'D'h just quit £100k job no discussion!

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Wtf. I know that he hates it but he's got nothing to go to.
We stupidly have no savings as we've just moved house.
I'm sure he'll find something but he just announced it over coffee. Arghh!

Give your head a wobble
100k job 1 week notice 😂😂

Perhaps his manager indicated he wouldn't be kept on and waned rather than waited to be pushed. If that isn't the case then he needs to grow up. I don't say this lightly. I have worked in places I hated and had more than enough reason to walk out on occasion, but at the end of the day you can't live on air so I got on with things and got back to work whilst job hunting. This was before I had responsibilities of a house or kids. These days I certainly wouldn't quit without at least giving my husband the heads up.

If you pay 50:50 when he was earning £100k, presumably you're on good money too, and given you're married... well, you'll have to support him for a bit.

Are you happy with your job, or do you also hate what you do? That would have a high impact on how annoyed I would feel.

Given he quit around the 6-month mark with nothing lined up, honestly, I suspect he's been told to quit or be fired, and he's too ashamed to tell you.

If you've moved into a mortgaged house, at least he quit after the new mortgage was sorted. Silver linings.

Once you've both had some time to gather your thoughts, he needs to explain what the next steps are. He's created this situation by leaving, so he needs to have a plan. As his partner, you should support him right now, but that support has a time limit, or it goes from being supportive to being a mug.

What did you feel that his salary needed a mention?

One week notice is standard whilst during probation, no matter how much you're paid.

It probably would have gone up to 3 or even 6 months after probation. Which he's probably failed given the dodgy timing.

If there was a probationary period , once you are past it you are looking at 3-6 months notice so maybe he couldn't bare the thought of that extra time. Time to get on linked in.

Only one week notice! Maybe he uncovered something unscrupulous and they agreed he should leave.

So many snarky comments on this thread assuming the OP doesn't work!
Whether the DP is the sole earner or not, making such a big decision should absolutely be discussed first.
I'd be wanting to know exactly what he has planned and how he is going to make up the shortfall in income.

If it's within the first 6 months that's normally a probationary period and the notice is usually a week.

If he gets on LinkedIn someone will snap him up if he's paid that much now. He might just have to take a step down career wise.

Oh dear! My husband did the same thing a few years ago and I was so stressed. He had another job within a week so I wouldn’t worry too much.

I have never worked anywhere where there wasn't a probationary period, although they treat them with differing amounts of seriousness - with some you barely know about it, others do a probationary review and have every intention of getting rid of you if you don't achieve all your targets. It is pointless though as there are no employment rights in the first two years anyway (other than for discrimination).

It's highly unlikely he's left the job voluntarily. He's either quit before he's pushed, or he was pushed.

I don't know why it's a stupid idea to tell the OP to get a job if she doesn't already work. But then I have almost always been the main breadwinner and find it alien to rely on a man.

That's not a great marriage.

Have you children?

Probably because losing £100,000 a year is massively different to losing £12,000 a year

Why not support him and talk with him about his reasons why

Which he should have done with OP before quiting.

Maybe it’s time for you to step up and find a job on a similar wage. It must be hard for him if he’s expected to contribute much more to the family

😄😄😄😄😄😄😄😄 This is a joke right?

HE quits his job with no notice, and SHE is expected to fix the situation. By conjuring up a £100k job. That's amazing. Also you haven't a clue what the OP does earn already and what other responsibilities either of them have re childcare/household etc.

Also, what can you do to earn more? It's.not just on the man. Though I appreciate it's a shock

I'd be wanting to know exactly what he has planned and how he is going to make up the shortfall in income

IF he has quit, which is unlikely.

Far more likely is he was let go, in which case he needs support and kindness.

I am glad I was not married to you when I lost my job a few years ago. Fortunately my husband was nothing but supportive and kind and there was no "you'd better find another job and fast because you need to make up the shortfall in income".

Normal professionals do not just quit a £100k job when they don’t have another job lined up are in a relationship and have financial commitments.

I have known 'normal' people quit jobs because for whatever reason, the culture, management, workload, bullying etc became unbearable and for their own mental health they spent a few weeks watching homes under the hammer and mentally recharging before returning to the work place. Quitting with nothing lined up is not great and quitting without a discussion is even worse but sometimes people just break.

Yes! And harder to find a replacement job at that level. Especially if mortgage etc are to be considered.

HE quits his job with no notice, and SHE is expected to fix the situation. By conjuring up a £100k job

As many have pointed out, he almost certainly didn't quit.

I mentioned the money as it's a lot a month to lose.

Irrelevant. It's still not feasible for her to make up the extra £100,000 shortfall.

Even if she is a high earner, it's still impossible to increase your salary by that much within a week.

So you pay 50/50, but unless your salary is also £100K, that means he's left with a hellava lot of surplus cash at the end of the month.

Seems incredible that a senior professional at that level of earnings "doesn't have any savings" - are you really saying you're living hand to mouth on £100K plus whatever you earn....