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Adult son wants to move back mon - fri to ‘get a night’s sleep’

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HippPippy · 05/08/2022 13:58

DS 27 and his gf recently had a baby. As you’d expect they are being woken up during the night. DS has asked if he can move back in mon - fri so he can get a proper night’s sleep so he can concentrate on going to work and do his job effectively.

DH thinks the idea is outrageous and he should just ‘get on with it’ , I feel a bit confused as to why he is even asking. Surely other new parents don’t do this? I get sleep deprivation is hard, but I am not overly enamoured with this idea. But I don’t want to be unsupportive either - how would you respond?

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Goldbar · 14/08/2022 06:53

Classicblunder · 13/08/2022 07:33

I agree that sleep deprivation is dangerous and bad for your health. That is why I think the load should be shared between parents. How many mothers almost do dangerous things with their babies from sleep deprivation?

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Indeed. Babies die because their mothers are exhausted, often because the mother falls asleep on the sofa while feeding. It is also dangerous for a mother caring for a small infant to be severely sleep-deprived.

Fudgemonkeys · 14/08/2022 10:08

If my boys ever did this I'd be devastated as clearly they're not adult enough to be a father, being extremely selfish and aren't considering their partner's needs.

FairytaleOfLancashire · 28/08/2022 23:14

Tell him to woman the fuck up.

Flutterbybudget · 30/08/2022 18:54

OP
how did things go with your son and his DP?
Did you all manage to reach a compromise that works?

Rocky1989 · 09/09/2022 00:28

I'm leaving my clothes on a clothes horse spaced out with my tilt and turn window open for 24hours in my spare room to dry and there still cold and wet.I live in the UK and it's currently 15-20 degrees outside and where having intermittent rainy weather if that's any help.I also put them in the tumble dryer for 1 hour to begin the other day, out them on the airer for 24 hours then still had to put them in the dryer for another 20 mins.When I was my clothes I also put on a fast spin so there not wet wet, can anyone solve the mystery please? Or are able to suggest another method of drying without using the tumble dryer all the time please? Thankyou in advance.

Zonder · 09/09/2022 07:57

@Rocky1989 maybe start a new thread since it's not very relevant to this old thread and you might get more response.

Winniepoo · 27/01/2023 11:35

I'd prefer no men there overnight but if there aren't enough staff to help care for all mothers and babies overnight there's little choice, someone should do it 🤷 I couldn't move after my section but was lucky enough to be in a private room.

IheardYouButDontWantToAnswer · 27/01/2023 11:43

Your son needs to grow up, be a man and a father. Bloody hell.

Mrsmozza123 · 27/01/2023 15:17

Did you mean to post that here, it doesn’t relate to the thread.

GrinAndVomit · 27/01/2023 18:32

Op,

So you have an update?
Did he move into yours? Did they split up?

FrenchandSaunders · 27/01/2023 18:34

Bet they’re separated by now. That won’t be the only wanky idea of his.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 27/01/2023 18:37

Old thread resurrected accidentally by the looks of it

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