Waiting in the airport to collect my DD from her flight (seriously delayed!) at the end of a great trip she's had travelling abroad with a close friend of hers.
It brings up some very unpleasant memories for me. The plan was to travel for a few weeks in south east asia with my long term best friend, first time I'd ever travelled there. On the 3rd day of our trip she met someone "special" and went travelling with him instead!! It really caused me a huge amount of trouble and stress, traveling alone there was not easy, a few bad incidents, trying to make some other friends along the way. It was also a bit more expensive not sharing a room, and deciding on some safer/more expensive locations.
We're not in contact any more, but I'm feeling angry and agitated as I write this, and think about it again. No more coffee for me!
Any other bad things done by friends were relatively minor for me thankfully.
AIBU?
... wondering about the worst thing done to you by a so called "friend" *Content warning added by MNHQ - just flagging that some of these are quite upsetting*
PieRSquared · 05/08/2022 18:20
Am I being unreasonable?
541 votes. Final results.
POLLAprilRae91 · 05/08/2022 23:35
Went to my ex fiancé’s wedding, where he married the woman he left me for. Told me I was bitter and mentally ill to be mad as it had been over a year
Ilikenewbedding · 05/08/2022 21:03
I messaged her to tell her I'd miscarried for the second time (I had no living children, she had one child).
She chose that time to tell me she was pregnant, and when I told her she was a little insensitive to my feelings, she told me I was horrible for not sharing in her joy and said she hopes my next pregnancy ends the same way.
She's no friend to me anymore (not that she ever really was), and that next baby is now an amazingly healthy pre teen who enjoys gaming and driving me crazy ❤
ChiefWiggumsBoy · 05/08/2022 19:23
This still stings and it was over 20 years ago now.
All throughout school me and two other girls were a threesome - we did everything together. When we were in 6th form, one of them got a boyfriend - he was the mate of some lads that the other girl worked with.
For some reason, from that second onward, she hated me. Was snidey to my face and actively bitching about me behind my back. She would literally arrange stuff and tell the others not to tell me because she didn’t want me there. None of them told me by the way which hurt a lot . On her 18th, me and the other clubbed together to get her a really nice piece of jewellery (I think. Might have been a watch). They had got me a necklace a few months before when she was still talking to me.
She opened it, ignore the card that had both of our names on, and made a loud comment about what a bitch I was to not go in on the gift considering what she’d bought for me. I was so upset. No idea why she invited me to her party tbh.
I turn 40 soon and I’m still upset about it. We were genuinely inseparable from Y7 to 6th form, and she has never spoken to me or indicated what I did to make her turn on me so viciously.
LoobyDop · 05/08/2022 19:54
Encouraged me to date a man she knew had seriously assaulted a previous partner. He never got the chance to hurt me because another mutual friend warned me, but I never forgave the friend who kept quiet. She put my life in danger, imo.
drawacircleroundit · 06/08/2022 06:43
These are difficult to read because, as a mum to a 17 year old DD, I often tell her that she must make sure that she spends time only with the people who bring her joy and who she feels contribute to a balanced and psychologically healthy friendship. She has been, over the past year, the only stable one in her group. One friend is careering towards a physically obvious mental health disorder, another has lost all interest in studies, another self-diagnoses every mental health disorder there is, another continuously badmouths her own (supportive, generous and genuine) parents, another is too lazy to work and so never has money whilst simultaneously is not able to enjoy free engagements like a walk in the park because “it’s boring”…
I don’t see my DD’s mental health as being less important than her friends’, and I don’t want her happy positivity to be thwarted by so frequently having to bolster up their apparent inability to be joyful.
My DD often returns home from social encounters or college exhausted with the efforts of listening to the complaining negativity that swirls around her group, hence my advice to her. She would never be actively cruel or fabricate untruths, but her sympathy reserves are starting to run dry. She could feature in a future thread like this as one of the abandoning ex-friends who appeared not to care.
HuffleWoof · 06/08/2022 04:59
Best friend in the entire world made a website about me. It was called 'ihatehufflewoof.com' and sent it to my school friends. She'd taken photos of me getting changed when I wasn't looking so I was in my underwear, and photos of me goofing around but they'd doctored it so it looked so much worse. I nearly killed myself over it.
My mum called the police and it was taken down pretty sharp ish, at the time it wasn't a crime like revenge Porn is now but I'm disabled so the police treated it as a hate crime. They had to go to court and got community service.
HuffleWoof · 06/08/2022 04:59
Best friend in the entire world made a website about me. It was called 'ihatehufflewoof.com' and sent it to my school friends. She'd taken photos of me getting changed when I wasn't looking so I was in my underwear, and photos of me goofing around but they'd doctored it so it looked so much worse. I nearly killed myself over it.
My mum called the police and it was taken down pretty sharp ish, at the time it wasn't a crime like revenge Porn is now but I'm disabled so the police treated it as a hate crime. They had to go to court and got community service.
forlornlorna1 · 05/08/2022 19:53
Totally ghosted me when my 11 year old dd tried to kill herself. After I'd supported her through so many bloody things over the years.
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