day and came home to use the toilet to find no toilet paper, I would be quite unhappy.

If you aren't able to leave the house with your 4yo to go to the shops, how it's she going to manage going to school every day in 2 weeks time. Something doesn't make sense here.

I can't understand how you could not know it was last roll and get more before it ran out. Pretty disgusting not to have loo rolls. Just buy 2 packets and when you start second packet buy more so it does not happen again.

Set up a subscription with 'who gives a crap'.
I'm still using a box I started over two years ago.

Well, you certainly don't sound like a caring carer...