Breastfeeding Shamed by my DP

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On holiday with our 4 month old breastfed son.
was in a pub garden having lunch and while waiting for our food I started to feed baby.

my partner said “cover him up” and I asked why (as I never do, don’t use a weird shawl thing but I wear baggy tops and just lift them up).

his reasoning was we were in a “restaurant” and there were other people. I ignored him and carried on feeding the way I do (pointing out he’s a baby not a 10 year old child so it shouldn’t be weird for people!)

I don’t have my tits out on display while doing it and personally I think covering my baby draws more attention to what I was doing.

who was being unreasonable?

YABU - you shouldn’t breastfeed in public places without using a breastfeeding cover

YANBU - it’s perfectly natural, your DP can go do one and you shouldn’t feel ashamed about it

Just our reminder that ‘a mother’s place is in the wrong’.

Whether that be breast feeding or formula feeding. Whichever way we feed our babies, it’s wrong.

Quite mind-boggling that society is so invested in demonising women for the simple act of keeping our babies alive. What is it about feeding babies that gets people SO het up? 😵‍💫

I have two and also hate it. Days are long and tedious and I hate every minute.

YANBU

I am breastfeeding and I do use a cover, but that's just because I'm more comfortable with that. I wouldn't judge someone for not using one!

I have learnt from this thread that breastfeeding is akin to indecent exposure, pissing in public and car crashes.

Wow. No wonder bf rates are low in the UK when attitudes like these are still commonplace- and from women. It’s beyond disappointing, it’s actually upsetting.

My DH couldn’t have been more supportive of my bfing, including in public. He’d come from an extended family where babies were all ff, so bf wasn’t something he really had any experience or knowledge of. My MIL was also very supportive and encouraging of my bfing, even though she had not bf herself, by choice. Lovely woman. ❤️

It’s not hard: just support bfing mothers, or if you can’t do that, just mind your own business.

I almost filled my bingo card - we've had:

• I don't mind breastfeeding when it's done discreetly/mother is covered up

• Some women just do it for attention/to expose themselves

• Some women do it for sexual reasons (I find anyone making this suggestion quite creepy to be honest)

All we're missing is "My poor husband gets distracted", which I've seen pop up a few times on discussions about BF, as if it's the poor man's fault he can't avert his eyes!

My husband gets distracted so I don’t like women breastfeeding. . There we go. Shout bingo!

in reality, my dh respects women breastfeeding

And do you only find selfies a problem when, surprise surprise, it's a breastfeeding mother doing it?

P. S. And you may ridicule their 'brave breastfeeding', but if this thread proves anything, it's that courage sadly is necessary, based on the strange attitude many people in the UK have towards public BF.

Good god your partner is an unsupportive Neanderthal.