‘But there’s no toilet roll’

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Dh has just pissed me off.
Currently a sahm (worked full time for 17 years before having Dd)
Sat down eating dinner and Dh asks what we’ve done today…often says this and asked if we’ve been anywhere, with a look on his face as though I should’ve gone out. say no and that we don’t go out everyday, he gives a funny look and says ‘But there’s no toilet paper?’ I say, yes dd just finished the last of it before..and. He looks v clearly at me as though ‘Well shouldn’t you have gone out to the shop then’ type face.
Dd, 4, is a handful at the moment (as he’s well aware) it often takes me ages to get her ready to go out, we were out last night at a fair so she was tired, I was doing washing and making dinner for everyone when the toilet paper ran out,
Yes I’m usually on top of things and would’ve gone and got it..today I didn’t.
Also, yes, sometimes we stay in, I have jobs to do, Dd plays etc etc
Aibu to feel pissed off that I’m expected to act like some bloody stepford wife and immediately jump into action when required?

@Johnnysgirl the loo roll is in the cupboard, kids take rolls out and put them on the loo roll stacker in toilets (we have 3) when low. They put last one on and say nothing. I don’t go in that cupboard often and buy 32 in a go so sometimes it goes unnoticed. Until there’s an issue… I only do a big shop every couple of week and no idea how we use so much. I have taken to hiding an emergency loo roll … the joys of family life

We don’t use 32 in 2 weeks btw!

Using kitchen roll is a bad idea, it could block your pipes

Not if you put it in the bin

This

I get it OP I really do. Some how dh expects me to keep everything fully stocked and surprised when things run out.
I especially sympathise with the suggestion that you should go out everyday in the holidays. Kids need time at home just as much as you do. It is not necessary to go out everyday and much easier to pop to the shops without a small child in tow.

I just admit if I was him I’d be pissed off too. Toilet roll is pretty vital stuff and you must have a few days notice of it being close to running out.

See all the perfect judgemental bastards are out in force tonight 🙄

So did he!

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I would be annoyed to come home and there’s no toilet roll.

I work FT and a single parent but I still know when I’m on the last roll.

You could have even asked DH to grab some on the way home if something came up.

You dropped the ball on this one but what’s done is done and we all make mistakes.

You should sit down and tell your H you don't appreciate the implication in his comments that you answer to him when it comes to how you spend your days with DD or when the home runs out of something. Hes just as capable as you are of adding loo roll to a shopping list. If he cares about it then he needs to take responsibility for it.

Tell him when the topic comes up again and you respond, you expect to hear something other than 'You've fallen short of my expectations'.

He's not the boss. You both run the home together, and you are equal there even though he goes out to work and you are sahm. He doesn't get to act imperious about something he could have noted and done something sbout.

I have a wicker container thing in my bathroom which holds 5 rolls, I replenish it from the bag of 9 or 12 in DH's ensuite when it gets down to the last few. So I can see when the big packet is getting low without me running out.

In fairness though I can see how the OP ran out with all the stresses at the time.

His attitude is that of a right arse

Sometimes I literally have no money, it happens.

Don't shove kitchen towel down the loo

Me too!

Sorry, but as your work is currently at home, you do have a responsibility to keep on top of that kind of stuff.

Then he should buy some toilet roll

Is that in her contract?

@mathanxiety This is it…I actually feel weird with the way he was. That I’m somehow expected to be shown how I spend my time and that I’m keeping up my side by being at home..that’s how it felt and I’m not letting anyone make me feel like that.
It didn’t feel right.

I kind of feel that if you are a stay at home parent part of the deal is dealing with household stuff - this includes buying loo roll so you don't need to rush out with none in the house. I consider it an emergency when we drop below 6 rolls (2 per toilet) though currently 6 adults in the house

@fufflecake Exactly.

I’m sick of being the one to have to remember every single little thing, to be the responsible one and now I’m under some sort of magnifying glass to make sure I’m doing the job I’m *Supposed to be doing…nah..fuck that shit.

Sorry, I don’t have a lot of sympathy for a SAHM running out of loo paper, really it’s not massively taxing but to the poster who said use Deliveroo…….😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 fucks sake, do you think the entire UK has Deliveroo? For bog roll?

@gogohmm I definitely do…normally..I’m usually so on top of everything..I have to be, if I’m not our whole lives would crumble.
Today, I wasn’t.