To think she is being a right CF?!

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Anon638292 · 31/07/2022 11:45

My lifelong friend had a baby shower recently. Her and DH don’t have much money to spare and it’s their first long awaited child, so I really went all out for them - a big item off their list, about £200 worth of baby clothes, a big gift for the mum-to-be, the full works.

HOWEVER…

The next day I then got sent a link, one of these ones where you can donate to buy them a slice of cake in a shop etc, saying ‘if you ever feel like spoiling me at all one day…’

AIBU to think this is being a right CF given that I had just been overly generous and ‘spoilt’ her the day before?!

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diddl · 03/08/2022 07:58

BR1967 · 02/08/2022 21:35

I am sure she appreciated your gift, but you treated her baby not her! I aways put a little something in my gift expressly for Mom like bubble bath or sweet treats. That is maybe what she was searching for-to satisfy a craving not being met by anyone.

Well apart from the fact that Op did actually buy her a gift as well, it was a baby shower!

What a self absorbed twat if she would begrudge her baby shower being about her baby!

LovelyIssues · 03/08/2022 10:53

That is so cringe! I would put a laughing emoji back and send her some expensive jewellery back that you'd like if she fancied spoiling you.

Mollymoostoo · 03/08/2022 11:36

Aprilx · 31/07/2022 12:17

I have never heard of these “things” that you send to people asking them to buy you cake. How utterly bizarre! I would think that is cheeky whether I had just bought somebody a baby present or not.

This ^^

mybiggestfan · 03/08/2022 12:19

Why do people think its OK to beg off their friends?

Mummyofmaniacs · 03/08/2022 17:40

WhatsInAMolatovMocktail · 31/07/2022 12:32

Yanbu

I’d write back and say, “I thought I spoiled you rotten yesterday and I did put a lot of thought into my gifts for you and for the baby, but I know sometimes gifts are a “miss”. If there is anything you didn’t especially like or if you are having second thoughts about the [big item on gift list], please let me know and I will get a refund. Then I can fund your cake habit for a year or so! 😉’

That gets my vote for the best reply!

Holland65 · 05/08/2022 14:48

Just ignore it since it was a message sent to a group that you're part of. She well aware of all the work you put in. If you want you can bake her a whole cake and say "here you go. A while cake rather than a slice."

AtrociousCircumstance · 05/08/2022 16:43

What did you reply in the end OP?

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