My husband doesn't want to pay for an early scan ( I'm hopefully 7 weeks now) because he views it as we are paying the NHS with our taxes for one. He is very tight with money, not stingy but his immediate response is to never spend anything (I'm not complaining, he has good money sense and savings) but his reaction was really hurtful to me as it's only £55 and last week we went out to dinner in a nice restaurant with his friends and our share cost £80 alone so I can't understand why that 1 meal is more important than an early scan. It really hurt me that he is not excited about it like I am. He is all logic and I know I'm more emotional than normal if that's possible, but everything with him is so unemotional that I just feel so alone. Especially because I can't tell anyone. Once I started crying with disappointment, and explained why, he said just get the scan. But I'm so hurting right now. I know he doesn't process like I do and is trying his best, all housework, foot rubs dinner every day but I'm just so disappointed. I've felt so emotionally lonely the past few weeks I can't even being myself to hug him right now... am I completely unreasonable? Does anyone understand?
AIBU?
Husband doesn't want to pay early pregnancy scan
Newmamak · 05/08/2022 21:19
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLRedCardigan · 05/08/2022 22:28
@Quincythequince thé right positon they are referring to is if it’s in the uterus and not an ectopic pregnancy which would be life threatening to the mother and early detection would save complications.
Noix · 05/08/2022 22:32
In other countries you'd get an early scan to rule out an ectopic at this stage. The NHS prefers women to collapse first which I'll never understand. So I'd get the early scan too and just bring him along - it will make it real for him, before then, it's likely that it doesn't feel that way yet because nothing has happened for him yet.
Plantlady10 · 05/08/2022 21:32
I think PP are being very cold and unfair here. I had a private early scan for my first baby, it felt so unreal that there was a 'baby' in me and going for the scan confirmed it was real, and also gave me more accurate dates for how far gone I was. Now my baby is here I like having that photo of when he was tiny.
I would go for the scan, hopefully he will feel a bit more excited/emotionally connected once he sees the little bean
Blossomtoes · 05/08/2022 22:51
When I had my pregnancies scans weren’t even invented. Surely the reason the NHS doesn’t fund them at seven weeks is because they’re pointless? It’s going to be a loooooong pregnancy if you’re going to be like this for the next 33 weeks @Newmamak.
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