My sister came around earlier. DD (9) was being quite animated dancing around in the living room. I went to make a cup of coffee and just as I walked back into the room I heard my sister say “don’t come clarting around me!”. DD stopped dancing, gave a nervous laugh then retreated upstairs to her room. I shouted up that I’d made her a drink and got no reply so I went up to find her crying. I asked what was wrong and she shouted at me to go away.
I went back downstairs and asked my sister what had happened and she said “she was doing that stupid dance around me and I can’t be arsed with it, she needs to grow up”.
DD is quite immature for her age and it doesn’t help that my niece (sisters DD) is the same age but mature for her age. Niece is spending the holidays hanging out with friends whereas DD doesn’t have any friends 😞
I can’t get it out of my head, I think DD was embarrassed and I don’t think she deserved to be told off?! Or am I being soft?
AIBU?
Did DD deserve to be told off??
PillowFeather · 04/08/2022 20:46
Am I being unreasonable?
1570 votes. Final results.
POLLPillowFeather · 04/08/2022 21:11
The conversation with my dad went like this:
Dad “why do you talk in that baby voice?”
DD “I don’t”
Dad: “you do, you’re doing it now, why?”
DD: “I’m not?”
Dad: “you are! You always do it! Why do you talk like a baby?”
bare in mind this was in front of all her cousins, most of whom were laughing
PillowFeather · 04/08/2022 21:11
The conversation with my dad went like this:
Dad “why do you talk in that baby voice?”
DD “I don’t”
Dad: “you do, you’re doing it now, why?”
DD: “I’m not?”
Dad: “you are! You always do it! Why do you talk like a baby?”
bare in mind this was in front of all her cousins, most of whom were laughing
5zeds · 04/08/2022 21:40
People who rush their children to be “mature” are very short sighted. The longer she takes growing up the stronger she will be. 9 is very young and silly voices when stressed and performing are utterly age appropriate. A 9 year old who doesn’t enjoy pretend play and would prefer to sit with adults is more concerning. You sound like you are allowing your ridiculously judgemental family to make you think less of your own daughter. Don’t do that. Enjoy her and let her see you do. Friends will come. Teach her to be herself.
She sounds lovely and just the sort of person mine would have loved at that age.
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Hm2020 · 04/08/2022 20:50
I think your sister needs to grow up and remember she’s a child and she’s in said child’s house.
PillowFeather · 04/08/2022 21:11
The conversation with my dad went like this:
Dad “why do you talk in that baby voice?”
DD “I don’t”
Dad: “you do, you’re doing it now, why?”
DD: “I’m not?”
Dad: “you are! You always do it! Why do you talk like a baby?”
bare in mind this was in front of all her cousins, most of whom were laughing
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