‘But there’s no toilet roll’

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Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

Sorry but this is a bit feeble. It can’t be so hard to get a 4 year old out you can’t pick up some loo roll from a corner shop.

At a minimum couldn’t you ask DH to pick some up on his way home?

My response to that? Well, dear, you know where the shop is...off you pop

@LittleBearPad It is v hard at the moment (he’s well aware of this) she’s been not well and behaviour is v challenging.
The thing is, it ran out whilst making dinner and sorting washing and sorting her out. It’s for this reason I can’t wait to get back to bloody work.

It’s making me twitchy, the thought of you now having no loo roll! What if you need to wee?! 😃

@popcornfrenzy Yep

@Ithinkitsenoughnow I’m going to nip and get some…now he’s home and can watch Dd

Also, the fact is that he’s the one that uses it all! I’m forever buying it

I’m sorry she’s not well - I how it gets better

I’d get Deliveroo to bring some but it’s not the cost effective solution or tell him you’re popping out to get it and he can do bedtime Then go for a walk - it’s a beautiful evening here hope it is with you

Well, he's being unreasonable to be such an arse about it and expect you to go out every day if you don't want to. Equally, it doesn't take much effort to keep the house stocked up with loo roll, especially as SAHM. Don't you do a stock check of all the essentials before you order online/do a big shop?

Maybe keep a checklist of items that need stock checking once a week so that you don't get funny looks and so you don't end up punching him in his smug face.

Er, yeah, that is a bit… crap. You knew the last few days the loo roll was close to running out, and it’s pretty vital. Also just get a whole stack of it, and replace before you get anywhere near to zero.

He should just go out and get some Or as on another thread - you pop out to a supermarket, buy toilet roll and some treats for yourself and sit in the car park for the next hour earring drinking and reading

I think it’s a bit odd to not even leave the house to buy loo roll, or to text husband and ask him to pick some ip

It doesn’t sound like he was expecting you to jump in to action like a stepford wife but as is usually the case I’m sure there’s a big drip feed coming of him not pulling his weight

Thing is even if the toilet ran out while you were sorting other things it got low this morning, or yesterday.

Bit grim to actually run out. I can see he would expect you to sort this.

Two adults not noticing the loo roll was running out in time to do something about it…. You are both unreasonable.

If it actually completely ran out then yes I think you should have bought some! Can you afford two packs then just replace every time you are down to one?

I think it’s quite weird to run so low on loo roll that it runs out. Most people would have bought more supplies earlier in the week when they saw it was running low. I also think if you’re the person at home & the other works full time then this kind of stock management is your job.

However your DH shouldn’t be grumpy with you about it. Mistakes happen.

I would stop it at all. Let him buy it,

I don't take mine out every day, I've been aiming for every other day over the holidays, which is more realistic and less stressful for all concerned.

The toilet roll running out isn't ideal, but my solution would be to leave DH with the kids once he's back, while I pop to the shop. Then I get a brake and he gets an idea of what my whole day was like.

It's not something where you need to wait for it to run out or almost run out, it's not going to go off!

I would find it irritating if someone was at home and there was no toilet paper - it is kind of a ‘must have’ surely? Its not like running out of milk or bread. I’m not saying you should have to have gone out shopping if you were unable to but you could have at least text your DH to pick some up.
I also find it hard to believe that your DH is the one using all the toilet roll if you and DD are at home most days and he’s at work. This is all going in a weird and petty direction.

If the pandemic has taught us anything surely it's that you get toilet roll in before you're down to the last dregs, in case of situations like this?

I'm a SAHM with two at the moment and I do see things like that, or at least texting and asking DH to pick stuff up if I can't get the toddler and the baby organised enough to pop to one of the local shops, as being down to me to sort. I can't help but notice stuff running low when I'm at home using it so it's far easier for me to keep a track of what we need than him.

In our house it would just be 'whoops no loo roll!' and someone would then go get some. No blaming the other person or assuming it to be the other person's job. We both shit so we each have a equal loo roll responsibility. I'm not the house stocktaker. We don't tend to run out but we do with some other stuff sometimes and that's just life.

Can't understand any household not realising they are down to the last sheet!

How does anyone run out? That fills me with dread

I voted yanbu just because he sounds such a PITA