Page 7 | To think she is being a right CF?!

Anon638292 · 2022-07-31T10:45:31+00:00

My lifelong friend had a baby shower recently. Her and DH don’t have much money to spare and it’s their first long awaited child, so I really went all out for them - a big item off their list, about £200 worth of baby clothes, a big gift for the mum-to-be, the full works. HOWEVER… The next day I then got sent a link, one of these ones where you can donate to buy them a slice of cake in a shop etc, saying ‘if you ever feel like spoiling me at all one day…’ AIBU to think this is being a right CF given that I had just been overly generous and ‘spoilt’ her the day before?!

WhiskerPatrol · 02/08/2022 20:34

This can't be real. You spent literally hundreds on baby shower presents? Presumably you are so wealthy that you could afford to do that so I guess your friend sees nothing wrong in trying to shake you down for all she can get. Maybe don't flash the cash around so much if you don't want people taking advantage!

alwaysmovingforwards · 02/08/2022 20:35

Who the fuck asks as another to buy them a slice of cake!?!
Hahaha, what a moronic ask.

I'd reply, "If we're out having a coffee, of course I'll buy you some cake. If you're just at home though and want cake, buy it or make it yourself you cheeky fucker!"

Sorrynotsorry22 · 02/08/2022 20:36

I agree, just a cc message, no need to respond.

Buythebag40 · 02/08/2022 20:56

This has got to be a joke? Even if they're hard up, what's a loaf of mcvities ginger cake go for in B&M bargains these days...a quid?!

Or maybe the baby hormones are getting to her and she's turned into a pregnant kind of bridezilla (mumzilla?) and thinks everything's about her and you should be thrilled to spend more money on buying her cake to shove in her greedy gob!

cherish123 · 02/08/2022 21:07

A list for baby clothes?! Very entitled.
£200 is a lot.
Why would you send a link to get someone to buy them a treat? Very bizarre and, yes, cheeky.

MargaretThursday · 02/08/2022 21:14

I like cake too. And I never had a baby shower. Anyone who wants to give me a slice of cake (especially chocolate) is welcome.
Although I wouldn't have wanted a slice of cake in pregnancy as I had morning sickness throughout and all cake (and most other food) made me vomit.

Do I get any sympathy votes please?

xxcatcatcatxx · 02/08/2022 21:16

Ohhhhhh because the stuff was for the baby so the baby was being spoiled, not her. Obviously she was though but still xxx

evilharpy · 02/08/2022 21:24

I really feel like this must have been some sort of competition entry or send a referral code to a friend type thing that's gone a bit wrong. I'd think nothing of it if one of my best friends tagged me in some "like and share" FB competition, jokingly saying "buy me this cake or we can no longer be friends" type of thing. Or put my email address in and added a stupid message to get an extra free entry for referring a friend.

She may of course have just been a grabby arsehole, but I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

xxcatcatcatxx · 02/08/2022 21:26

Oh, you said you’d got her a gift too, forgot that. Scrap that then this makes no sense at all. Let us know if you find an answer xxx

Flippingnora100 · 02/08/2022 21:33

What about, ‘I’m confused. I (happily) really pushed the boat out for you and the baby with the presents I got you. Then I got this message asking me to also buy you cake and now I feel weird about it. Partly it’s because I’ve already willingly given you several presents and partly because it feels strange to be asked to buy you things. I’m wondering if I have got the wrong end of the stick somehow? In future I think we should go back to not asking each other for presents. That way if we do buy each other things, it’s because we want to.

BR1967 · 02/08/2022 21:35

I am sure she appreciated your gift, but you treated her baby not her! I aways put a little something in my gift expressly for Mom like bubble bath or sweet treats. That is maybe what she was searching for-to satisfy a craving not being met by anyone.

rnsaslkih · 02/08/2022 21:45

She might now see you as a cash cow

I'd watch out

BoogieBoogieWoogie · 02/08/2022 21:56

BR1967 · 02/08/2022 21:35

I am sure she appreciated your gift, but you treated her baby not her! I aways put a little something in my gift expressly for Mom like bubble bath or sweet treats. That is maybe what she was searching for-to satisfy a craving not being met by anyone.

Maybe read the OP. She clearly says she bought the mum to be a gift

Lem1984 · 02/08/2022 22:08

Just type back..

Gestational diabetes......you are welcome

Lem1984 · 02/08/2022 22:09

BTW it was a joke! I know that this occurs regardless of diet!

Lomex · 02/08/2022 22:17

Really don't understand some people's friendships. If this was a close friend of mine I'd assume they were joking and remind them they just had a load of presents - and maybe send them a bbc food recipe for cake

ThinWomansBrain · 02/08/2022 22:21

Wow - CF!
If she is hard up now, she's going to be even more financially strapped once she's had the baby - forget cake, she'll be sending you her online tesco bill next.

Is "buy me cake" like the "buy me a coffee" things you get on Twitter? I do contribute to one of those - it's an entertaining daily tweet and the woman clearly puts a lot of time into it - but just randomly asking a friend who's very generously given you gifts worth £££+?

I think I'd back off and see less of her. And her bloody "buy me presents" baby showers.

ThinWomansBrain · 02/08/2022 22:30

www.hauteandhealthyliving.com/prevent-excess-pregnancy-weight-gain/

Juat reply with this link if she's happy messaging CF links

Genevieva · 02/08/2022 23:01

I trust you replied to say you will be tightening your belt for a while after forking out the best part of £500 on her presents, but you will keep it in mind for the future.

Genevieva · 02/08/2022 23:02

PS the keep in mind is to keep her complete lack of gratitude in mind, but you don't need to say that.

Tillsforthrills · 02/08/2022 23:03

WhatsInAMolatovMocktail · 31/07/2022 12:32

Yanbu

I’d write back and say, “I thought I spoiled you rotten yesterday and I did put a lot of thought into my gifts for you and for the baby, but I know sometimes gifts are a “miss”. If there is anything you didn’t especially like or if you are having second thoughts about the [big item on gift list], please let me know and I will get a refund. Then I can fund your cake habit for a year or so! 😉’

This would be a killer reply!

Tillsforthrills · 02/08/2022 23:08

WhiskerPatrol · 02/08/2022 20:34

This can't be real. You spent literally hundreds on baby shower presents? Presumably you are so wealthy that you could afford to do that so I guess your friend sees nothing wrong in trying to shake you down for all she can get. Maybe don't flash the cash around so much if you don't want people taking advantage!

Ahhh so it was all the OP’s fault in the end, for splashing out for a special occasion for a dear friend.

LolaButt · 02/08/2022 23:18

Anyone I’ve ever known like this, is always the same. Pleads poverty, rolls out the sob story and gets a load of charity from people.

They then will show up with a £1500 pram
or something which makes you wonder if you imagined it all.

I don’t think she needs any cake.

Londoncallingme · 03/08/2022 07:51

Notimeforaname · 31/07/2022 12:10

You just write back " I've already spoiled you"

^
Thats good, do that, if you’re a coward (like me) then add a smiley face.

Londoncallingme · 03/08/2022 07:55

BR1967 · 02/08/2022 21:35

I am sure she appreciated your gift, but you treated her baby not her! I aways put a little something in my gift expressly for Mom like bubble bath or sweet treats. That is maybe what she was searching for-to satisfy a craving not being met by anyone.

A gift for baby is a gift for parents but actually op did buy the mum her own gift. But even if she hadn’t - she was ‘craving’ for a gift for herself? A pathetic excuse for her greed.