'D'h just quit £100k job no discussion!

[Lochnessgiraffe]

Wtf. I know that he hates it but he's got nothing to go to.
We stupidly have no savings as we've just moved house.
I'm sure he'll find something but he just announced it over coffee. Arghh!

I can assure you mine is not a fantasy. He's really quite annoying

And yet you must know they exist 🤷🏻‍♀️

This shit needs to stop, it holds people down by pretending it's completely impossible. There is a lot of money sloshing about in London&SW, who the hell do you think affords to live in all these 800k+ houses.

Just RTFT - yes, that situation makes sense to me.

If you pay bills 50/50 that must mean you're also a high earner so at least you'll be able to cover essentials until he finds another job?

Every cloud and all that. Just thank your lucky stars you're not lower earners who are a pay packet or two away from the poorhouse and are trapped in jobs they hate unless they can find a new one before they quit.

There are a lot of very unpleasant people on this thread

You see, that logic makes sense to me but I've been on MN long enough to know some of these even-stevens relationships can leave one partner living on buttons at the end of the month while the other spunks their abundance extra money up the wall.

It sounds like he knew he wasn't going to pass his probation period, so probably jumped before being pushed. It's awful for you, but he probably had no choice.

8 months notice period here. Its a 2-way security blanket.

Yes this would annoy me. Is this 'typical' behaviour or are his actions usually more considered?

If this is unusual, then I would at least hear him out. He must be desperately unhappy and this role may have been affecting his mental health.

Which sector is he in? Some areas have so many jobs going at the moment

On this thread I see jealousy, Naivety and just pure madness. As if there aren't people earning 100K or even more IRL? 😂

Thank goodness for the handful of posters who actually have a working brain.

My company has a blanket 6 months probation for everyone, from £25k finance officers, to the CEO!

I'm looking to move into the Civil Service at the senior end, and they too advise 6 month probation period, so it's quite common.

@Johnnysgirl Why are you presenting your opinion as a fact? It’s people like you who drive the nastiness on mumsnet by being unable to accept that some peoples lives and circumstances differ from your own. Reported you for troll hunting, this has to stop

Failed his probation?

I was not troll hunting, just suggesting that what he told her is not necessarily what actually happened.
But hey, I'll probably be deleted anyway, now that you've decreed it so 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'd be really upset that he didn't talk to me first. He doesn't need permission, but it's reasonable of you to have expected open communication from the person you are sharing a life with.

Hopefully he finds something more suitable soon.

He has every right to quit but he should have had something else lined up first or at the very least told you what he was planning.

Its sounds like you’re on a similar wage so financially it’s not an issue but it still needs to be spoken about.

Was it a spur of the moment thing?

Was this discussed though?
As you said he hated it so maybe he thought by him saying he hates it and is going to quit is actually discussing it.

I can’t see any job that I’d hate so much that I’d turn down £100k and the chance to wfh!!

My DH walked from a job when his probation was extended and it caused loads of hassle in the short term as any subsequent reference put “failed probation”. So unless he has agreed what is going on his references already, he needs to have the discussion with his current employer urgently. It’s taken us best part of 2.5 years to get back on our feet after it, and he wasn’t earning anything near your DH’s salary.

Of course your monthly expenses and joint income are relevant to hpw stressful this situation is going to be. If you cqn ger by for a few months on your wage alone then things shouldn't be too bad. If he gets a new jiob fairly quickly.

How do you know she isn't working?

Uncessarily bitchy

Because a successful salesperson in IT can potentially make the company (and themselves) millions in ACV (recurring annual revenue) in very short periods of times - 1, 2 years and that is what a company's market capitalization is based on - particularly important for pre-IPO companies (start ups, essentially), which a lot of IT companies are if you dont work for a Microsoft or a Dell.

If you bring nothing in in the first 6 months or you aren't manageable or cause friction in the team or annoy the Sales Director then, in a nutshell, the sunk cost of what it cost to employ you and pay you base salary for 6 months is insignificant compared to what someone who is a better fit could earn for the company over the following 6 months. It's financially better to cut their losses if its not working out.

IT Sales is a (potentially) ridiculously well compensated profession but it is brutal and companies don't carry people for more than 6 months - quite simply because they don't have to. There is always someone else waiting in the wings that could be way, way more successful - through luck, timing or personality.

They do often crop up somewhere else and have better success at a different company though.

I would say it is possible that he did not pass his probation period (as this is usually 3 or 6 months).

Or he was told his performance would need to improve drastically and the probation period was going to be extended and he decided to quit instead.

Whatever the reasons for his leaving if he did not have the right skills and was miserable in that role, it was never going to work out...

It happens OP. No amount of discussion I would say would have changed anything.

I would focus on what comes next rather than dwell on the anger you feel.

It is better for him in the long term to be in a job he enjoys and is capable or doing rather than trying to hold on to something just because it is a ''£100,000 job''....

I would say it is possible that he did not pass his probation period (as this is usually 3 or 6 months).

I would say it is possible that OP already explained he quit as he was told his probation would be extended.

@Lochnessgiraffe Vent away! I can definitely see why it’s so annoying. Such a big decision to make on his own, especially if everything’s 50/50. Sounds like he basically had a moment of madness 😬

Fwiw I would definitely also go into cheerleader mode if you can manage it, and try to be really positive and supportive about his decision. Reassure him he’ll find something better soon. He’s unlikely to be able to get the job back and he’s going to need confidence to get something good, and quickly!
When it fully sinks in what he’s done, he’ll probably really appreciate you resisting the temptation to give him a hard time.
While you’re on here though, vent to your heart’s content 💐