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Original poster

'D'h just quit £100k job no discussion!

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Lochnessgiraffe · 01/08/2022 11:48

Wtf. I know that he hates it but he's got nothing to go to.
We stupidly have no savings as we've just moved house.
I'm sure he'll find something but he just announced it over coffee. Arghh!

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Mennex · 01/08/2022 12:05

Yes they will have 'agreed to go separate ways' for sure if that has happened at the exact 6m mark.

KettrickenSmiled · 01/08/2022 12:05

Chocolatelabradorsarethebest · 01/08/2022 11:58

Why have you started a second tread on exactly the same topic, but this time with the humble brag of it being a £100k a year job? www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4602128-quitting-work-with-nowhere-to-go

maybe spend less time on Mumsnet starting multiple treads and speak to your DH??

Maybe spend less time on mumsnet bemoaning the loss of your husband's high-earning job, & go to work yourself OP?

Original poster
Lochnessgiraffe · 01/08/2022 12:06

Who said I don't work?

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SummerInSun · 01/08/2022 12:07

My guess is he had a six month probation period, it wasn't working out, and he knew he wouldn't pass probation so walked before they told him he hadn't passed.

ittakes2 · 01/08/2022 12:09

If he hated the job its likely they noticed and he is telling you he quit but possibly they suggested he was not a good fit. Explains why no discussion with you.

xyzabchij · 01/08/2022 12:11

Maybe spend less time on mumsnet bemoaning the loss of your husband's high-earning job, & go to work yourself OP?

What a stupid thing to say

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:13

So few companies do probationary periods these days - I wouldn't say that's the reason he's left. There is something else going on though.

Toottooot · 01/08/2022 12:14

Good for him if he’s nae happy.

Ontomatopea · 01/08/2022 12:14

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:13

So few companies do probationary periods these days - I wouldn't say that's the reason he's left. There is something else going on though.

Really? Most companies in my sector insist on a 3-6 month probation

MerchedBeca · 01/08/2022 12:15

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:13

So few companies do probationary periods these days - I wouldn't say that's the reason he's left. There is something else going on though.

Eh? Every job I've ever had has done a probationary period. They're still standard practice as far as I know.

Although I've not had a £100k job, admittedly.

Floofboopsnootandbork · 01/08/2022 12:15

KettrickenSmiled · 01/08/2022 12:05

Maybe spend less time on mumsnet bemoaning the loss of your husband's high-earning job, & go to work yourself OP?

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Op already said they pay everything 50/50 so she clearly does work, but even if she didn’t does it matter?

CanIBeElectric2 · 01/08/2022 12:15

I can’t believe a working couple, with at least one earning £100k, have no savings. What a scary way to live!

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 01/08/2022 12:17

How much notice has he given? Long enough to get a new role? What is his current plan?

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:17

I've had one job with a probationary period in the last 10 years - that's across 4 businesses.
Most places stopped when the government changed the ruling so that you basically have no employment rights for the first two years.

Betty000 · 01/08/2022 12:17

So you knew he hated it and was unhappy yet you are furious he has quit? Is his mental health not important to you? Your material objects are worth shit in comparison. Why not support him and talk with him about his reasons why

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 01/08/2022 12:17

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 01/08/2022 11:57

6 months.. I’d expect he’s failed probation tbh.

It does sound like that

PegasusReturns · 01/08/2022 12:19

What’s his notice period? It’s probably 3mths which means you at least have some breathing space whilst he continues to get paid.

FourTeaFallOut · 01/08/2022 12:20

Of course it is ridiculous to give up a job before you secure another when you have no savings. To decide to do so unilaterally and without warning and render your family more vulnerable must be maddening, op.

Ontomatopea · 01/08/2022 12:20

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:17

I've had one job with a probationary period in the last 10 years - that's across 4 businesses.
Most places stopped when the government changed the ruling so that you basically have no employment rights for the first two years.

That's really interesting thanks, I'll watch out for that if I switch sector's.

Poptart4 · 01/08/2022 12:20

Lochnessgiraffe · 01/08/2022 11:55

He's been there 6 months and it wasn't the right fit. I knew he wanted to quit but thought he'd find somewhere else first.

It sounds like he didnt pass his probation period and hes just telling you he quit to save face.

Meowmeowmeowmeowmeow · 01/08/2022 12:20

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 01/08/2022 11:57

6 months.. I’d expect he’s failed probation tbh.

Of course he has 😂

Original poster
Lochnessgiraffe · 01/08/2022 12:20

I'm not furious just annoyed he didn't discuss it before he quit today. Only 1 weeks notice. No real plan just a vague I'll find something.

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BellePeppa · 01/08/2022 12:21

KettrickenSmiled · 01/08/2022 12:05

Maybe spend less time on mumsnet bemoaning the loss of your husband's high-earning job, & go to work yourself OP?

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You can be on MN while sitting on the toilet! OP has not said she doesn’t work.

FourTeaFallOut · 01/08/2022 12:22

Well one of you needs to do something before the something is default on the mortgage.

mumto2teenagers · 01/08/2022 12:22

Is he working his notice? If so will that be enough time for him to find another job.

I agree he should have discussed it with you first before quitting.

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