Breastfeeding Shamed by my DP

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On holiday with our 4 month old breastfed son.
was in a pub garden having lunch and while waiting for our food I started to feed baby.

my partner said “cover him up” and I asked why (as I never do, don’t use a weird shawl thing but I wear baggy tops and just lift them up).

his reasoning was we were in a “restaurant” and there were other people. I ignored him and carried on feeding the way I do (pointing out he’s a baby not a 10 year old child so it shouldn’t be weird for people!)

I don’t have my tits out on display while doing it and personally I think covering my baby draws more attention to what I was doing.

who was being unreasonable?

YABU - you shouldn’t breastfeed in public places without using a breastfeeding cover

YANBU - it’s perfectly natural, your DP can go do one and you shouldn’t feel ashamed about it

Sorry, do one means shut up (politely) / feck off (less politely)

No he is being weird, the baby covers everything anyway.

Unless you are like the woman I met at the library who takes her entire top off to breastfeed then you are probably okay.

Your husband is an arse.

Feed your lovely baby whenever you need to, wherever you need to.

Oh for sure, her DP is the problem. Probably a bit of a perv to if he sees breastfeeding as anything other than nourishing your baby.

Unless you've got a nosy one who unlatches to look around every 30 seconds then howls indignantly if you put your boob away while his head is turned 🤣

Thank you. I've neve heard that expression before.

Personally I don't see the problem. Your baby is being fed - end of.

I get offended at people in restaurants eating noisily with atrocious manners.

Isn't it funny how some guys get upset over breast feeding, yet are quite happy to perv over a young woman with her cleavage on display. Or maybe they think that breasts are for their pleasure and not to feed babies.

Ignore your DH - he is being ridiculous.

Pretty much nothing except my babies head, the way I hold him my tummy and boob is covered by him and the one not being fed on is covered by my clothes still

we were in beer garden on high tables with lower benches so most of me was hidden by table anyway.

the other people there was a group of 4, 3 women one man and only 2 of them were facing my way and we’re probably obscured from a good look by the other 2 of their party and my DP.

YABVU.
Cover or move to somewhere private.
No one wants to see that.

Also ”breast feeding shamed” is absolutely ridiculous thing to say!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 incredible, I love this

THIS

YANBU, he's being an idiot.

It's not really the point as you can feed however you like imo but I found it far more faffy and obvious with a cover/muslin. If I tried to cover up either of mine, the baby was constantly trying to escape or pull the muslin off, faff around and wriggle desperately, leading to the muslin falling off and much more exposed boobs by the end of it! I found I got top/bra sorted for access, exposed tiny amount of boob for 0.3 seconds, quickly latched baby, then no boob was visible during feeding as it was all covered by baby.

I am aware that eyes can move. I am also aware that people can have different opinions to me and that doesn't mean it is okay to insult them.

See what, exactly?

A contented mum and baby?

Oh yes, I forgot about that delightful stage 🤣

Tell him " cover your lap, darling, I don't want anyone to know your dick is so very tiny".

My dd is 6 months and I feed her everywhere especially pubs and restaurants because that’s what maternity leave is for, right? 😉
Most don’t notice. it’s getting a bit more obvious now though as she’s taken to pulling off to look around which can give people an eye full but hey ho!
Your DH is being ridiculous.

Yanbu. My sister fed anywhere and I always thought how fabulous she was. Sometimes baby unlatched and I caught sight of a nipple but it's only a nipple. I hope I feel as confident if a miracle happens and I get pregnant.

I don't think much is visible anyway. I remember feeding my newborn with my top just pulled up but then his head covered the whole breast/nipple area and his body/my arms covered any belly on display. It just looked like I was holding him. So much so that my husband's uncle came and kissed his head, completely unaware that I was feeding at the time. He was pretty embarrassed when his wife pointed it out!

Then don't look or if you find that difficult, move.
By the way I have breastfed two babies and never have I had my tummy or boobs on show.

I voted yanbu as of course you should feed your baby how you like, but I'm just thinking maybe (and I'm aware this is an unpopular opinion) that your husband is just thinking he would need to defend you of any weirdos decided to say something. As much as we don't like to think of it, most men still have it in their dna to protect their partner and he may not have wanted a potential awkward situation to spoil the day

I have never had anyone so much as glance at me when breastfeeding. Certai ly haven't had to fight off any gawping weirdos.

Of course YANBU. Nobody is forced to sit staring at you breastfeeding and if they did, they’d be absolute weirdos. Most people will be too involved in their own lives to even notice you.

Don’t look then!🙄

however if neither of those things were in my line of sight then fine!!!

You know you can change what's in your line of site by moving your head, right?

Therefore it's always fine.