To ask for the good points to having a boy?

[Greentartanbow01]

Please could I have measured responses, I absolutely know that ultimately a healthy baby is all that matters.

I’m due a c section with my first baby next week. We don’t know the sex.

It took us a long time to get here and we never thought we’d be able to have a child, I’ve had a pretty rough pregnancy- diagnosed with many different things and had threatened first and second trimester miscarriage, plus pre-term 3rd trimester labour. Am so relieved and pleased to have made it to the gestation I am now.

In all honesty though, because of all the drama throughout this pregnancy, I haven’t really stopped and thought about the baby at the end of it 😳

In my head, the whole way through it’s been a girl. In every daydream that I’ve dared let myself have, it’s been a girl. I’ve always imagined myself with a daughter, never a son. I’m much better with girls than I am boys when I’m around other people’s children and I’m going to be honest here and say that I do have a gender preference and that is for a girl.

DH genuinely doesn’t have a preference and I believe him.

Please don’t get me wrong, I’m terrified of the baby not being healthy and I know that a healthy baby is the ultimate goal, sex really doesn’t matter and I know I’ll love my baby whatever, but I know if it’s a boy, it is probably going to take me a few hours to get my head around and mange the ‘disappointment’ (if that would be the word) in all honesty.

Part of the reason I’m less keen on having a boy is because of the saying that I keep seeing trotted out on here, about a daughter being a wife but a son only being a son until he finds a wife. In all honesty, that’s definitely been the case with me and my sibling, DB just doesn’t have the relationship with my mother that I do. They’re close enough but he sees a lot more of his wife’s mother/ family and tbh it’s pretty much the same for most males that I know.

Could posters please reassure me that that isn’t always the case and tell me why they love having a son/ sons?

I never really imagined myself as a mum of a boy - but all the things I thought I'd struggle with I love - his physicality, he's a rough and tumble play fighter, he's a whirlwind constantly on the go - sticking his finger in things he shouldn't, running climbing, jumping, he has such a massive personality and he's definitely more loving than the girls were/are at his age (18 months)

I have two boys and they're totally different. One is shy and sensitive, loves Lego, school work, baking, drawing and superheroes. The other is a force of nature, loud, musical, physical. They're kind, funny and affectionate individuals - isn't that the most important thing?

My boys are gorgeous!
Easy going
Playful
Funny
Loving
Cuddly
Sporty
Arty
Cuddly
😇

The never-ending hugs? I adore my ds & it is mutual. Dd is a much more prickly character, and that's fine too

I have 2 boys and they are incredible. DS1 fits every boys stereotype there is, however DS2 doesn't fit any. They are their own people. Both are so cuddly and loving though!

And for what it's worth, I have 2 sisters (I am female) and none of us get along with my mum. DH and his brother are both close to their mum 🤔

I’m a mum of a boy, always thought I wanted a girl but wouldn’t change him for the world when he arrived! He’s the most gorgeous, cuddly, lovely little boy who tells me “Mummy I love you SO much!”. He is funny and cute, loves trucks and climbing trees. We have so much fun together.

I’m also relieved I don’t have to deal with the whole stroppy teenage girl “you can’t go out dressed like that” constant selfies, heavy make up phase and don’t have to worry so much about grooming, teenage pregnancy etc.

I had two boys and then a girl. The boys are so loving

Also there’s absolutely no difference between bonding with a girl and a boy for years! My friend is having her gender reveal this weekend and she’s desperate for a boy!

I have one son only. He is my best friend, at 23 is loving and caring , respects my opinion can take a death stare if I think he out of line and we can go to the pub together
The girly stuff would of been lost on me.

Goodness me there are SO many posts on this thread that need challenging.
I've just read through all 8 pages and kept thinking I'll quote that, then another one comes up and then another.
Honestly, I have brought both up to adulthood and the stereotyping on this thread just doesn't apply to any of my dc. It is just ludicrous.

I'm due to give birth any day to a boy, and this thread is making my heart melt.

I have all girls and my sister has all boys so we compare a lot. Girls are super high maintenance and give you a helluva lot of attitude pretty much as soon as they can talk. Boys are so super cuddly and absolutely love their mummies.
For what it’s worth I don’t think you should find out the sex in advance. I think if you find out at a scan it’s so much easier to then ‘wallow’ in any disappointment for the rest of the pregnancy. I think if you find out as the baby is born, you don’t have time for any disappointment as you’re just so relieved the baby is here safe and also it’s hard to be disappointed by anything when someone hands you this tiny thing and you suddenly realise you’re entirely responsible for their safety and happiness and they need you and your are their mummy 🥰

Your baby will be yours though OP, not some ladybird book style infant. s/he will be an individual, made up of all of your joint family members foibles and characteristics. Your son may be tractor mad, but then so could your daughter and to be honest you will love your child so much, you won't care.
Just strap in and enjoy the ride 😍

I had a rough pregnancy and similar to you a bumpy ride!!

I didn’t know the sex when the baby born by csection - the parts sort of waved at me and then baby checked over by staff and then i was given baby in for a snuggle - I realised after nearly an hour I had no clue what sex the baby was just happy everything ok. Honestly once you snuggled that baby in what sex it is isn’t important.

My husband is taking his Mum off for a weekend trip next year. I may not always agree with her but I do respect that she is his mother and the bond they have.

My boy is a clone of my humour and interests. Love him. I did feel like you did, but hid it. Worry not!

Obviously all children are different but in my experience (one of each - very close in age), my DS (now 15) is way more affectionate, measured, kind, thoughtful, selfless and big hearted than my lovely DD who is far more opinionated, headstrong, feisty, argumentative, smart, self-absorbed, generous and wonderful.

Two completely different kids but DS is the one to always ask how my day was (and genuinely give a shit how I answer) and he still gets into our bed on a Sunday morning for a snuggle. He is also bloody funny and can reach the top shelf of the kitchen cupboards.

What?

This.^ Absolutely love having boys for these reasons. No drama, tantrums, chatting back etc etc, parenting has been a breeze, even though in the teens now. As long as the conversation flows, communication is open and they feel loved and cherished (like all children), they are amazing. The ONLY issue I have is technology lol. Even though there is zero interest in social media of any kind, gaming is a passion. No complaints here, as long as school work is done.

I have no experience with girls to compare, but I do think parenting is the most contributing fact, to the character of your child.

I have two boys, although the doctor hinted at the first scan that my eldest might be a girl so I always imagined I would have at least one girl but am now content with my healthy boys.

I always imagined boys to be really boisterous and not very caring (no idea why). While they can be boisterous (as some girls are too), they can also be lovely, and do things like bring me flowers or other things that they think I would like. They are also really protective over and caring with our dog and always make sure he is comfortable and everyone else in our family.

I know you don't know the gender yet, but boys can be just as amazing (or not amazing) as girls. And if you do have a boy you have the opportunity to make sure that part of the next generation of boys are brought up as well rounded and caring people.

My boys are the best. They are kind, loving and great communicators.

I’ve just spent the day climbing a mountain with them, and now they are making dinner. They blow my mind.

I feel sorry for these boys who aren’t wanted. Imagine knowing your mum wanted a girl. It’s so unbelievably selfish.

Boys are great!
Only have one, never imagined having a Girl, but didn’t want to know gender.
Boys are perhaps less moody, but depends on child.

Best Wishes for an easy delivery and an “ Easy” baby.

I have one of each, and honestly, I'd have boy babies all day long if I could!
I love them both the same, but my DS is just amazing. He's so affectionate, loving, caring, confident, and really easy to deal with!
Girls in my experience bring far more drama!!!

One of each and very happy
sons are just as loving and caring as daughters even as adults - I love the fact he’s a full foot taller and can pick me up in a bear hug

It's not about their sex, it's their personality. Ds is a cat; dd is a dog. Could have equally been the other way around. Ds would rather die than be touched; dd can leave me feeling touched out. Ds is dry; dd is a clown with great timing. Ds has a piss poor pain threshold; dd is tough as old boots but dramatic. Both kids have parts of my personality.

I suspect I will hear rarely from ds when he leaves at home. But my parents rarely heard from me, so that's fine.

Aww love this thread 💙

I’m having a boy in a few weeks and think I’m in the minority as I really wanted a boy! So did DH. Just couldn’t see myself with a girl. I’m not girly, a bit of a tomboy, and to massively generalise, we’re outdoorsy and adventurous types and just think a boy will fit into our lifestyle much better. When we are climbing mountains or hiking, it’s always girls who are moaning that their legs ache