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Stranger offering to hold baby

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Dove88 · 17/08/2022 13:35

I’ve been to a very small countryside cafe this morning with my 6 month old. There was a few people in the queue that were all together in a group. They were all women of 60+ and obviously part of some sort of social/hobby group.
I got talking to one and my DD was smiling away at her. She asked if she could hold DD whilst I ordered and got my purse out of my bag. I accepted and carried on talking to her whilst I paid etc then took DD back and said goodbye.
My other mum friend who was already sat at the table said there’s no way she would’ve allowed that. Even though I was stood right next to the woman the whole time and my judgement of her was that she was just a friendly older lady who wanted to help.
AIBU to allow this?

OP posts:
soundsofthesixties · 21/08/2022 18:55

Varoty.
The older generation think nothing of doing this, but times changed.
Yes they have and not for the better. I'm an older generation and babies were passed from pillar to post back in those long distant days.
I love a cuddle,from a baby, my grandchildren are teenagers now and although I get hugs, it's not the same as a cuddle with a baby.
Also, I know of no old lady who would want to kidnap a baby, we're always grateful for a cuddle but we are also grateful to hand them back.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/08/2022 09:15

Calphurnia88 · 19/08/2022 10:43

To offer a rationale explanation, it's not a stretch to consider that maybe the configuration of the cafe meant that the friend would be leaving her own baby on their own in their pram in order to help her friend order a coffee.

Considering she's not comfy handing her baby over to a stranger, I'm gonna take a wild guess and say she probably wouldn't want to leave her alone at a table in a cafe either 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wasnt suggesting she abandoned hey own child, in suggesting she even offer to have ops child on her lap at the table with her baby before criticising he needing help from a stranger

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