‘But there’s no toilet roll’

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Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

I would imagine he’s also known this and as he’s left the house probably passed a shop that sells it yet it’s the ops job to monitor and stock supplies…

This is really weird bc I would have told DH to pick some up on the way home if I hadn't been out.

I keep an emergency roll stashed away for such occasions then a back up roll for when DH uses that one up 😂

What would most annoy me is your DH's drawn out interrogation. Could he not have just said "is there any loo roll we've run out?" And you could have said "no sorry it's been a bit hectic today"

Ok wow 🙈
I’m usually very on top of these things, it doesn’t generally happen. There was enough yesterday and seemed to be fine, we also had a busy day and night yesterday. Today I saw there was a small amount left (Dh *Had used loads of it since yesterday..he does! 🤷🏻‍♀️)
Dd used the last part, by then was dinner making time, washing, sorting Dd etc and then he was home.
Now Dd is being crazy and he’s seeing it all and I hope thinking twice about the way he said it…considering I’ve been dealing with it for 12 hours.

It sounds like you need a conversation about who does what. In our house I am in charge of household supplies so it's on me to make sure we don't run out of loo roll, and fair enough for my DH to expect me to sort it in the normal run of things (as I expect him to sort the car insurance, grass cutting etc as agreed). So if you normally do it, then yes, either do so or ask him to get some on his way home.

You should have gone and got toilet roll but he could easily have got some on his way home too.

Both unreasonable.

Toilet roll is rather important! Could you not have rung him and asked him to pick some up on his way home from work?

Go out and get some.

And get a coffee or a glass of something nice while you're out and let him do bedtime. Give yourself a break.

When you get back you can remind him you're not the house slave, but an equal adult and parent. Nip this in the bud, if it's not already too late.

I have 3 children under 5 and would have gone to get loo roll. Sorry.

Only excuse is illness I think, toilet roll is a staple and it makes good sense that you should have got it.

Surely you restock before the last sheet is used. Amusingly when the great pan panic hit I by an order error had 49 t rolls. The Costco grab was v confusing for me.😁

Well it’s both of your faults to an extent. But you sound burnt out

I would sign up to ‘who gives a crap’, well your dh can and take over toilet roll buying. They deliver 24/48 at a time, you either get on auto subscription or dh monitors usage and buys next lot in advance. No more running out, no more toilet roll arguments

I don't see why you have to go out now while he minds your daughter. Tell him to go out and get it himself.

What do you mean by 'enough' yesterday? A few rolls or down to last roll? I'd never have less than a few rolls unless money is very tight?

My husband wouldn't give me a row or a "look" in that circumstance. He'd probably volunteer to nip out and buy some and then I might insist on doing it or let him but do somthing useful while he was out.
We might even use humour to deal with the mild annoyance.
Shaming helps no-one.

If he thinks you should have gone out with daughter, then he can take her with him now to get some. He can see what a pain it is and you get 20 mins peace

Sounds like she's had a break all day tbh.

Man I get anxious when I'm down to 2 rolls.

I can't understand how one 4 year old can be so difficult to manage that you can't nip to the shop for loo roll. Unless you don't drive and the shop is really far away?

You could also have asked DH to bring some in on way home?

Well that was catty.

Surely the great thing about toilet roll as you know how much you have left at any one time! When the last roll is put on, get to the shop!

I'd have messaged him to ask him to get some on the way home.

She was at a fair last night and was tired?? So many excuses why you couldn't go to the shops to get toilet roll

I would never get it that low, because of the shortage there was after the panic buying in 2020. However, your DH could have noticed and asked if you wanted him to get some.

How can you run out of it? Surely you knew it was running out. Either you or your H couldve sorted this out.

Do you buy single rolls? We buy them in a pack of 6 or 9; so we can see when it's down to the last couple and buy some more before it runs out.

Simple organisation; nothing to do with how badly behaved your child is so don't blame her.