Would I be unreasonable to raise an issue with what a so-called friend said to me?

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I have always looked very young for my age, which was a hinderance as a teenager and young adult but as I have got older I have embraced and taken upon the fact that that I look young as a blessing (I am now 28 btw but look like I am in the teenagers years range)

I bought a bottle of wine for dinner from the shop on the way home for me and my DBF last night (we are in a same-sex relationship) amongst other stuff and expected to show ID as normal and didn't get asked, so I jokingly said "Are you not going to ask me for ID for the wine?" and the (obviously gay a nd young) guy who was on the till stared at me and looked me up and down and said: "no, I don't think that's necessary."

I paid for my things without much further words and went home but was a bit upset. Later, I had a VERY SMALL cry to myself in private about it in the toilet and then when I told my friend later and told him what happened he was very nonchalant and said my crying was for attention-seeking and I always do it to try and get attention, even though I had JUST told him that I had cried to myself in total private and for very briefly, about ten seconds in total, if that!! I spoke to my DP later and he agreed with me that it was horrible but AIBU for being furious by the callous words from a so-called friend and should I lessen contact with them?

You asked to get IDd and then cried when you didn't?

You sound very dramatic. It must be exhausting.

What?? This all sounds very immature and dramatic.

Sorry but I can't get over the part where you were upset and cried on the toilet because you didn't get ID'd if you do that a lot then I can see where your friend is coming from!

And I am not sure what the assistant being young and gay has got to do with anything.

Sounds like said friend may be right afraid as why hide in the toilet and then announce it to friend and when you didnt get the response you wanted you went to DBF.

Seriously? Is your whole life so full of unnecessary drama?

You don't like it when you get asked for ID. but then didn't like it when you didn't get asked for ID? That made you cry? m For 10 seconds? I agree, you sound like an attention seeker

I don’t get what you cried about, but has the ‘so called friend’ got form for being callous to you?

Are you always so dramatic? You sound like hard work

Blimey what an over reaction.
You cried in private, but you told your friend.
You obviously don't look like a teenager anymore , you have to be ID'd under 25 so the assistant must have thought you were that age at least.
What is wrong with being 28 and looking 28?

You were being attention seeking and dramatic. And you got called out on it.

My advice is to grow up.

What would you have preferred your friend to say?

Well it was attention seeking or you wouldn't have told your friend.

YABU.

What has the shop assistant being "obviously gay" got to do with anything?

You're 28 and didn't get ID'd because you don't look under 25. You must not look as young as you hoped, not worth crying over at all, most people are happy not to get ID'd. I'm 24 and often still get ID'd and it's a right pain if I've forgotten it

You've acted like a fool. It's fine, we all do it occasionally. The thing now is to dial it back a bit and move on.

To start, reread your OP and tell me you don't find it embarrassing!

This is a perfect example of a Millennial Snowflake.
Why on earth would you still want to look like a teenager anyway?

I don't think I've explained it very well in the OP - I didn't cause a scene at the shop, I didn't react until I got home in private and privately was a bit upset by it. So I don't see how that is trying to seek attention because it wasn't in front of anyone.

Get a life

Your friends probably right - you do sound like an attention seeker.

If you weren't you wouldn't have asked to show your ID and you wouldn't have told your friend about the crying - unless you told him in a jovial 'aren't I daft' kind of way.

What has the shop assistant being "obviously gay" got to do with anything?

Nothing, but it was an obvious put-down.

It’s attention seeking because you TOLD people about it.
If you’d had a cry on your own privately that would have been fine (weird, but if your self esteem is wrapped up in looking young then I suppose it must have hurt you)

But you told your friend all about it so you didn't keep it private ??