AIBU Only the parents should change nappies?

[Mum070322]

I’m very keen on consent and protecting my baby’s privacy and prefer that only myself and my partner are the ones to change DS nappy ( 6 months )

Obviously I understand if we’re not available due to nursery eventually or if someone else is babysitting then I’m happy for someone else to do it however this has not yet been the case.

a while ago my MIL was over and my baby started crying and rather than just give him back decided to take it upon herself to change him (I was standing right there) he continued crying throughout the change and she gave him back straight after but it annoyed me as it wasn’t her place to change him.

I didn’t say anything at the time DS was 4 months and I was trying to be nice and friendly but starting to find her more overbearing and I’m getting close to drawing a line.

Even your response makes no logical sense. Babies have no frontal lobe development and take all their ques from you. So your teaching your child to only be liked by you only be liked by those you like and only be held when you deem it is necessary. You’re also teaching them who they can trust and that only you should change the diaper. There isn’t a single baby on the planet that likes their diaper changed they don’t like being cold they’re not responding to you giving them a diaper change they’re responding to the element change of their skin from hot to cold from wet to dry, I think it be wise for you to learn more about human behavior and the brains subconscious thinking among other things before you deem what you’re doing consent oriented parenting. Or completely alienate your friends and family. Your child will never bond with their grandparents or aunts and uncles if they have to ask you for permission before holding them. At sun h a young age it doesn’t work like that…Asking for hugs when they can process thought and questions is understandable until then it’s not feasible….

When I see threads like this I'm just grateful I have two daughters. I feel incredibly sorry for your MIL.

Just remember, you're likely going to be a MIL one day and if your son has children with a partner just hope she's got a different attitude to you! Because she might only trust her own Mum with her precious baby and you'll be ousted.

What a bizarre thing to say.

Most women become MILs one day. Or are you saying its JUST the mothers of sons who become territorial? I wonder if something odd happens to your brain chemistry when carrying XY chromosomes? OP listen up, this will be you one day.

You hear it all on here 🙄

First ask yourself are you really asking for honest advice and educated responses or are you asking for validation?

Who the hell resurrects a ZOMBIE thread like this?

I honestly couldn’t work out if this was a serious thread…

Do you have a difficult relationship with your MIL? Would you feel the same if your own mum had helped out with changing baby? This feels like and overreaction but maybe it is more because of how you feel about our MIL than your baby?

Well, I'm a granny to 5 and I always changed nappies. Not sure what the drama is?🤔

And yes, i do think you're being unreasonable. My Mum, mil and sister have changed many many of my kids nappies and I was very grateful for the help!

Zombie thread I just realised. But such a classic PFB