He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

What!?
Unwound your knitting projects?
Petty and mean.
LTB! And stab him with a sharp knitting needle.

Yes I have so far untuned his guitar, hidden the picks and thrown his music in the outdoor compost bin and am currently packing his bags whilst he has gone to work. It's my house thank god. He's gone.

You can't possibly be thinking of staying with him after this.

That's it .. you know you have your final straw.
Ahead of you is freedom from this bad, bad article of an excuse for a human being.

Be strong. You can do it. I can safely say everyone here is completely behind you.

Unravelling your hard work will have taken him some time. It's a cruel and malicious act and if at no point he reflected on what he was doing and realised then I'm afraid that i think he's a sociopath.

He is punishing you for challenging him. It's not quite as bad as hitting you but not far off (and much more sinister).

Best update! 🙌🏻

Urgh put him in the bin. Ducks in a row op.

Petty men are gross, manipulative and aggressive and dangerous.

This would be a relationship-breaker for me. If he finds spending time with you so awful that he will act like that, I don’t honestly think there’s much of a relationship left to break.

I often think that people on MN are far to quick in telling someone they should end their relationship, but in this case I’d end it. It’s not about knitting (although I’m very sorry for your knitting OP, it took you so much time and effort), it’s about malicious behaviour intended to hurt the partner. I don’t think a relationship where one person tries to find ways to hurt the other one is salvageable. All the best OP, and take care of yourself

That is a rather spectacular display of passive aggression. In fact, I think the best that I have ever heard of. All new kinds of heights to his pettiness in response to your asking to spend some time together.

I am in awe and gobsmacked all at once.

And no way would I ever tolerate that.

Ha good work OP.
Does he have a key? If so, can you change the locks before he gets back?
What a nasty prick!

Op you are fabulous

Well done you. What a shit bf.

He's a fucking psychopath. Run for the hills

Oh god what a petty twat ! Hope he is gone op !

I'm sorry to ask for clarification- he's pulled the items off their needles, unravelled them, and rewound the wool into balls?

What a weirdo.

You haven't actually inconvenienced him much so far, with the guitar and music. He'll need to buy new sheet music and tune his guitar (5mins) that's all.

When you pack for him, don't do it sensibly. Leave the lids off the toothpaste and shampoo. Shove things randomly into bags, all mixed up, instead of socks, pants belts etc.

That's not just a knee-jerk impulse, what he's done was a deliberate and sustained act. It must have taken a good while! Such a concerted effort to be malicious and spiteful would mean the end of the relationship for me.

Excellent work.

Make sure you change the locks (easy to do yourself, lots of youtube videos, so no need for an expensive blacksmith) and consider removing any particularly valuable or sentimental items to a friend's house for the time being, just in case.

Definitely call a locksmith. You don’t want this scary guy having access to the house after you kick him out.

That has got to be the weirdest thing I’ve read on here. I’m astounded!

So he actually unravelled it?? That's is madness.

You're well rid.

change the locks and don't let him back in.

So glad to hear this OP, agree with PP's that there's no coming back from this, so fucking spiteful. Do you have friends/family who can support you while he leaves? Please make sure you're safe, that kind of malice is worrying

What a weirdo. So glad he's out on his ear. Don't listen to the fake apologies

Bloody hell. I wouldn't be long finding a new use for my redundant knitting needles if DP did that. Very spiteful and so thought through. In a fit of pique you might hide someone's knitting, throw it in the bin, chuck it about a bit (all very childish obviously) but to go to the trouble of ripping back and winding up the yarn - that's a whole different level of calculated revenge.