The sound of my husband chewing makes me want to kill myself.

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He's here now eating crisps. Anyone would think he's chewing through a fking concrete wall! And yyu should here the fucking racket when he's eating lettuce! I don't know who taught him to chew like that but OmFGOD I HATE IT!! . It makes me want to smash my face into a wall!
Swallowing noises too.

Anyone else hate the sound of their partner eating/swallowing?

And actually, @msmsmsms, joking aside but I think your husband is gaslighting you. Not good.

There is only one thing for it - LTB!!

I have this too with DH, I usually have to leave the room when he is eating or else I cover my ears with my hands.
Cereal is the worst followed by yogurt as he keeps swiping around the yogurt carton with the spoon trying to get every last bit. I give him the death stare and he slowly removes the spoon from his mouth and sets it on the table with the carton and slowly backs away from me. He can definitely sense the rage!

Sometime for good measure I scream "it's all fuc*ing gone" at him.

Oh dear!
I actually fear for these marrages with small but daily irritations like these. I remember years ago I saw some bloke on TV who said that if you want your marriage to last, get the little things right. His theory was that it's the little, everyday irritants that break down a relationship and that a marriage can withstand an affair, it can even survive the death of a child, but it can't survive the toothpaste cap being left off.
Think is, how somebody breaths or eats is going to be difficult to change.

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I have just had a vision of you doing that noise the beginning of Queens 'We will rock you'

I have misophonia so sounds really trigger me.

My parents eat with their mouth open and smack their lips. My mum is adamant she doesn't eat like that except when she eats her lips are smacking away.. my dad eats like a fucking hungry horse. It really pisses me off to the point I can't be around them whilst they eat because it sets me off.

DP is an okay eater except when I hear his spoon keep hitting his cereal bowl, absolute rage. He also gulps his drinks like a child it makes me wants to throat punch him there and then.

I’m the same msmsmsms! I didn’t have a problem with sounds until I met dp. He suffers really bad so I really struggle and become paranoid when eating so as not to annoy him and now I’ve become hyper aware of eating noises

I went to see an audiologist last year and I was telling him how much I hate the sound of people eating, breathing, scraping their plates and even blowing their noses or coughing.

I must have amused him with my irritation just by talking about it as he as laughing.

He told me that I have misophonia and said that at least there is a diagnosis for how I am feeling.

Well that's not much bloody comfort having a label for it. It doesn't help me when I hear someone eating nuts or an apple and I want to slap their face with a bag of shit. Or chewing gum - why the fuck do people have to chew that with their mouths open?

This thread is most therapeutic for me I must say.

@Flossyhair yes even seeing someone chew their chewing gum like Daisy the fucking cow sends me into a rage. Who and why would anyone even chew it like that! 😡.

It's bread, especially toast, that drives me nuts with my DH. He sounds like an asthmatic pig having an orgasm. I try and keep away when he's eating bread but he'll come and sit near me to be social. I won't say anything because it's my problem not his and he would be mega self conscious (which would be worse) but putting the radio on helps a bit. I only started noticing it a couple of years ago and we've been married over 40 years so something has changed in one of us.

Truth is, if you have misophonia, the problem is you. Really you should stay single but if you choose not to then ffs don't take your rage and control issues out on somebody else.

This. Could barely finish reading that sentence.

Genuine questions for misophones...
When YOU eat, what does it sound like to you

I wouldn't call it misophobia in a lot of cases though, it is a massive irritation though. I'm ok eating with my earphones in and am pretty sure I'm relatively quiet, but there must be noise coming out of them, otherwise all i can hear is me eating and i want to rip my ears off.

My dh is a spoon-teeth-scraper and it drives me mad. He's always done that, as well as noisy knife and fork on plates. My parents did not allow that at all, no slurping either and so on. My dh has develooped polyps in his nose and i think he can't breathe when he wats so opens his mouth more than he used to. I keep telling him to get them fixed, but i haven't told him how much the eating noises annoy me because - meh, i'm sure I'm annoying in other ways.

After 40 years you develop strategies to cope with the small things that can't/won't change.

To be fair, this is true. I’ve had this all my life (mid 50s) and only found it that it was a recognised “thing” a few years ago.

i know that wanting to batter DH to death with an iron bar isn’t his problem, of course it’s mine!!!
Doesn’t help the rage though 😡

Have you ever watched a reptile eat a bug? That's how DH eats toast, he sort of strikes at it.

The easiest way to diagnose misophonia is the use of the phrase "smacks their lips".
I can't imagine what that is like as I don't suffer from Misophonia

I know, why the hell can't they chew gum with their mouths closed.

And I hate people that say 'Mmmmm' while they eat and smack their chops.

Peanuts are the worst for me, absolute worst. Crunch those fuckers quietly.

I get angry just imagining it.

YABU to allow it to make you want to kill yourself. It should make you want to kill him, like any normal person.

Oh dear god, I hate the sounds of people eating...

It's dreadful. I used to come out in a cold sweat when my sister said it. I used to hide the boxes of Cup A Soup if I could when she came home for visits.

I don't have the problem on aircraft fortunately as am in very proximity to the person sitting next to me. The general noise of flying must mask the problem I suppose.

If I was PM I would pass a law that people had to suck crisps rather than crunch them

I can hear OH slurping his tea from outer space. I could hurl furniture at him as he does it. I actually feel myself getting more and more irritated as I await each noisy slurp

I'm absolutely fine with my own eating nosies as long as its not something crunchy in a quiet space

I think its men with large echoy mouths that in my mind turn into HUGE echoey caverns

I feel your pain. Mine has a clicking jaw. Considering a new patio...

The sneezers made me laugh. My brother, father and I share a massive sneeze and deafening nose blowing. Think it's genetic.

Oh god, yes! I can't abide the sounds of eating, slurping etc. But I think the problem is mine, not his. I turn the extractor fan on and/or put the TV on when we're eating, to distract me from the eating noises.

Sometimes I quietly wait till he's finished before I start to eat my own meal, as I find I can't feel relaxed enough to eat if I'm stressing over the noises.

It was many decades before I realised (from reading a similar thread to this one on MN, about 10 years ago) that I'm the one with the problem. Knowing that it's me has helped me to control my responses and I no longer say anything to DH about the slurping and sloshing and slobbering sucking and chewing noises! I breathe calmly and try to distract myself.

YABU