'D'h just quit £100k job no discussion!

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Wtf. I know that he hates it but he's got nothing to go to.
We stupidly have no savings as we've just moved house.
I'm sure he'll find something but he just announced it over coffee. Arghh!

Yeah that would piss me off too. How strange to just quit and not speak to your partner first!

I also understand he is his own person and doesn't have to work where he doesn't want to but once in a couple where you share finances, this absolutely needs to to discussed.

to be discussed *

So what’s his plan?

What happened? Did he spontaneously quit, did it all get too much for him, or maybe he was even let go?
I presume you talked it out with him after (or will do when he gets home?!), just incase there's more behind this & he's not just being incredibly irresponsible.
Was the workplace making him very unhappy maybe?

I'd be wondering if he got sacked.

He's been there 6 months and it wasn't the right fit. I knew he wanted to quit but thought he'd find somewhere else first.

More to this than meets the eye IMO

Me too.

Sometimes the pressure to be the main earner can be massive. If he had said to you that he was burning out and at the end of his tether would you have said yes quit- or would you have said no and he had to find something else?

Was he pushed?

6 months.. I’d expect he’s failed probation tbh.

No he definitely quit he wfh so I'm aware what's been going on.

I’ve had an unhappy high earner husband. It’s not worth it.

Why have you started a second tread on exactly the same topic, but this time with the humble brag of it being a £100k a year job? www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4602128-quitting-work-with-nowhere-to-go

maybe spend less time on Mumsnet starting multiple treads and speak to your DH??

Another person thinking he’s been sacked

He should have discussed it with you first before making a decision but equally do not underestimate the stress of working in a job that you hate. I have been there, it is horrible and impacts on the quality of life profoundly. If he is on that kind of salary I assume he is pretty well qualified and experienced so hopefully will find something soon.

I just want to be able to vent as I have no one in real life to talk to about this.

Sohe wasn't passed on his 6m probation then?

Was it a sales job? That's very common. And 'not the right cultural fit' is the reason given everytime. I've seen it from the sidelines at the company I work for at least 8 times in 3 years.

They normally bounce back pretty quickly somewhere else if that's any consolation.

I also can't help wondering if there's more to this than meets the eye.
My ex DH did this (on a job paying considerably less). Then asked me to support him while he started his own business.

I divorced him. I don't think you can come back from that level of high handedness and disrespect tbh.

You knew he hated the job, you admit you knew he wanted to quit so something is off that he couldn’t tell you.

How much does your income cover the bills?

How are you "aware" of everything? You read all of his emails, attend all of the meetings, listen to all of his conversations?

It looks like he failed his 6 month probation. Normal professionals do not just quit a £100k job when they don’t have another job lined up are in a relationship and have financial commitments. If he has genuinely resigned, which I doubt, this is absolutely something that should be discussed within a relationship.

We pay 50/50 so he doesnt pay for everything.