‘But there’s no toilet roll’

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Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

Surprised at the votes on here. OP I also have a very difficult 4 year old and in this scenario I would message DH to pick up loo roll on way home or he would nip out later and get it rather than go through the ordeal of taking DS to a shop just for one item if we were having "one of those days". He's fine to go out to the park etc, but shops are usually a horrible experience all round. DH would completely understand this and wouldn't bat an eyelid.

It's not just dealing with a challenging child, it's the mental drain it can take on you also! I don't blame you for not going out, my husband is well aware of what's running low as I'm busy with the children and it slips my mind. I'd have gotten really defensive having to explain my day and 'what I'd done'. Erm I've tamed your little beast all day!!! 😂

OP, ignore all the nasty comments. Take the moral high ground and tell DH your household will be taking care of the environment from now on and not using toilet paper! Get him one of these:

www.amazon.co.uk/Easy-Bidet-Petrol-Limited-Replaces-Shower/dp/B07YDQTRWB

I'm with you, OP - besides your DH has got eyes I assume, why didn't he notice it was running low and remember to pick some up ?
Otherwise, as other PP's have suggested, go out and get some and take the long way home, past a coffee shop 😎

I buy 48 at a time from 'who gives a crap' and the bottom 4 or so rolls have an "I'm about to run out" wrapper.

This is slightly an aside to the main topic, but staying in all day with a four year old is always going to be a stressful day. It might make things easier for both of you if you got out of the house. Even if she’s under the weather could you manage a stroll around the block? It not surprising that she (and you) are feeling fed up this evening.

You can't be on top of everything all the time, you're only human. It sounds like if he wasn't wasting so much of it, you'd have had enough anyway. He easily could've noticed the stock was dwindling, why is it your responsibility to remember every little thing just because he works and has a penis? You're probably on the go 24/7.

It sure the relevance of you having worked for 17 years prior to DD, but yes I would expect the SAHP to have loo roll sorted!

@UnshakenNeedsStirring Why are you wondering what job I had? I was a teacher? 🤷🏻‍♀️
I found full time teaching a hell of a lot easier than dealing with my challenging Dd at the moment.

As a one off don’t stress too much about it and your DH shouldn’t act like this. But if this kind of thing is a common occurrence then if I was in situation where I worked and my partner was at home full time with single 4 year old I’d be questioning why the basics of running a home aren’t being managed to be honest. Similarly I wouldn’t expect you to be out everyday but if there is a wider pattern of multiple days or whole weeks of barely going out I’d be expressing concern about what my DC is doing all day everyday

Ignore the comments OP - get your toilet roll, kitchen roll, washing powder etc delivered in bulk by Amazon every month by subscription.

Because you were tired after cooking and doing washing and dropped a ball here and let TP run out. You know what others do full time jobs, manage kids and dont find excuses? I felt your thread was about trying to cling to an excuse on not going out to buy TP!

Oh give over, some people use more loo loo than others! You wouldn't have run out if he wasn't wasteful? So if the loo roll hadn't run out until Monday she'd have been all over that.

As he's at work all day I'm not sure that he uses his allotted quota or is it reduced on a pro rata basis for when he's at work?

Oooh get him some for Christmas OP?

You're a SAHM.
This IS your job
I'd be annoyed too

Go back to work - you'll be much happier. He sounds like he thinks he is now your manager and your failure to buy toilet roll will be noted in your annual appraisal. Mind you, lots of posters on here think similarly.

He’s being a dick and he needs to stop it right now. It’s not up to him to judge how you spend your day and if he’s so concerned about the bloody loo roll he should go and get it.

When our kids were small dh used to text me every day before he left work to ask if I needed him to pick anything up on his way home. It’s a habit that’s stuck for both of us, even though we both wfh a couple of days a week. Because we both realise that we’re only human and sometimes might forget things.

It's not hard to make sure there is a supply of toilet roll in the house!!! I can't get my head around leaving it run out.

Ridiculous!!!

You know what others do full time jobs, manage kids and dont find excuses?

I know I shouldn't after all these years but I find it astonishing that one mother thinks this is a good and decent thing to say to another mother.

Ha!! Just because someone is a mother doesn't make them god ffs

Nobody died here, its a bloody bog roll but i think the world is stressed at the moment and its the smallest of things.....

Have to say though i think my teenage kids eat the stuff they get through so much of it. As a side enjoy DD age 4yrs, arrr such a cute age and it goes so so quick, anyhow..

My best advice would be for you to do an online shop with tesco or similar and have a shop delivered to your house each week for you to pack away. In that order, put on repeat the 12 or 18 roll pack. Hopefully at the end of the week you have a couple over in reserve for when the next pack arrives. Better to have a couple in reserve than risk running out. No fear of having to rush out picking stuff up either, work creation, make life simpler for you

GL

But that changes when it becomes about MILs, then it's fine to slag them off mercilessly!

My husband would have bought one already on his way home, while I would have texted him. Or I would have bought 4 packs already so this does not happen again. You are going now anyway. So sorted for this time.
Sometimes it's good to get little Miss handfull out of the house, exactly when you don't want to, for your own sanity.

It's not about the toilet roll!!!! Your DH is talking down to you, expecting you to justify yourself/your day etc to him and implying what you do isn't good enough. The toilet roll situation that everyone is getting so hung up on isn't at all the point! Sorry you are getting yet more judgement here OP.

@Pallisers Awful, isn’t it?

@UnshakenNeedsStirring You sound nice.