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'D'h just quit £100k job no discussion!

270 replies

Lochnessgiraffe · 01/08/2022 11:48

Wtf. I know that he hates it but he's got nothing to go to.
We stupidly have no savings as we've just moved house.
I'm sure he'll find something but he just announced it over coffee. Arghh!

OP posts:
gatehouseoffleet · 01/08/2022 12:30

Normal professionals do not just quit a £100k job when they don’t have another job lined up are in a relationship and have financial commitments.

They can however lose their jobs. It happens frequently. Even if you are a good performer and the company is doing well - reorganisations happen and you are out. And of course sometimes your face just doesn't fit.

Jalisco · 01/08/2022 12:31

whysomanyvipers · 01/08/2022 12:24

One week notice is standard whilst during probation, no matter how much you're paid.

It probably would have gone up to 3 or even 6 months after probation. Which he's probably failed given the dodgy timing.

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It isn't standard anywhere that I know of. Because those who can command £100k a year would never accept a job with only 1 weeks notice at any point in time. I am not on £100k but I do have a very good income; and "starting notice" is 2 months in my line of work, rising to 4 months after probation. There is no way on God's earth that I, or anyone I know, would accept a job that only had a 1 week notice period.

daisychain01 · 01/08/2022 12:32

"Quitting with nothing lined up is not great and quitting without a discussion is even worse but sometimes people just break.

What, this senior manager on £100k breaks after 6 months? 🙄

Coffeaddict · 01/08/2022 12:33

Lochnessgiraffe · 01/08/2022 11:55

He's been there 6 months and it wasn't the right fit. I knew he wanted to quit but thought he'd find somewhere else first.

6 months is often the time frame for probation periods. Are you sure he didn't get a heads up that he was going to fail it ao instead he stood back?

RedWingBoots · 01/08/2022 12:34

Normal professionals do not just quit a £100k job when they don’t have another job lined up are in a relationship and have financial commitments.

Not true.

The more you earn above average the more likely you are to quit with no job to go to.

I've had friends who have done this. And more recently a director at a company I was working for quit as they burnt him out. He got another job within 2 months.

Jalisco · 01/08/2022 12:34

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:27

Probably because losing £100,000 a year is massively different to losing £12,000 a year

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Not if you need the £12k to live on it isn't! Or do you think that people who have a job that pays £12k a year wouldn't care if they lost their income?

Mennex · 01/08/2022 12:34

It's very standard in IT sales jobs efore your 6m probation I afraid.

Ontomatopea · 01/08/2022 12:35

Jalisco · 01/08/2022 12:34

Not if you need the £12k to live on it isn't! Or do you think that people who have a job that pays £12k a year wouldn't care if they lost their income?

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Of course they would. But it is much much easier to get a £12,000 job than a £100,000 job as there are more of them.

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:35

Not if you need the £12k to live on it isn't! Or do you think that people who have a job that pays £12k a year wouldn't care if they lost their income?

It's way easier to find another job that pays £12000 a year than it is to find a job that pays £100,000 a year...

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 01/08/2022 12:35

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:13

So few companies do probationary periods these days - I wouldn't say that's the reason he's left. There is something else going on though.

really?!!

RedWingBoots · 01/08/2022 12:35

daisychain01 · 01/08/2022 12:32

"Quitting with nothing lined up is not great and quitting without a discussion is even worse but sometimes people just break.

What, this senior manager on £100k breaks after 6 months? 🙄

If you have worked for some of the shit companies I've worked for in the past, you wouldn't be surprised.

I always find it funny when I work for a company where they say how disorganised they are. There is nothing wrong not being perfectly organised there is a problem if you are nasty micromanaging people.

Ontomatopea · 01/08/2022 12:36

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:35

Not if you need the £12k to live on it isn't! Or do you think that people who have a job that pays £12k a year wouldn't care if they lost their income?

It's way easier to find another job that pays £12000 a year than it is to find a job that pays £100,000 a year...

Snap

Jalisco · 01/08/2022 12:36

The more you earn above average the more likely you are to quit with no job to go to.

That may be true of you have substantial savings as a result of that income. The OP says they have no savings and have just moved house (so presumably have a new mortgage?).

FourTeaFallOut · 01/08/2022 12:36

RedWingBoots · 01/08/2022 12:34

Normal professionals do not just quit a £100k job when they don’t have another job lined up are in a relationship and have financial commitments.

Not true.

The more you earn above average the more likely you are to quit with no job to go to.

I've had friends who have done this. And more recently a director at a company I was working for quit as they burnt him out. He got another job within 2 months.

Perhaps. But this is usually because these employees usually have enough financial security in the bank to endure a bump. But this family has none.

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:36

@Ontomatopea I'm not sure whether people are just here being obtuse or stupid today Grin

Mention a high earner and everyone loses their minds.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 01/08/2022 12:37

I worked with a bloke in the NHS recently who was always getting sacked for incompetence. he always told his wife he'd given in his notice because everyone bullied him and he couldn't stay there another day.
Truth is he just wasn't up to the job.
The NHS is a small world and people from different trusts speak to each other all the time. Everyone knew what was going on........except his wife sadly.

RedWingBoots · 01/08/2022 12:37

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 01/08/2022 12:35

really?!!

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Yep.

In some cases they are planning on getting rid of you after 12-18 months anyway.

That's why you should always be nice to the financial director of a company.

Floralnomad · 01/08/2022 12:37

How have you used all your savings moving house when you rent ? I also don’t think your husband has simply quit his job , it’s way more likely that he’s either been let go or has jumped before he was pushed .

Vikinga · 01/08/2022 12:38

Can you live on your income alone?
Has he started looking for another job?

It isn't on that he didnt discuss things with you before quitting.

Hope he gets another job asap op.

Ontomatopea · 01/08/2022 12:39

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:36

@Ontomatopea I'm not sure whether people are just here being obtuse or stupid today Grin

Mention a high earner and everyone loses their minds.

Jealousy

Picassopoocasso · 01/08/2022 12:39

Jalisco · 01/08/2022 12:31

It isn't standard anywhere that I know of. Because those who can command £100k a year would never accept a job with only 1 weeks notice at any point in time. I am not on £100k but I do have a very good income; and "starting notice" is 2 months in my line of work, rising to 4 months after probation. There is no way on God's earth that I, or anyone I know, would accept a job that only had a 1 week notice period.

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I agree with this. 1 week notice is questionable. Another one thinking he was pushed.

10HailMarys · 01/08/2022 12:40

He's failed his six-month probation, definitely.

I realise you've just moved house but if you both work and one of you is on £100K, it's mad that you have zero savings.

MontanaMountains · 01/08/2022 12:41

KettrickenSmiled · 01/08/2022 12:05

Maybe spend less time on mumsnet bemoaning the loss of your husband's high-earning job, & go to work yourself OP?

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Maybe spend time reading the OP's posts. She does work and pays 50% outgoings.

JocelynBurnell · 01/08/2022 12:44

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 12:17

I've had one job with a probationary period in the last 10 years - that's across 4 businesses.
Most places stopped when the government changed the ruling so that you basically have no employment rights for the first two years.

The first two years are essentially a probation period.

Yes, companies no longer use the six-month milestone to inform a new employee that they have 'now passed probation'. Why would they when they can avail of an additional year and a half trial period?

However, many companies still use the six-month milestone as a time to cut ties with new employees who are not working out.

Hallamus · 01/08/2022 12:45

Maybe it’s time for you to step up and find a job on a similar wage. It must be hard for him if he’s expected to contribute much more to the family

He doesn't, they contribute equally?

So much ingrained misogyny in this thread assuming that she makes a lesser financial contribution.

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