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That this really pisses me off every single day?

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JimmyHillsChin · 22/07/2022 20:03

When my DH and I first got together, he used to text me when I was in work to ask what knickers I was wearing. Back then, in the honeymoon phase it was quite sexy and I’d reply telling him. Fast forward ten years; we’re now married and have two young DCs. The underwear thing lost it’s novelty for me about 9.5 years ago but he still asks me. I hate it, he knows I hate it, but he still asks. We’re in our 40s FFS!! So AIBU and this is just a harmless little thing and I shouldn’t let it wind me up or AINBU and I’m justified in it being annoying?

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JimmyHillsChin · 23/07/2022 11:21

pinkyredrose · 23/07/2022 09:36

OP he sounds grim. Does he also grab bits of your body and dry hump your leg?

Haha pretty much yes!!
About four years ago he saw a meme on Instagram that read something like “if he doesn’t dry hump you in the kitchen, is he the man for you?” And he recites it fairly regularly and thinks it’s hilarious.

I’m 44, breastfeeding, exhausted, probably peri menopausal and our eldest DC is very difficult (possible ODD - awaiting official diagnosis), so my state of mind isn’t great. Things I initially thought were funny I then tolerated for a while but he’s known for years that I don’t like the whole asking about knickers business. For those that haven’t read the thread he doesn’t text it anymore, I haven’t been back to work since the DC. It’s said in person. I don’t reply and he says “oh give me something for goodness sake”. Re the kissing, when I refuse he says “can’t a man kiss his wife?”

Yes I’ve got the ick, very much so! I have for years. But leaving him isn’t that easy with DC the age they are.

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caringcarer · 23/07/2022 11:43

I love the idea to send a link of nice bras and pants sets you would like. I would have never thought of that. Just shows why MN is so useful.

jojobacandy · 23/07/2022 13:16

I'm still in my cotton black maternity pants. My youngest is 9yo. If this was me at least I could cut and paste the answer 😂

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/07/2022 14:53

It’s said in person. I don’t reply and he says “oh give me something for goodness sake”.

I'd give him divorce papers.

Which you will in time. I know the DC are small but they bigger quickly. Make plans, get legal advice, tell trusted people. And stop having any sexual contact you don't want.

Hrpuffnstuff1 · 23/07/2022 15:17

JimmyHillsChin · 23/07/2022 11:04

I told him. Yesterday! We haven’t spoken since.

Now, where’s re lasagne…? 🤣

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😂
I hear Charlie Bigham's Lasagne isn't bad for a ready meal.

Well, he knew, hence the nattering and overt flirting. Now you've finally told him. He has to make a decision. Once the intimacy stops the relationship is in the exit lounge for a destination called divorce.

SheeplessAndCounting · 27/07/2022 16:11

JimmyHillsChin · 22/07/2022 20:03

When my DH and I first got together, he used to text me when I was in work to ask what knickers I was wearing. Back then, in the honeymoon phase it was quite sexy and I’d reply telling him. Fast forward ten years; we’re now married and have two young DCs. The underwear thing lost it’s novelty for me about 9.5 years ago but he still asks me. I hate it, he knows I hate it, but he still asks. We’re in our 40s FFS!! So AIBU and this is just a harmless little thing and I shouldn’t let it wind me up or AINBU and I’m justified in it being annoying?

I an amazed this didn't give you the ick before you became a couple. 😬🤢

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