... wondering about the worst thing done to you by a so called "friend" *Content warning added by MNHQ - just flagging that some of these are quite upsetting*

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Waiting in the airport to collect my DD from her flight (seriously delayed!) at the end of a great trip she's had travelling abroad with a close friend of hers.

It brings up some very unpleasant memories for me. The plan was to travel for a few weeks in south east asia with my long term best friend, first time I'd ever travelled there. On the 3rd day of our trip she met someone "special" and went travelling with him instead!! It really caused me a huge amount of trouble and stress, traveling alone there was not easy, a few bad incidents, trying to make some other friends along the way. It was also a bit more expensive not sharing a room, and deciding on some safer/more expensive locations.

We're not in contact any more, but I'm feeling angry and agitated as I write this, and think about it again. No more coffee for me!

Any other bad things done by friends were relatively minor for me thankfully.

God, the school years were awful for me also as I was clearly "different"

What fucks me off now is that as an adult, I have seen at least 4 people who were bullies at school complain about their darlings being bullied OR in a really weird scenario re-encountering someone from school in a work capacity and hearing her falsely claim at length to have been bullied, and when I brought up her fucking nasty best friend said "but oh, that was years agoo" as if we were 90.

People really do like to rewrite history.

My childminder slept with my new boyfriend.

Omg! I'm a childminder and I can't believe she did that!
What an utter bitch!!

When I read this I visualised her nipping to the shop for a 2L bottle of Diet Coke.

Then the penny dropped 🤦🏻‍♀️

My best friend. Sister of my soul. Slowly changed. She became more and more selfish. After each failed relationship she became more selfish. I always thought that eventually she would be the person the I knew. Grief changes people and we have to stand by them.

I made mistakes. I definitely changed too. But she became cruel. She told my youngest daughter(9) who idolised her, that she "loved her but wouldn't choose her company- she's hard going but her sister (my eldest) would always be great. "

It's hard for a 9 year old to hear that. It's cruel and unnecessary and we left that night. My now 11 year old still says she thinks of auntie x regularly and talks often about how she's sad auntie x didn't like her, or how it's sad we don't see auntie anymore. The child auntie x liked? She says life's calmer and auntie x only ever talked about auntie x anyway.

All said though, we haven't spoken in a year and two months and I wonder if I'll regret that one day. Certainly not while my youngest is around to feel inadequate or lesser. But one day. We shared a lot, my friend and I.

Wow this thread is so sad . So much hurt from the past. I’ve had some bad experiences and some good . I think my worst experiences have been with men though, one guy in particular who I was seeing at the time.

I have lots of friends but I keep a fairly healthy distance from them all . Whenever I depend on a friend I end up feeling let down so instead I don’t depend on friends & just enjoy their company at a safe distance

Not me but a friend A was having a miscarriage and phoned friend B for support. Friend B asked if she could take friend A's wax appointment as she wouldn't be able to use it now.

I was about 18 or 19 years of age at the time and was due to meet up with two friends in town for a night out. They lived close by so we’re travelling together, me separately. I waited and waited and they didn’t show. I was left on my own outside a busy pub and felt like I’d been stood up.

Neither of them ever rang me or apologised the next day ☹️.

Supported my best friend after she broke up with more than one fiance, stored all her entire household belongings in my house, had her as my maid of honor.

I then had my baby and never heard from her again. I went to her hen do, heavily (and I do mean heavily) pregnant but never got invited to the wedding or spoken to ever again.

No idea what I did, other than being slightly less available to hang out than I was pre-baby.

She now has a child and i wonder if she ever reflects on how she treated me.

I worked with an absolutely lovely woman who met her husband and married a few years later. Her best friends marriage fell apart and she was her shoulder to cry on. Her best friend told her she’d met someone else but it was complicated....two years later her best friend told her the other man was her husband and they’d been having an affair for over two years.

Came out of a long term DV relationship which was absolute hell and my mental health suffered badly. However I met someone new and Best friend of 25 years was jealous from the off. New partner was good looking charming brilliant with kids and especially her son. Best friend would only ever bother me in person so much when her partner was being a dick (in which he would disappear for days/weeks at a time) I’d not long been made redundant and got my own place to live when she would just turn up unannounced and let her child run wild while me and the boyfriend were still in our honeymoon period and I just got the feeling she was really jealous but couldn’t understand why, she knew exactly what I’d been through with my ex (barring in mind, he nearly killed me). I questioned myself in the end thinking I was being unreasonable.. but when her partner turned back up I wouldn’t see her. We spoke everyday still. Then probably about 6 months into my relationship me and best friend had been talking and I told her my partner had gone out for the match but he ended up coming home early to which his phone was ringing and she had text him asking him to go see her. She got his number from a screenshot is sent her.. when you think you know someone🤔

ChiefWiggumsBoy

Have you considered it was the third friend stirring it behind the scenes?

Oh and this is not a friend but a neighbour who I thought was quite friendly and I have supported with stuff in the past. When I thought I was having a heart attack I asked him to sit with me while I waited for an ambulance because I knew he worked from home. He said no because he had to be on a conference call.

Not as bad as some of these but my (ex) best friend and I had agreed to share a flat in our final year at University. Shortly before the end of the preceeding year she told me that she had had an offer of a room in the house of a woman from her Church which suited her better. So I was left with nowhere to live and nobody to live with - everyone else was sorted out and all the decent places were already let out. I thought I was going to have to go and live with my parents again and do a long commute on the train but I managed to find a place in the nick of time. The tiniest room ever though - my wardrobe was on the landing outside as it wouldn't fit in the room. The weird thing is that my friend acted like nothing had happened, even when she saw I was living in basically a cupboard. We stayed in touch for a year or two after we left University but I never really looked at her in the same way afterwards.

That's awful what absolute awful people

A girl I had asked to be my bridesmaid. I got a text message after 10pm one night saying sorry I can’t be your bridesmaid because……

It was health related so whilst a little disappointed I would have understood however she didn’t stop there. I got further messages that night accusing me of being irresponsible. At the time I had my own flat mortgage free, a full time job, was planning my wedding and was running a brownie unit. She ended by swearing at me. All the messages were sent within 15 minutes and strangely enough as I had to get up for work at 5am the following morning and had driven 400 miles that day bearing in mind it was after 10pm I was in bed. I sent her a message when I got up saying I had been in bed and asking how she was but heard nothing.

I still see her around occasionally and she acts like nothing ever happened. I exchange pleasantries in public but we will never be friends again.

Wow this one really got me...your poor cats

Been screwed over loads of times by 'friends '.

1.At secondary school, my 3 friends all decided to ignore me for the morning for fun. I ended up in tears in the classroom because of it.

1. My best friend at the time telling me that a mutual friend thought I looked like a 12 year old kid.
2. Being ghosted by a friend when my sister tried to kill herself.
3. Having my phone blown up for weeks by a friend who was devastated at her husband leaving her. I was also going through a really tough time too. She ghosted me as soon as she met a new man a month or so later.
4. Another friend was a headf###ker. Used to make a lot of false promises to me, would ignore me for no reason then be all over me the next, made up lies to worry me as she knows how anxious I am. Disappeared when I was no longer of use etc.
5. Best friend of 10 years ghosting me for no reason then coming back a few years later as if nothing had happened.

I've never had much luck with friends, I'm one of those people easily forgotten and left behind. Accepted it now.

i Hope this isn’t the OP looking for plot lines for a novel …

sorry if I’m wrong, suspicious after all the Daily Mail articles

Same happened to me. Good friend, but she told me that she had cheated on her long term partner. I tried to contact her after a few years and she told me it had been a dark time and "for her mental health" it was best if I never contact her again .

@Lavendersquare i was thinking a two litre bottle of coke too!! Sigh. So naive.

I invited a friend to join my uni netball social team. After a few weeks she then got someone else from the team to call me to tell me that I was off the team. She was vile.

My first thought on reading the OP sadly...

@Gossipxox how did that play out… hope you answered the phone!!!

I clearly picked some v poor friends as a teenager..

Schoolfriend and her boyfriend and his best mate were my drinking buddies from 17ish on (the lads were 22ish)... they'd come round to mine, we'd get ready, go out, crash back at mine after as I lived conveniently closer to the pub than anyone else... this went on a while, all good.

My sister moved back in and I moved into a caravan on the drive, not ideal but anyway, still good.

My schoolfriend had known me a long time by this point, since age 11. She'd heard about my sister, she knew my sister could be nasty, violent, dangerous, lie.. she'd seen some incidents...

Anyway they turn up to collect me one evening, and find me not at home, sister at home, weirdly washing some white sofa cushions she's 'accidentally bled on'.

She tells THEM ive ditched them to hang out with someone else, they accept this (mm ok) and go to the pub with her until kicking out time.

Meanwhile, I am actually in hospital having my head stapled back together, with a big gash in my scalp and potentially a skull fracture... and then off to the police station to make a statement. She'd thrown a small dumb-bell at me in an (up til that point, purely verbal, I wasn't even standing up!) argument, hitting me in the side of the head. It knocked me out for a second and then my head poured blood all over our white sofa and everywhere else. She had bolted and hid, I ran out of the house SCREAMING... a neighbour came out to see and rescued me..

SO far so dubious but... they return from the pub, I am sat there with my head bandaged and stapled, feeling pretty crap, I tell her the police are looking for her - she laughs.. THEY LAUGH.

I tell her seriously, the police will be round (my mum was in the other room and phoned the moment she returned). They still laugh 'nah, don't be soft'...

She'd apparently eventually told them we'd had a row and id run off in a strop...and I might have fallen over.

They, KNOWING she was a violent liar... believed her, and not only did they take the piss that the police were coming, they still didn't believe me when the police showed up (no, she didnt really throw that at you, nah, must have been a joke), nor when they took the dumbell, nor when they took my FUCKING SISTER AWAY IN A VAN...

And then spent much of the night till my mum lost her shit at them and slung them out, trying to persuade me NOT to press charges, not to take any further action, just drop it.

Some fucking friends.

I was in the end, bullied into letting it drop, though not before sister spent 3 days in cells (bank holiday weekend!) and then was seen before the youth courts. Even the police bullied me 'it will ruin her life if she has a record now...'

Not a single apology when the truth came out, that she had attacked me, she had smashed my head open, left me out cold soaked in blood and hid whilst i ran out screaming, she had then gone off with them and fed them a bunch of lies... nothing.

A year or so later - a good friend (so I thought, again known her years) told me if I ever needed anything, any drama from my fucked up family, anything, ring her, she'd come and help.

So I rang her at 1am from a police station, terrified out of my fucking wits, homeless having been threatened with rape and murder, so I had run for it to the only place of safety I could think of... (police said they could send someone to the persons house but it'd be his word against mine...).

She was too tired, she just wanted a quiet night in, sorry.

You live and you learn eh!

WTAF! That is absolutely awful!