I think my Uber driver is following me

[Mackes]

Please bear with me. I know this sounds ridiculous, however, I got an Uber home at around 3am in the morning last Saturday.

To be totally honest, I don't really remember too much about the journey home (I was a bit worse for wear after a friends birthday party.) I left my phone in the taxi and the driver returned it to me the next day. I hadn't contacted Uber, he just turned up at about 10am. I was super grateful as I had no idea where I'd left it.

I then saw him again outside my flat (I live in the middle of a major city so this isn't unusual in itself) and he was looking up at my window. The same thing happened the next day. I wfh and my desk is by the window hence me noticing.

I brushed both of these incidents off as a coincidence, however, he's just turned up at my flat door tonight (9pm) asking if I have booked an Uber. I haven't. He's now sitting in his car outside and I'm not sure if I'm overreacting.

Agree with the sentiment of your post @Sammy2828 but just so as you know (not that it makes much difference to you since you wouldn't use the service) Uber and Lyft have been operating in Vancouver for ages now.

It is unsolicited contact

Please update us OP. I don't think you're overreacting and totally agree with PPs who said that the "unsolicited contact after the trip" complaint is 100% valid here. Obviously returning your phone wasn't a concern - or wouldn't have been, if he'd stopped there - but him parking outside of your premises on various occasions since, staring up at your window, is very creepy. That is not something you should hesitate to escalate.

I hope you are ok OP. Lots of good advice and I am glad you’ve reported this.

I hope you're ok OP. If you have any difficulties with the police not taking it seriously which they should then contact the National Stalking Helpline for advice. They were amazing when I was stalked by my ex offering advice and support and helping me deal with the police. They got in touch with the SPOC (stalking point of contact) who is a senior police officer and my case was transferred to the public protection unit (PPU) which I believe made a difference in how it was dealt with. I hope you're safe and have been able to report it as it is very frightening just reading it.

Op is no doubt sleeping in after a worrying night. I hope the police take it seriously.

Also I would recommend writing a log of everything that has happened with dates and times where possible alongside how it made you feel as this will be crucial evidence in an investigation and keep it updated if there's an further incidents of him parking outside. It can be the difference in 2A stalking offence and 4A stalking which is fear of harm and carries much tougher penalties.

That sounds scary op. What did the police say?

Please update on what the Police say?
My daughter had this from a Food Delivery driver in another EU country, and she reported it via the app. They were brilliant and took it really seriously.

I would have reported him too in your situation OP, such weird behaviour.

If he comes back again - then you have your answer.

I'm curious, what kind of man is he? Young? Older? Just being nosy.

Do you not think that is a little bit overinvested in something where you have absolutely no idea if it's even true?

Hope you're ok OP and that both Uber and the Police are taking this seriously

Document all past/present encounters, take pics/video whenever you see the driver/car, report ALL encounters to 101, every time.

This is chilling. I'm so sorry you're going through this in your own home. What a fucking creep.

I've had two experiences of being stalked some years ago. I had to involve the police both times.

What do they hope to achieve by sitting outside your house and staring? Serious question. It baffles me.

Please let us know your OK OP

It’s nice he dropped off your phone but yes please report as that sounds suspicious to me. Asking if you booked a Uber it’s like he is making himself known to you so yeah I would report.

I’ve just listened to that podcast too, frightening.

Hi actions are aggressive - he is aggressively pursuing you by knocking at your door and staring at your window, and they are threatening, very!

I once had an Uber driver comment on the fact I had a low cut top(I'm pretty big up top and lower cut tops suit me more) - I'm 60 and look like a typical reasonably presentable women in her 50's. He told me I needed to cover up more. I couldn't get out the car quick enough

I reported him to Uber immediately. There are some weirdos out there, this chap looked like the guys you see in those grooming gangs. Please report OP.

The first time you saw him outside - can put it down as coincidence.

Second time - weird but maybe...?
Knocking on your door - not cool. Report this right now!

Tell police everyrhing you've told us.
Keep records.
I would tell your neighbours.it doesn't matter if they are strangers.you need someone on the ground looking out for you.or just being aware.they would ordinarily walk past this guy if he came to your flats right.but you telling them means they can react accordingly.
Also tell you friend.its another buffer you have behind you.

Any update @Mackes ?
Hope you are ok

Tell friends
Tell neighbours
Tell police
Report to UBER
Keep records and take photos and send along with vehicle reg to friends/neighbours

Perhaps think about a ring door bell and/or a panic alarm

It is most likely someone who is just a bit awkward and not any danger, but they do not have the right to make you uncomfortable. As well as above, do you have a big scary neighbour who could go out and have a word with him next time he is loitering around to let him know he is being watched, even if you don't know them well most men I know would have no problem doing this for a neighbour.

I read it late last night, followed it as each new update came through and couldn’t switch off to sleep, simply worrying if the OP was ok, if the police came etc. It’s not that deep, you’re looking to make an issue here. Many others felt the same, move on.

Sorry above is replying to “blood and fire”