Have a few genuine questions for people who are consistently late...(not strictly an AIBU thread)
What is it generally that makes you late? (e.g no time awareness of how long things/travel takes, being slow at tasks, poor planning??)
Would you be offended if a friend pulled you up on your lateness? (Consistent 15-30mins late per social meeting say, not the odd 5mins)
Do you get annoyed when you have a friend that "out-lates" you? Or do you just accept that time isn't an issue?
I'm really struggling with a late friend these days and just don't know if/how to address it. She is the sweetest girl ever but her time keeping is shocking and usually has me frustrated by the time she arrives thus setting the get-together off to a bad start.
AIBU?
Calling all LATE PEOPLE
scoobycute · 06/08/2022 11:33
Saracen · 06/08/2022 12:01
There are so many reasons for persistent lateness! For me, the main ones are
Genuinely believing that what I want to do beforehand is more important / my friend won't mind waiting. This is more of an occasional reason for me usually - some minor emergency. However, I do have a few friends who are very very often late to meet me, so with them I regularly don't bother trying hard to be on time. I figure we have an understanding that we will turn up when we feel like it and neither of us even bothers to apologise unless we are over 30 min late.
Sometimes I am late because I haven't worked out the details of how long it will take me to get ready and out the door, or how long I need to allow for the bus (given that they are seldom on time). I have got much better at this in recent years, but it took me a long while to realise such basic facts as that it doesn't take zero time to change clothes, go to the loo, shut the windows and lock the doors.
I have always been capable of getting somewhere on time if it is something I view as very important, like a job interview. In that case I add in masses of extra time, bearing in mind that it is better to be 45 min early and have a wander round the neighbourhood than to be late.
I do have a couple of friends who have made it clear that they expect me to be on time, so when I meet them I am on time. I don't like it, because it is hard work (like having a job interview every time I see them), but I think they are reasonable to expect it.
RealBecca · 06/08/2022 12:46
Quite often late people plan to be there on time (1pm) but people who are actually on time plan to be early (1245).
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