He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

This really chilled me! I'm so glad to read that you are done with him, but echo the others who said to change the locks ASAP. Someone who can be that petty and vindictive in response to a really simple request to take one night off their hobby really can't be trusted not to react badly now it's over. Take care x

Fantastic update. Don't change for new locks just swap front and back door locks over. Easy and free.

I was going to post "hope he’s now ex-DP" but saw your update. Good work. Definitely change the locks. I am mouth-open levels of outraged on your behalf!

This. It’s malicious. I don’t think I could ever speak civilly to someone who did that deliberately in order to hurt me, never mind continue to live with them/shag them.

My childrens dad did this kind of thing daily during the first lockdown, it was relentless. Every single day something else, he escalated badly and my children and I ended up in a refuge.
I made the beds, I would go upstairs and the mattresses would be flipped and all unmade. He would say now do it again until it's right
He didn't like the arrangement of the childrens soft toys so he would pile them all in my wardrobe so o couldn't get my clothes
Got my maternity underwear and displayed it all on coat hangers around the rooms
Took all of my shoes and placed them in dog wee just before I had to leave for work.

Sorry, tangent there but the point is this reminds me of that, get rid of the fucker he's a waste of skin.
Good for you OP, life's too short for bullies

What a weirdo, yes definitely a clear sign that the relationship should end

I posted before reading this. You're well rid.

Well done! I'd be cutting those guitar strings! What an arse hole

That's awful, I'm sorry you had to go through that, are you OK now?

Before you pack his clothes - learn from his teaching about how these things are done.

All items should have their stitching removed - clearly he prefers things deconstructed.

Put the pieces of his unseamed shirts/trousers/underpants and unravelled jumpers/socks etc. neatly in his case.

Yess OP! Good for you.

He sounds awful. Good riddance.

Hope you are okay x

You go girl! Keep at it!

My thoughts exactly.

Phew! Thank goodness you can see this level of petty maliciousness is just not acceptable. Well done you.

That is shocking and rather cruel.
All the best OP.

His is cruel behaviour and he is showing you who he is.
A man who pulls apart your careful work is not many steps from doing the same to you.

Good for you OP.
That behaviour would definitely spell the end for me. Could it be what he wants? Very odd otherwise.

That's another level of cold, calculated vindictive. So glad you've packed up his stuff.

This is so horrible! As PPs have said, it's chilling how he calmly and neatly unwound your hours and hours of work as punishment. He's an adult and could have refused to cancel his hobbyif he felt so strongly! So glad you're getting rid of him and that it's your house.

Reading that made my blood go a bit cold, that's a really calculated and controlling move. My background in psychiatry is ringing a few bells about somebody who would do this so quietly and calmly.

This is so utterly pathetic and childish that I would immediately end the relationship and never speak to him again. As pps have said - it's the work of a sociopath. Nobody normal behaves in this kind of way. Deal breaker.

Block him.

Oh yes, do this! Just snip one thread at strategic places - the back seam of his pants would be a good one - and know that at some point he will bend over and show his arse to the world....

Well done, OP.

I love a happy ending. Prick.

It definitely reads like a bizarre sequel to Sleeping With the Enemy

Cold, calculated, malicious and utterly unhinged.
Definitely time to deconstruct the relationship.
Glad you are chucking him out.