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Original poster

That this really pisses me off every single day?

181 replies

JimmyHillsChin · 22/07/2022 20:03

When my DH and I first got together, he used to text me when I was in work to ask what knickers I was wearing. Back then, in the honeymoon phase it was quite sexy and I’d reply telling him. Fast forward ten years; we’re now married and have two young DCs. The underwear thing lost it’s novelty for me about 9.5 years ago but he still asks me. I hate it, he knows I hate it, but he still asks. We’re in our 40s FFS!! So AIBU and this is just a harmless little thing and I shouldn’t let it wind me up or AINBU and I’m justified in it being annoying?

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Topgub · 22/07/2022 21:31

Block his number

HopelesslyOptimistic · 22/07/2022 21:33

Tell him your not wearing any!

HoobleDooble · 22/07/2022 21:34

The ones with a gap between the material and the elastic and a russet gusset where my Fanny's bleached the dye out of them.

pastaandpesto · 22/07/2022 21:35

I've just seen your update that he does this on front of the children.

What the fuck is he thinking? That is hugely inappropriate. Just gross.

Dunnoburt · 22/07/2022 21:38

Russet gusset! Is that what THAT is! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

scoobycute · 22/07/2022 21:40

Waiting for the "Divorce him now! He doesn't respect your wishes!! He's a piece of shit!" Comments

Some not far off

CallOnMe · 22/07/2022 21:41

Eww 🤢

The texts are quite cute if not a bit annoying but saying it in person especially in front of the DCs is just wrong.

Just tell him It’s none of his business.

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JimmyHillsChin · 22/07/2022 21:43

In all honesty this is one relatively minor thing of hundreds of other things he does.

To the PP who asked: No he is not my Mr Darcy anymore.

He insists on “tongues in” (he actually calls it that!!!!!) kisses which makes me want to stick a fork in his face.

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Sartre · 22/07/2022 21:44

Is he actually being serious or is it a bit of a joke at this stage? Something he’s just doing habitually as a sort of in joke like ‘lovely bit of squirrel’ on Friday Night Dinner? He can’t actually be serious when he asks after a decade, surely… He probably knows what knickers you’re wearing anyway!

Topgub · 22/07/2022 21:44

@JimmyHillsChin

Why are you tolerating it?

Watchkeys · 22/07/2022 21:45

JimmyHillsChin · 22/07/2022 21:43

In all honesty this is one relatively minor thing of hundreds of other things he does.

To the PP who asked: No he is not my Mr Darcy anymore.

He insists on “tongues in” (he actually calls it that!!!!!) kisses which makes me want to stick a fork in his face.

Are you accepting him putting his tongue into your mouth when you don't want him to?

Why?

RicherThanYew · 22/07/2022 21:46

You could really get his blood pumping and say you're not wearing any... then when he asks for further details you tell him that your twinklecave is having an air out because you've got LDF (long day fanny).

figmaofmyimagination · 22/07/2022 21:47

JimmyHillsChin · 22/07/2022 21:31

Since DC mine are pretty much too!! I have two sorts of black comfy shorts styles that I wear. No lacy thongs for me anymore 😳

BTW he doesn’t text me anymore, he asks me in person. Usually in front of the DC which infuriates me even more!

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When you’ve asked him to stop?
And in front of your KIDS??

What the actual fuck??

OldFan · 22/07/2022 21:56

YANBU, I would see it as someone trying to get me to wear sexy stuff rather than what's comfortable. As 'big black pants' presumably isn't the right answer but would be the answer most times. Varied only by 'big white pants' cos that was all that was in Peacock's last time I went.

adorablecat · 22/07/2022 21:57

'None of your business, because you won't be getting inside them ever again, you intolerable bore.'

OldFan · 22/07/2022 21:58

BTW he doesn’t text me anymore, he asks me in person. Usually in front of the DC which infuriates me even more!

@JimmyHillsChin Ewwwww. Did you tell him that wasn't ok (though of course he must know) but he's done it again? Sad

OldFan · 22/07/2022 22:00

Feel free to go into any of the other bollox he's doing. x Sad

DeanStockwelll · 22/07/2022 22:00

wherearebeefandonioncrisps · 22/07/2022 20:22

Yep... tell him that your Sloggi Maxi Briefs are keeping the chill off your kidneys ( thanks mum!)

They are the best knickers !

Beefilm · 22/07/2022 22:00

Jesus! I'd have divorced him 9 years 11 months ago.

SpaceFarce · 22/07/2022 22:00

JimmyHillsChin · 22/07/2022 21:43

In all honesty this is one relatively minor thing of hundreds of other things he does.

To the PP who asked: No he is not my Mr Darcy anymore.

He insists on “tongues in” (he actually calls it that!!!!!) kisses which makes me want to stick a fork in his face.

I think I’d just let him go at this point to be honest. You sound like you hate him and you both deserve better than that.

Silverswirl · 22/07/2022 22:02

God I love mumsnet. You really do hear it all 🤣 People are so bizarre and you would never know.
Just ignore it although I have to question why he is continuing to do something you have stated you really don’t find sexy and don’t want. Screams of male entitlement to sex to me.

stuntbubbles · 22/07/2022 22:17

Bury him under patio and stick a rotary dryer on top, pegged with your finest saggy M&S big knickers.

Ahwell123 · 22/07/2022 22:19

@JimmyHillsChin You have the ick.

Which is understandable. "Tongues in" is the worst thing I've ever heard

In all seriousness life is too short to be with someone you find this annoying, but I know it feels impossible to imagine how to do it when yo have DC. I'm in the same position

Macaroni1924 · 22/07/2022 22:27

At this stage in the game I think it’s nice her is carrying it on a wee tradition from ur early days. My DH and I are always joking so I’d have a stock of Bridget jones memes or bug fat men in pants to send to him if it was me.

The tongues in thing is gross my dh would say something stupid like that as a joke but wouldn’t be a repeated offence.

I would be flattered he still thinks of u this way and wants to keep the spark alive. Maybe this is his way…

Herejustforthisone · 22/07/2022 22:28

Your husband makes my flesh creep.