'D'h just quit £100k job no discussion!

[Lochnessgiraffe]

Wtf. I know that he hates it but he's got nothing to go to.
We stupidly have no savings as we've just moved house.
I'm sure he'll find something but he just announced it over coffee. Arghh!

This stopped me in my tracks! That’s shocking!😮

I find it really hard to have any sympathy for people paid a fortune compared to a lot of us, with no savings and the confidence/arrogance to leave a job paying that much.

Wow, so many assumptions that both OP doesn’t work AND doesn’t pay 50 of the bills. Some real internalised misogyny…

OP, I had this same situation, he quit, we’d paid everything 50/50 up until that point and suddenly, with no discussion, I had to cover 100% for the next 3 years whilst he decided what he wanted to do.. I was furious too.

There's no wage high enough on MN that there won't be someone claiming to be living on beans off it.

Presumably he ash notice to work so time to look for something else

I’d be pissed off too BUT it’s possible there’s something else going on, e.g. is he just at the end of his tether? I’m assuming if he earns 100k then his job is pretty stressful. I have a high stress job and some days it does make me want to just run away from it all. It doesn’t really help your financial situation but maybe he just can’t cope with it anymore.

😂 true

I’d support it. If he is a high earner, likely he will find something else soon

I know it must be a shock and of course it's now put you in a position of uncertainty, but he must have been very unhappy to just quit like that. Assuming he's not done this (or similar) before, I'd try and be supportive and encouraging. Hopefully he will find a new position soon and be happier in it. A huge chunk of our lives are spent at work. Hating work can have such a negative impact on mental health.

Ahh the mumsnet standard 100k

My partner of 40+ years quit his £100k+ per year job and continued to go to work as normal for 2 months. He had been there 25 years

He was an arsehole. We are now separated but living separate lives under one roof.
Our lease runs out in January and I am hoping with the money from the sale of a property we have he will take his bit and bugger off. The problem is he still thinks we are still “We” and I need to look for a house with 3 bedrooms as Dd isn’t here that much.
It doesn’t matter how many times I tell him he needs to start looking at where “He” is going to live and yes I am looking for something with 3bedrooms but it is him who won’t be getting a bedroom, not Dd.
I think he thinks he will be coming into my bed or getting a sofa bed.

Perhaps because posters are finding some of the OP a little unbelievable?

I guess it depends on the the circumstances. 100k is a lot of money and they usually want blood for that kind of pay. My uncle was earning about 60K a few years ago, and they ran him ragged, eventually he collapsed in the street and had to give it up due to poor health. He works in a small local business now and is much happier.

I think that something must be very wrong if he turned his back on 100K. I mean he sould have spoken to you about it but there are plenty of jobs at the moment so he'll find something, even if he earns half that amount you will be ok. You might have to make some adjustments but you'll be doing better than most people.

I'd rather be destitute than deal with the marathon running bullshitters on linkedin

Top sign the company don't really want you when they extend probation periods.
Sounds like he made the right move but he should have have just stocked it at and just applied for more suitable roles. He can always explain his immediate availability yo new employers

I don't find the OP at all unbelievable. It is very, very believable in the industry I work in and I've seen lots of people get themselves into the 'D'H's position and not even tell the partner for months, never mind dot consult them.

I know one guy who got let go at 6m for being ineffective who never told his wife - he just styled it out for 3 months until he got a new job and just made out it was his choice.

I also know lots of people that earn similarly who can't save on that salary - mortgage in the SE, couple kids in private school, nice car on lease, couple of holidays a year, easily done, not as uncommon as people who aren't in that world might think. Rightly or wrongly, nothing about this OP is hard for me to believe.

🤣🤣🤣

Not internalised misogyny - frustration at the stealth boasting.
OP later reveals that expenses are 50/50 & that she can cover the household budget for a short while because this term's school fees are already paid.

Her H has been highhanded but appears to be back on the job search to replace this lost income, so it's hard to feel much sympathy, compared to, say a zero hours contract worker putting in the commute & 60 hours & still not making ends meet.

Why OP felt she had to broadcast the divisive notion of £100k a year gigs is still beyond me.

This thread reminds me of something I read on here some time ago.

Think about how intelligent the average person is, then remember that approx. 50% of the population will be less intelligent than that.

£100k job doesn’t have to be in sales. It could be that he wasn’t a cultural fit or he was pressed to do things he didn’t want to or wasn’t expecting to do.

He will get another job as it’s a candidates market so I am sure once the initial confidence dent has been overcome, he will be fine.

If you’re spending £8k a month, this is what needs addressing.

Maybe he was the prime minister, he did technically quit after doing what added up to about 6 months work in 3 years.

6 months sounds like the end of a probation period. There’s more to this than meets the eye I think. I’ve never met anyone in real life who’s just quit a job with nothing else lined up.

I wasn't intending on stealth boasting. Yes I can cover our outgoings to a certain extent but it was a shock this morning.
He's applied for a few jobs and sounds confident he'll get something quickly.
I was just needing to vent.

My DH had a similar situation at a well known brand. Awful management, job not what it was described. He's now working and respected at a new firm. @Lochnessgiraffe I'm sure he'll get something, and it will be the best thing he did. Expect it to take about 3 months or more though. Interview processes seem so protracted these days.

That is not on to quit without consulting. DH has just turned down a contract extension worth the same pa, but even that he discussed with me fully beforehand. He wants to take some time to work on his own project and he has ensured he has plenty in the bank to cover that period, so it's irresponsible not to mention it and do it at a time when things are tight.

The last thread that I read like this, it turned out the DH had been sacked for sexual harassment. Gave his wife a long story about quitting/stress/not the right job etc etc and it all slowly came out…