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The sound of my husband chewing makes me want to kill myself.

198 replies

BarnabyRocks · 22/07/2022 21:25

He's here now eating crisps. Anyone would think he's chewing through a fking concrete wall! And yyu should here the fucking racket when he's eating lettuce! I don't know who taught him to chew like that but OmFGOD I HATE IT!! . It makes me want to smash my face into a wall!
Swallowing noises too.

Anyone else hate the sound of their partner eating/swallowing?

OP posts:
Mother87 · 23/07/2022 00:01

Another misophone here... it's fkng grim out there

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 23/07/2022 00:05

My ex husband chewed loudly while eating, refused to speak at all at the table and had a blank expression on his face like a sheep throughout the meal. It was incredibly embarrassing when we had people round for dinner.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 23/07/2022 00:06

This is one of the main reasons why I think society is too hung up on things like murder.

Noisy eaters, and completely oblivious morons on the road. It should be absolutely legal for decent people to perform a 'citizens termination' on both provided it's carried out within 15 minutes of the offence taking place. In fact, I'd go as far to spend public money on a new range of 'Star Wars' satellites that can detect the sound of a cereal bowl being rattled, or some hairdresser pootling the wrong way down a one-way street in her Fiat 500 Pikachu Edition, track them, and instantaneously vaporise them. Everyone wins. Well, except anyone who was booked in for a cut and colour I suppose.

blibblibs · 23/07/2022 00:06

The very worst is pizza, all those crunchy crusts.
Pizza night is usually cause I can't be arsed to cook night so we don't eat together those nights. DH is very good though and knows when I've reached my limit and will remove himself and the offending food stuff.

Happymum12345 · 23/07/2022 00:20

My dh bites the metal fork when he eats. We eat separately. I’m surprised he has any teeth left!

Drevere · 23/07/2022 00:22

I have Misophonia too. I can't tolerate many noises some of them being chewing, drinking (why on movies and shows when someone drinks do we need to hear the glug, glug, gulp so clearly when we can see what they're doing?! It's an unrealistically louder sound than most people!!), the dogs drinking, the dogs chewing/licking themselves, people sniffing (BLOW YOUR NOSE!!!), chip packets crinkling, popcorn eating and shuffling in theatres, people loudly sucking their fingers when eating things like wings or ribs...etc.. New noises bother me daily...

MrsGarveyTheSecond · 23/07/2022 00:35

JuniorTiger · 22/07/2022 22:06

Omg an ex used to dunk his bread in to soup, suck the soup off then dunk the same bread in again before eating it. Just why? Eat it on the first dunk you fucking pig man 🐖

I could feel my heart race and palms sweat at the swallowing noise - I had to leave the room to stop me smacking him really hard in the face

I read that as 'dunking his beard into soup'

I'm tired 🤣

LadyVictoriaSponge · 23/07/2022 00:37

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 23/07/2022 00:06

This is one of the main reasons why I think society is too hung up on things like murder.

Noisy eaters, and completely oblivious morons on the road. It should be absolutely legal for decent people to perform a 'citizens termination' on both provided it's carried out within 15 minutes of the offence taking place. In fact, I'd go as far to spend public money on a new range of 'Star Wars' satellites that can detect the sound of a cereal bowl being rattled, or some hairdresser pootling the wrong way down a one-way street in her Fiat 500 Pikachu Edition, track them, and instantaneously vaporise them. Everyone wins. Well, except anyone who was booked in for a cut and colour I suppose.

Best and funniest post I have read in a long time on mumsnet!

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 23/07/2022 00:57

Just pondering the OP's original statement -

I wonder if there actually is a documented case of someone committing suicide because of misophonia overload?

You sometimes read things about old couples, usually in Japan, where she died of something or other 20 years ago, and he was so heartbroken that he couldn't bare to part with her corpse, so he's been going out golfing with her "weekend at Bernie's" style every Tuesday afternoon for the past two decades.

Maybe somewhere in China, some poor woman had just had enough of her husband's noisy eating, and seeing no way out, flung herself from the roof of a high-rise tower block or something. Maybe some old man in Uzbekistan couldn't quite face the finality of doing himself in, but thanks to a noisy eater wife he blew out his own eardrums with an industrial air compressor just to get some much longed for peace and quiet.

Do you get Tinnitus if you blow out your own ear drums?
Is there an ear, nose, and throat specialist on the board who might know? Is there anyone on the board who has done this to themselves and been left with a permanent sensation of boooooooooweeeeeeeeeeeebooooooooopoooooopoooooooop inside their skull as a result?

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 23/07/2022 01:05

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 23/07/2022 00:06

This is one of the main reasons why I think society is too hung up on things like murder.

Noisy eaters, and completely oblivious morons on the road. It should be absolutely legal for decent people to perform a 'citizens termination' on both provided it's carried out within 15 minutes of the offence taking place. In fact, I'd go as far to spend public money on a new range of 'Star Wars' satellites that can detect the sound of a cereal bowl being rattled, or some hairdresser pootling the wrong way down a one-way street in her Fiat 500 Pikachu Edition, track them, and instantaneously vaporise them. Everyone wins. Well, except anyone who was booked in for a cut and colour I suppose.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Piratical · 23/07/2022 01:34

Ah, misophonia. There be no rage like misophonia induced rage 😤

NeverDropYourMooncup · 23/07/2022 01:38

Might not have been suicides, but pretty sure there's been a lot of domestic violence where people have fixated upon the fact the other person eats and might actually look relaxed and happy and used that as the focus for their rage.

After all, claiming misphonia and graphically describing how disgusting your spouse was would be a great excuse for finally misjudging how much to choke her by, wouldn't it?

AlrightyThen32 · 23/07/2022 01:43

My dp slurping a brew is what sets my teeth on edge. I've never heard anyone drink so loud in my life 😫

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 23/07/2022 02:06

Mother87 · 23/07/2022 00:01

Another misophone here... it's fkng grim out there

YOU ARE ALL MY PEOPLE. I have found you. Thank you. Down with the food crunchers and the arrhythmic snorers!

ThePumpkinPatch · 23/07/2022 03:18

dreammattemousse · 22/07/2022 21:45

I eat really loudly
My sister can barely be next to me when I eat mowahahahahahhaha
Sorry not sorry
😂😂😂

Close your mouth when you're chewing! Hmm

ThePumpkinPatch · 23/07/2022 03:20

Amei · 22/07/2022 22:02

This thread has made my night! My boyfriend licks/sucks his thumb and first two fingers after every meal / snack, even if he's not touched the food with them.

I can't explain the anger I feel inside each and every time.

Is he 2? Confused

ThePumpkinPatch · 23/07/2022 03:22

FizzyStream · 22/07/2022 22:24

Mine was just eating an ice cream on the sofa next to me. I nearly murdered him. I've never known anyone take so bloody long or make so much noise eating a cone!

This would give me the absolute ick. I could never be sexually attracted to him again

ThePumpkinPatch · 23/07/2022 03:24

@MrsBobBlackadder Nope! This would give me the unending ICK

ThePumpkinPatch · 23/07/2022 03:26

DoElephantsHaveWrinkles · 22/07/2022 23:21

I've got this too.

When I was a child I hated hearing my dad eat. He has a clicky jaw and it was horrible. Click click click click click.

My husband, daughter and youngest son are fine but my oldest son goes through stages of making the worst "wet" type noises when he eats.
I absolutely hate it. It makes my skin crawl and I agree about wanting to rip my ears off.
It's a really strange uncomfortable feeling, even reading and thinking about it now is making me feel weird.

Don't you tell him to chew with his mouth closed??

Chihuahuass · 23/07/2022 05:55

Pinkkahori - mine too. Was just coming on to say dh eating boiled egg. It’s the most gross thing in the world. I leave the room.

hesbeen2021 · 23/07/2022 06:31

I never knew what it was called until a few years ago, thought I was unique!
Mine is so bad that I will often end up in tears, even reading this is setting me off. It started as a child when I would have feelings of nausea and upset sitting at the dinner table, and my DF eating an orange would make me have to leave a room. He would sort of nibble little bits of orange peel into a triangle shape then slowly eat it after the orange......
I now can't actually share meals with anyone, even my lovely DD and GS, who don't eat noisily but they are still eating iyswim
Mine is also people walking on carpet with bare feet and the sight of people walking on sand makes me want to throw up. I'm great fun on holiday

Tanfastic · 23/07/2022 06:34

MrsGarveyTheSecond · 22/07/2022 21:33

The sound of my husband breathing makes me feel the same way to be honest

😂 not sure this was supposed to make me laugh.

msmsmsms · 23/07/2022 10:26

Misophonia is also horrible for the other person in a relationship. My husband has it and I don't enjoy food when we're eating together because I have to concentrate on eating as quickly and quietly as possible or else I have to endure a death stare or him storming off. I don't normally eat with my mouth open or anything like that, and I haven't changed the way I eat since we got together, but something flipped at some point and now he can't stand me when I'm eating, or sometimes even just breathing. Like the noise of me just existing makes the person I love want to kill me. I can see it in his eyes. It's awful.

And now I have it too. Started off that I'd get stressed if we were out together and I could hear someone eating noisily because I knew it would be stressing him out. Then that developed into getting stressed by noisy eating even if he wasn't there. And now I hate the sound of him eating too!

TheWayoftheLeaf · 23/07/2022 10:30

Never been bothered by DP. But me and my sister glare at eachother through every meal as each others chewing winds us both up

UnnecessaryFennel · 23/07/2022 10:33

Pegasushaswings · 22/07/2022 21:33

Misophonia! I can’t bear the sound of anyone eating, when my husband eats chicken he sounds like it’s sticking to his teeth, drives me mad!

My DH has this as well! Oh my god I thought it was just him. It drives me absolutely insane.