To feel disturbed that DD (4) received this through the door?

[Greenginghamdress]

I got home tonight to find my partner with something to show me. He said " I didn't want to tell you this at work but two little girls put this through the letterbox for DD". (She is 4). It is a nice looking card with DDs name on, but with a nasty note inside, signed from a name of a little girl who lives round the corner.

We have a google doorbell and can see two girls dropped it through this afternoon. The 2 girls are from our estate, aged 8 and 4. The girls are good friends with each other but lately the younger one has been playing with DD. She even came to our house last week to play briefly! When they were playing I heard little girl say 'so you known DDs name I don't want to be friends anymore' . DD didn't seem bothered and later on they seemed fine.

The handwriting is good, I don't think the 4 year old has done this.

We haven't told or shown DD on anyone else.

What to do about it? I do not know the mums well. It seems very nasty and can't believe this sort if thing happens so young now!
Tell me if I over reacting. What would you do?

Sometimes I wonder if some people on Mumsnet have ever actually met a human child, or even been one. This is perfectly normal, run of the mill, bad behaviour.

Yes, it needs dealing with. No, the OP shouldn't ignore. It's great she intercepted the card. But this sort of bad decision making illustrates why we don't let children vote, drive, get married, work, or make any decisions that have a generalised impact on other people: because they are capable of complete dickishness. That doesn't need to be pathologised it's completely NORMAL.

Agreed

I don't know many 6-10 year olds who haven't done something like this.

Super common at school too

I think given the spelling this has been either written by the 8 year old or copied by the 4 year old.

8 year olds can do stupid stuff like this. I work in a school. This is just silly unkind stuff, often instigated by a ring leader who in this case would be the 8 year old. You know the kind of thing ‘let’s all pretend we hate x’.
Where I live there is a large group of local kids who all play together. The age range is about 4 to 12.

The 8 year old will claim that your DD is nasty to the other 4 year old and she was helping her stand up for herself. Do NOT talk to the children you’ll start all sorts of trouble.

This.

Also by speaking the 4yo old parent first, she will know if that is her childs writing (unlikely) or not and then that will confirm which child actually wrote it.

If an 8 year old was writing horrible notes and signing it with my 4yos name, i'd want to know!

Of course 4 years olds could have started school. If their birthday is before 1st September they would start school in the September term. You could theoretically have a child having their 4th birthday on 31 August and starting school at the beginning of the September term.

I agree the writing looks to be the 8 year olds doing.

Being an August born child my dd had done a full year of school before she was five! At 4 she could certainly have written a sentence. I think it's the four year olds writing, but maybe the 8 year old helped her to spell it correctly.

Sometimes I wonder if some people on Mumsnet have ever actually met a human child, or even been one. This is perfectly normal, run of the mill, bad behaviour.

agree 💯

In mumsnet world though anything nasty or bullying of any kind is not something their child would do. That’s only special evil children not children being badly behaved 🤦🏻‍♀️.