Waiting in the airport to collect my DD from her flight (seriously delayed!) at the end of a great trip she's had travelling abroad with a close friend of hers.
It brings up some very unpleasant memories for me. The plan was to travel for a few weeks in south east asia with my long term best friend, first time I'd ever travelled there. On the 3rd day of our trip she met someone "special" and went travelling with him instead!! It really caused me a huge amount of trouble and stress, traveling alone there was not easy, a few bad incidents, trying to make some other friends along the way. It was also a bit more expensive not sharing a room, and deciding on some safer/more expensive locations.
We're not in contact any more, but I'm feeling angry and agitated as I write this, and think about it again. No more coffee for me!
Any other bad things done by friends were relatively minor for me thankfully.
AIBU?
... wondering about the worst thing done to you by a so called "friend" *Content warning added by MNHQ - just flagging that some of these are quite upsetting*
PieRSquared · 05/08/2022 18:20
Am I being unreasonable?
541 votes. Final results.
POLLimnotthatkindofmum · 05/03/2023 16:47
What did you say to her when you found out? And what did she say?
Bonkersworknonsense · 05/03/2023 16:23
I was a divorced mum of two, shit low-paying job. A mum friend who I believed I was close to said we should start a business together. I was going to be the main staff and ideas and day to day and she was going to write up the business plan and deal w tax and the paperwork around setting up. I felt like this was an absolute lifeline. No more work boredom, no more being sneered at by the work bitches, maybe a bit more income, work I’d love. We spend almost a year looking at premises and working out the details.
One day I open Facebook and find she’s suddenly taken my idea and opened the business w her husband. I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach. I lost a friend and hope for the future all in one moment. I’ve never spent time with her again.
Her husband can be rude and lazy and their business failed within a year. I hope she lost money on it.
georgarina · 05/08/2022 20:27
Friend's mum, because she would have only been around 11 at the time.
Agreed to feed and water our cats for 10 days while we were on holiday. Came over to get the keys, be shown the food bowls and everything.
They didn't come once. Said they forgot. Our cats were starving and had survived by drinking out of the toilet.
summerpoolandsun · 06/03/2023 21:24
A ‘friend’ me how it must feel terrible to be static when we were going through three years of infertility and IVF cycles. And then went onto talk about how fulfilling her life was having three kids.
SurfBox · 06/08/2022 08:54
Invited me to sleep over and had arranged everything.
Got to her house and had a lovely evening, then her dad came home and it was clear she hadn't asked him if I could sleep over, he had no idea and she didn't even ask him if I could stay. Just said oh Allenstein will be off in a bit just watching a film.
She then gaslight the entire situation and pretended as if I was always going home at the end of the night even to me(despite turning up with an overnight bag and pillow!)
I was shown the door at 01:00 and had to walk 3 miles in the dark, alone, as a 17 year old to town to get a bus back to where I lived
I called my dad who was furious, he doesn't drive so had to meet me in my hometown off the bus, but I still had to walk a lot on my own, through areas with no street lighting, on a Friday evening so loads of drunk people staggering about falling out of bars etc.
Felt so unsafe, didn't speak to her again. But my dad did meet me off the bus with a McDonald's and a big hug so ended alright!
I find it strange as her dad seemed quite nice so didn't understand why she didn't at least ask if I could stay when he came home but alas
I thought you were both 13 here;seems odd to have sleep overs or having to 'ask' her dad at 17. You were pretty much adults.
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TheLostNights · 05/08/2022 22:13
Been screwed over loads of times by 'friends '.
1.At secondary school, my 3 friends all decided to ignore me for the morning for fun. I ended up in tears in the classroom because of it.
- My best friend at the time telling me that a mutual friend thought I looked like a 12 year old kid.
- Being ghosted by a friend when my sister tried to kill herself.
- Having my phone blown up for weeks by a friend who was devastated at her husband leaving her. I was also going through a really tough time too. She ghosted me as soon as she met a new man a month or so later.
- Another friend was a headf###ker. Used to make a lot of false promises to me, would ignore me for no reason then be all over me the next, made up lies to worry me as she knows how anxious I am. Disappeared when I was no longer of use etc.
- Best friend of 10 years ghosting me for no reason then coming back a few years later as if nothing had happened.
I've never had much luck with friends, I'm one of those people easily forgotten and left behind. Accepted it now.
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