He deconstructed my knitting pile.

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I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

Holy shit, @Sux2buthen - yours sounds like he needed locking up, never mind dumping! Well done for getting away.

Perfection.

But don't let this crackpot back in to your home (to collect anything) unless you have someone with you.

Oh you have made my day!

That has to be the most passive aggressive/petty things I've heard in a long time. It definitely isn't normal behaviour even for a child. Gross.

Very pleased that this is the final straw for you and you've packed his bags whilst he's at work. I wouldn't put any energy into being PA/petty back - less power in that. I would get his music out of the compost and collect his picks back up. Just get absolutely everything that is his together and change the locks.

I’d be lobbing the guitar out an upstairs window. He sounds awful. I’m so glad you’re getting rid of him.

Wow. Unbelievable behaviour from him.

You say he’s been very distant lately. Any chance of an affair… is it definitely a hobby he’s doing every night?

Sounds like it’s time for it to end anyway though. Does he know it’s over or are you waiting for him to come home from work?

What a cold, calculating, vile bastard. Well done for kicking him out. I wouldn't want to spend another second of time with him!

Of all the shit behaviour I’ve read about on here over the years, this is up there with the worst.

Well done for getting rid, OP.

Wow! I am actually astounded, that is actually malicious! Has he ever mentioned he would like more attention from you? It doesn't take away from what he did (which is horrible) but perhaps he wanted to cuddle but couldn't/didn't say that?

@AryaStarkWolf thank you yes, I was better the minute we got in that car and left!
Seeing threads like this gives me almost a flashback to things I put to the back of my mind and I just want OP to get rid of the bully.
Good luck OP

Oh OP! I’m literally sitting open mouthed aghast at what he’s done! WTAF?! His actions are extremely creepy, calculated and psycho. I’m glad you’ve got your revenge though. I’m sorry you’re going through this, please stay safe .. and yes, change your locks.

Excellent, that sort of behaviour will only escalate, he's a nasty piece of work.

Definitely change the locks and I'd consider installing a video doorbell if you don't already have one.

He is a psychopath - ltb

Well fucking done!! He is indeed a cunt and I only ever use that word on special occasions. It’s other-level shit for an adult.

Im sure these days ahead will be difficult regardless of how strong you feel just now. The anger will fade and you might have doubts but hang fire knowing you are well rid of this absolute prick of an emotionally dumb man child.

Excellent update OP, good for you. What a pathetic knob.

OP, please consider changing the locks if you haven't already done so. As previous posters have stated, he sounds genuinely unhinged.
What is scarier is that he didn't even do this in a red mist of rage (not that it would be in any way justifiable), but the fact that he sat down for what I imagine was a long while, unpicking, putting into piles, it was cold and calculated to punish and hurt you.
Your thread gave me chills and I am so glad you're in a position to be able to chuck him out today x

I read somewhere that if you use a stitch cutter to rip every second or third stitch, the garment will keep its shape until worn.

That is bonkers. What a nasty, spiteful thing to do. Drop him like a stone.

Tells you what he really feels and if someone shows you once believe them. Don’t engaged although a jumper with the words F off on it might be appropriate next time

Good for you! What a twat he is. Even someone who doesn't knit must know how much time and effort goes into it. I just can't get over what a grade A twatbucket he was. I'm sad for you, your knitting and the intended recipients of your carefully-created work.

I wonder what he's going to say when he tells his mates and relatives he's no longer with you? I bet he won't want to admit to the truth, which should tell him how shameful his behaviour has been.

Go.

I agree with all of this.
I would be furious and heartbroken in equal measure.
As the great Maya Angelou said " when someone shows you who they are, believe them".
I couldn't get past that.

Please also get the locks changed today

I'd cut his guitar strings, not just de-tune them. And deconstruct some of his favourite pieces of clothing.

What a controlling, creepy asshole. The amount of time that would have taken just to 'show you who's boss' is chilling.

Change the locks if he has a key. Make sure all his bags are outside for him . don't let him back in the house for anything. If you can have a friend round for return home time, that would be great, too.