There needs to be a work/life balance so that couples can spend at least a few days a month together undisturbed from the restraint of work. My first marriage broke up because we were never both at home together for more than a few hours at a time, and if he worked overtime, that we never got to spend the night together for weeks sometimes. The inevitable happened, he started to have an affair with someone working similar hours to himself, and when l found out about this l could never forgive him, and the marriage crumbled and died even further until l filed for Divorce on the grounds of Adultery.
It wasn’t easy, l became a single parent to our three daughters, all at junior school age at the time. I seldom went out, money was tight, and my work contract training to be a nurse came to an end after l sat my finals exams a few weeks later.
it was my Cousin who set me up to meet his site Forman at work, at a Halloween party, and persuaded me to go on the pretext that he and his wife were going, and they had bought me a ticket! They asked a mutual friend to babysit for me, and picked me up from home to make sure that l didn’t back out of going.
once at the venue, a man in his early 40s came over talking to John, who introduced me to his Site Forman, Bill, who was also going through a divorce from his wife on the grounds of her adultry. He had found indecent photographs of her posing in their home with a local Police officer/ known Romeo!
After several Dates with Bill, Christmas with him and my Girls spent in the Snowdonia Mountains, he produced an engagement ring on New Year’s Eve under the Christmas Tree, and asked me to Marry him!… I was shocked!
neither of us were free to remarry until our divorces were fully through, but after a long discussion, we decided to provisionally save the Day for 14 months later, to give time for him to sell his house, deal with the division of assets, and buy my Ex husband out regarding the property l was living in, thus reducing the amount of disruption for my daughters, who he spoilt rotten, both physically and emotionally.
Fast forward just over 35 years later, and Bill and l are still together, we went on to have two more daughters of our own, plus six Grandchildren, along with 7 step Grandchildren from my Daughters of my First marriage who Bill helped me Bring up!
As for my first Husband, he recently went through his 4th Divorce, he never was a ‘faithful one woman Guy’ and he certainly married a few Martini women along the way, Any Time, any way, anywhere, with anyone type of women!
At one point l had to restrict contact access to the Daughters we had had together, after one of them gave my Sister in law a demonstration of ‘what Daddy does to his Girlfriend during access visits’ at 6years old!